What is Your Ideal Relationship?

[Kai99]

I try not to get too specific on personality traits. I'm not perfect and I shouldn't expect the person to be perfect for me as well. But I want someone who is asexual and male. The relationship doesn't have to be romantic, but I want some form of commitment. I need to know if I have to move than he must move with me, and I have to do the same with him. I don't know if I like cuddling or not, but some form of physical intimacy every now and and than would be preferred. I would like little kisses on the cheek or forehead every now and than too. And I want to be able to show him some affection. I don't think I want someone who hates all psychical contact. If I love you, I want to be able to express it in some ways whether it be out of the blue hugs or a quick snuggle. I would hope that he has his own hobbies and I have mind, and that we respect each other's alone time. I would love to be able to make him laugh too so similar sense of humor would be great.

 

Also this is one of those not needed but it would be a huge plus, but if he doesn't watch porn. The last thing I want is having to be careful while he is on the computer because I might just catch him watching porn. 

[Fluffy Dragon]

my ideal relationship is one where my partner. .isnt clingy and touchy and kissy and huggy (I'm sapioromantic leaning towards Aromantic) my partner has a depth I can see through there eyes, a storm to battle my own.. A relationship with honesty, where we fight our demons together... Where we can have an intellectual conversations and have passion talks.. A relationship where we can be low and help each other... A relationship where my partner wont save me but watch me save myself..that is a perfect relationship

[Chihiro]

My ideal relationship is one where I get what I want from a friend without me telling them or asking them. Yeah, they are mind readers lol.

 

[russtopher]

[Strawberry ice cream]

Deep platonic friendship with male.Not living together but near would be fine. I need a lot of time and space for myself.

[Ammonite]

being affectionate with someone, being really close friends, making each other laugh and feeling comfortable enough to be honest and open up to one another. and cuddles.

[Guest]

a cat

[Kittyxiii]

My ideal relationship:

- Most importantly, someone who is kind, honest and open.

- We'd have a few shared interests, like books or astronomy, but we'd be able to give each other space to do our own thing as well.

- Someone to talk with about anything and everything, someone to sit in comfortable silence with, someone to curl up under a blanket with in the winter. Maybe a hug now and then, but nothing further.

- Someone who can put up with me zoning out and living in my own world for days on end as I work out plot points and character arcs

- Gender isn't important, we may or may not live together.

- Basically a talking cat would do fine

[PHOENIX97]

Basically a platonic relationship. Like let's get to know each other and have fun with it.  Can just watch tv have a movie marathon and cuddle each other to oblivion. And if anyone ever had someone who's pushed to change you. That can't happen! Love me as I am.

[KayleeBear]

I want a person who will accept me and my limitations, someone that understands I can't clean the house or cook dinner if I have been working that day. Someone who understands my disability.

 

Someone who likes cuddling on the couch but doesnt want to do anything sexual after that, the occassional peck on the cheek is ok. Someone who will live in the same house but not want to sleep on top of me.

 

Someone who loves dogs and cats. Someone who loves SciFi and geeks out over Doctor Who, Harry Potter, Star Wars, Star Trek and Firefly.

 

I don't care about gender but I don't want someone who will expect sexual or romantic times, that ain't me.

[Slayerin96]

I'm a girl and I'm aromantic. My ideal future (relationship-wise) is me, my queerplatonic life partner and two cats ^_^. 

 

Now, my queerplatonic partner could be either a he or a she, with several differences. A relationship with a boy would also involve sex (I'm straight and demisexual), whereas one with a girl would not (lesbian sex is a hard limit for me, so the woman should be asexual)

 

The partner does NOT necessarily have to be aromantic since there are a few conditions a person must meet in order for me to get to love him/her (in my own way). 

 

-when I explain my aromanticism  to them, s/he must understand, accept and believe me!

-I need us to be best friends in the first place (and obviously, such a bond only forms in time) 

-if they're not aromantics, they must NOT be limerent 

 

I don't want children under any circumstances, Another hard limit for me. I've recently lost the queerplatonic partner of my dreams due to lack of compatibility in this aspect., which is hurtful. He told me he wants to have children one day and came to the conclusion that he couldn't possibly imagine life without them. I realised that if we were hypothetically in a partnership, I would be a roadblock to him and he would suffer. I can't do this to him. We remained best friends because I want the best for him whether this includes my being his life partner or not because I love him tremendously. 

[IceHurricane]

My ideal relationship is sorta complicated and totally unrealistic. 

 

 

 

I want someone to be friends with. I want someone to get me out of the house and do exciting things with me. Go to movies and restaurants and bowling and hiking and bike riding and all that fun stuff. I want someone exciting. I want to try new things, but I don't want to do it alone. That includes things in the bedroom. I'm not sexually attracted to anyone, but I still would like to have sex. I actually do like sex. And I want to try new things.

 

I don't need an emotional or romantic connection either. I'm aromantic. I don't need kisses or cuddles or hugs or anything physical besides sex. I don't need emotional comforting. The thing is, I don't really like conversations at all. I'm not much of a listener. I get bored with conversations easily, which is why I like forums. I can state my opinion, then leave. I honestly don't give a shit about anything people have to say unless I specifically asked for your advice or opinion. So minimal talking would be ideal. No complaining, no coming to me when something good happens, no telling me about your day. I don't care. And I don't want to have to pretend to care.

 

And I have to live alone and sleep alone. They can come over and we can bang and hang out but I have to sleep alone. I don't do cuddling or any sort of physical contact. I just feel trapped, I don't gain anything from it. So no, don't sleep in the same bed with me. You can sleep on the couch or I'll have a guest room or something. No sharing bed. 

 

 

 

So I basically want a friends with benefits type thing. But more friends than benefits. Actually, less friends too. I just want to use someone to use for my own enjoyment. I just want a companion to live my life to the fullest with. 

 

 

I think I'm better off being alone. I'm too much of an asshole to be with someone. 

[Zara_19]

Ideal relationship? Damn. 

I'm not one of those romantic people, so anything quite practical would be my ideal. 

Maybe a few cuddles or kisses would do but other than that, um.

1) Separate bedrooms!

2) Talking late into the night, even once in a blue moon would be good :v

3) Being more like, idk. Really good friends?

4) To be able to sit in silence without feeling awkward. 

5) Maybe having some mutual interests and

6) The person should be able to get my sarcastic humour.

 

 

Maybe I ask for too much :/

[ocrea]

I've pondered this quite a few times.

 

Currently, all I can say is an arrangement where no sex is involved. I'd like a deep, intimate connection though. Perhaps maybe even living together but still retaining our independence. 
 

I'm not sure how great of a partner I would be. I have this idea that no one would put up with me if they weren't getting sex from me, but it might be different with a fellow ace. I'm not holding out much hope of finding this sort of relationship, however. Good thing is, I'm OK at being alone more than most people I know. Still, the thought of never having a partner is quite daunting to say the least. 

[Uhhhh]

One or two deep platonic friendship(s) built on shared values and emotional maturity. They would be affectionate and committed, for instance, we would have anniversaries, make plans together, have some kind of understanding between us in terms of our relationship, making it slightly more formal than a best-friendship; we would hold hands and cuddle, and that's about it. We'd never tire of talking or being around one another, but we would be fiercely independent and into our own lives, careers, and relationships. I would be fine with a long distance relationship, I think, but then eventually I'd probably miss that person too much and would want to figure out a way to see them more. But my primary partner (my wife) and our family would get the lion's share of our time and energy. Since spirituality is not something I share with my wife, though, I think I would really like for my QPP to be spiritual and share that with me.

[Guest]

My ideal relationship, hmmm... I can talk on architecture, arts, theatre, literature, philosophy, new ideas etc. We can also cuddle, sit in beautiful places. Sex is very important element of my dreams, it's not portrayed as in porns or media, it's just normal sex of two people loving each others. Sometimes I can imagine me and my crush start sexual life after marriage.

[Euna]

I think that my ideal relationship would be fairly similar to a conventional monogamous marriage, just without the sex. 

Same or compatible beliefs and interests would be really important.  And yes, that includes late-night Star Trek marathons. 

Mutual respect and acceptance would be high priorities as well.  (It should go without saying.)

[JayDee1212]

Great question. 

-although I consider myself biroromantic, my ideal relationship would be with a man, preferably low-libidoed or asexual. I would also prefer to have only one romantic partner who I am fully committed to and vice versa, who will eventually live with me an spend a lot of time with me.

-Ideally I would like someone comfortable with touching, hugging, hand holding, kissing, etc.

-Someone attractive to me physically and emotionally

-Someone who understands that I do not desire sex, and is understanding of the infrequency 

-Someone who is kind, interesting to talk to, and has a lot of my interests 

-I could see myself with no kids or one or two adopted children. I'll have to see where I'm at emotionally and financially in the future.

[Machine_Artificia]

My ideal relationship is pretty much the same as its always been since I was little.

 

Be with someone who does not want to live with me, but would live by me.

 

I can flirt with and go to events with and we can travel together, but not having sex with (if I have to by this person, sex 1-5 times per year) and just have fun with each other.

 

Who knows about programming, computers, and hacking too. And video games!

 

And who does not make me feel bad about being tall (I am 5'10) not enjoying dressing up (I will if I have to), and nags me to be someone I am not, and who also likes being alone. A nice person who likes dark humor, but has a good heart.

 

One that is not 'competing' with me constantly. This happens quite often.

 

Like if we go to an arcade and I keep winning, I actually had my last date - a man got angry and red in the face because I was winning so much. At a fairly broken down arcade. And I wasn't even keeping score, I was just playing video games and he kept telling me I won each time and hit the side of the batman machine for racing. It was really weird. 

 

Tall order. Will I ever get this? Likelihood is against me. Attach to this: I don't want kids - narrows down dating pool by probably billions of people lol. 

 

But that is what I have always wanted all the same!

[C8H7N3O2]

I am Biromantic Ace and my ideal relationship would be something that started out as a friendship. For me that is the most important. I would prefer it to be with another ace person, someone that is trusting and understanding of the fact that we don't have to spend every waking second together for it to be a committed relationship. It would be nice to live close to this person so we can spend time together, but I don't think I'd want to live with them unless we were really close.. and maybe not even then. I wouldn't mind the idea of being in a poly relationship but it would have to be something we would definitely work on. We would have to have lots in common and be able to have fun when we want but also chill out together. Wouldn't want someone too clingy but I would definitely like to be with a cuddler.

 

i would also love to have a close knit group of friends. They don't have to be ace, but they do need to be understanding. 

[Malicai]

My ideal relationship would be someone loving,caring and understanding

 

they must love pets!  Dogs and cats are a must. Some who enjoys adventuring somewhere new once a week, could be a hike into the mountains or a drive to a city we've never seen. Someone who likes to cuddle.  Someone to challenge me, to help make me a better person.  a gental soul who doesn't hit for any reason (past abuse still haunts me). Enjoys video games and board games and doesn't mind when I get a little to competitive. 

 

I don't mind an open relationship if they're sexual and are looking to satisfy themselves. I just want someone to be open with me and have nothing to hide.  Communication is important. 

 

Someone who works with me. Works with me to solve their, my and our problems. Someone who celebrates victories and learns from defeats. 

 

Manners have always been a plus with me.

 

I'm very lucky to have someone meeting a majority of what I have written.  she means the world to me. 

[discotree]

As an aro/ace, my dream would be to meet someone who wants to be close to me, share everything like romantic couples do, but without making any commitments (that scares me a lot). I like to have free time on my own so I want someone who's not too clingy. 

[Delusory]

Someone for whom I will be the most important person, top priority. Who sees the good in me. Who wants a connection. Kind, understanding, patient. Trustworthy and trusting. Affectionate, likes physical contact. Likes to take care of me and to be taken care of. Preferably an introvert as I find the company of extroverts to be too overwhelming. Should understand my desire for freedom and space and my need to spend a lot of time alone.

 

Preferably vegetarian. 

 

Someone who doesn't mind me travelling by myself, for longer periods of time. I prefer the relationship to be part time long distance, with periods of time spent together / separate. This way we would avoid boredom and irritation with one another. 

 

Should like animals. 

 

Children are out of the question. 

 

I'm not opposed to the idea of an open relationship.

[Nova_Wild]

I'm still trying to grasp the concept of romantic relationships, so I guess to me it would be like an extremely close friendship where we can fully trust each other and share our deepest thoughts without making each other uncomfortable. We should also be able to make each other laugh on a regular basis. I'm an adventurous person, so I'd love it if my partner was up to new experiences and improvising whenever we went out.

No sex, of course, but lots and lots of cuddles! I'd still need my personal space, though, so we'd probably need separate bedrooms if we shared a living space. I'd also prefer if my partner was asexual, but if they weren't, I wouldn't mind an open relationship where they had a sexual partner.

[Just Believe]

My ideal relationship would be to have one companion who means the world to me and who I mean the world to. To live as somewhere between a couple for all intents and purposes, only taking out the sexual element, and a housemate. And i don't want to see them naked and they wont see me naked either! I don't think I could share a bed with someone though!!

[Brighterside]

My ideal relationship would basically be a carbon copy of a traditional man/woman monogamous relationship but without the sex. Marriage and having kids are something I really hound after. It'd also have to include mutual respect and we'd both have to bear somewhat similar views and interests. My ideal partner would also have to be alright with my enormous manga collection.

[Hermit Advocate]

A private compound of aro/aces where we can all hang out together and be friends with absolutely 0% chance of anything romantic or sexual happening. I just hope no one is allergic to cats. 

[M00SE]

I just want a nice, intellectual woman I can make Chinese food for. I like to keep milady well fed and well read, meaning all we'll do is eat, read manga and snuggle on the couch binge watching anime. Hopefully I can finally find someone who's up for dealing with a manic depressive moosechild. Lol  Its hard work but your walls will never be blank--forever neon that nasty beige has got to go. Lolol I like a lady with a sense of humor, dry...a Monty-Python sort of whitty. These are my terms of service--                  Asexual (duh) no 3rd base no touchy, snuggles are allowed but trust must be established prior, dont EVER drink the last Pepsi in the fridge, gotta be female, you have to tolerate a grown woman screaming 'WE....ARE THE CRYSTAL GEMS!..' every time Steven Universe comes on, if you cheat on me youre outta here no exceptions..Marriage horrifies me but I might someday, and lastly I hope youre 420 friendly..just sayin it'll happen.

[Sea Lemon]

My ideal seems to change quite a lot, probably because I'm more comfortable with most aspects of relationships in theory than in practice, and I only seem to realise that I do/don't like things after I've actually tried them.

- I think that for a long-term partner, I'd want a fairly easy-going, entirely platonic close friend type of relationship - more like a housemate than a conventional boyfriend/girlfriend (I'm not sure if gender would matter, or whether the relationship would need to be monogamous).

- Maybe a little bit of physical affection, but they'd have to be ok with my boundaries potentially changing.

- Someone with some similar interests to me (especially films, books, music etc, because those 3 things play a big part in my life), and a similar sense of humour. 

- Separate beds/bedrooms would be a must because whilst sharing is nice once in a while, it gets overwhelming and suffocating if it's a permanent thing. 

- They'd also have to be willing to look after a cat/dog/other adorable pet with me

[in.visible]

I'd love someone who's outgoing, because I am not. Someone who makes me dare things. Someone you can do separate things together and not feel awkward. Someone to sit on a rooftop with and look over the city. At night, in the morning. Someone who's willing to go to the weirdest places because they're great photo ops. Someone who loves and does art, someone who's intelligent. Someone who kicks my ass when depressions pulls me under and takes me in their arms when I can't take it anymore.

 

That alone makes me stay alone because it's probably unrealistic as hell, besides the usual yadayada of honesty, loyalty etc... However, over the years it's become less a description of guys... like, idc if there's an attractive woman on a skateboard passing me by, I'll look at her all the same. Or non-binary, f.e. Outstanding people in my eyes. It has become more of a "don't be a prick.".