R_1 Posted October 21, 2016 Share Posted October 21, 2016 I'm not really doing it for myself, but to hopefully let some few knows just to avoid potential possibility of them getting the wrong idea about me. I'm practically am stuck in University for a few more years with the same people, and some of those I like. So.... That's all. Not looking for congrats or anything because well, I have said I'm not doing this for myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Snao Cone Posted October 21, 2016 Share Posted October 21, 2016 I've brought it up casually with people. I'd rather they figure it out (or believe they figured it out) through their own deducing. Link to post Share on other sites
R_1 Posted October 21, 2016 Author Share Posted October 21, 2016 I've brought it up casually with people. I'd rather they figure it out (or believe they figured it out) through their own deducing. I know what you're saying, but that's really not something that should be expected. Especially for a male like me. So far, the ones that I brought it up to, none of the women are surprised one bit. Almost as if they had some hints of some sort. Link to post Share on other sites
Snao Cone Posted October 21, 2016 Share Posted October 21, 2016 You're right, in my case it's been with people who have known me a long time. I guess when it's said to prepare for the future than make sense of the past, it's a much harder topic to bring up, especially for men. Congrats on getting it out there Link to post Share on other sites
ChaoswithCake Posted October 21, 2016 Share Posted October 21, 2016 Honestly, I find it really easy to come out casually. Although, when I do, it is usually a fresher relationship and I always make sure they are LGBT or accepting of it before I do so. A simple "well I'm ace so..." or "I'm actually asexual." dropped in an appropriate conversation usually works for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Scottthespy Posted October 21, 2016 Share Posted October 21, 2016 Hey, I do the same thing! Casually mention it for the sake of avoiding awkward...though I also do it to spread awareness of the idea. I find it works really well when I just start with 'oh, I'm not into that' when some one brings something up, then let them lead through the questions. Also helps to STAY casual, calm, cheerful. Confident but not defensive. Hope this goes well for you, best of luck! Link to post Share on other sites
mikeman7918 Posted October 21, 2016 Share Posted October 21, 2016 Coming out casually works very well for me. If I don't treat it like a bit deal then others often won't as well. Link to post Share on other sites
rainycity Posted October 21, 2016 Share Posted October 21, 2016 Congrats! It's a brave thing to do and I hope it makes your life better. Are you disappointed or relieved that people aren't surprised? I hope you'll keep us updated if something good or bad comes out of it<3 Link to post Share on other sites
R_1 Posted October 21, 2016 Author Share Posted October 21, 2016 Congrats! It's a brave thing to do and I hope it makes your life better. Are you disappointed or relieved that people aren't surprised? I hope you'll keep us updated if something good or bad comes out of it<3 It doesn't do anything to the quality of my life, and as I said, doing this absolutely is definitely not for me, but for others. If I didn't see a potential misunderstanding, I would not even do this in first place since there isn't any real reason other than visibility which I don't care about in the first place. It's more for a few other people to avoid potential misunderstanding because I do not expect them to guess I am an ace. No feelings over their reactions. Link to post Share on other sites
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