Social Media and Safety

[Crystalia]

I need some opinions, please. The background: I have two Facebook accounts, one for family and friends, and one to interact freely in the trans community. I'm out as genderfluid to my wonderful wife, my Coven, and to several amazing people I know in both the trans and ace communities. I am not out to my family, and I kinda doubt they'd be accepting; nor am I out at work due to the fact I've heard managers making homophobic slurs on the floor. On my main FB, I have several family members and a few of my coworkers. I've kept the two accounts separate for my safety, and that of my wife and our pets. The only identifying detail that crosses over between the two is my handfasting anniversary.

One of my Covenmates, whom I'm friends with on my main account, asked if I would send a friend request from my second account. I would obviously want to remove my anniversary date if I did, but am I asking for trouble if I send them the friend request and having both my pages show up as mutual friends with them?

[butterflydreams]

I would advise against trying to dodge anything on social media. You just can't piecemeal it safely.

The best thing to do (I think) is to just make peace with the potential consequences. I know that when I did that, I felt a lot better and worried a lot less.

[Guest]

Safety always comes first. You can't risk being caught by possible transphobic people who might make things worser for you.

I would only stay friends with them on the account you have for family and co workers, If you have your settings set to everything being visible to your friend's friends then you might be at risk of being outed by one of your friends. It's better to keep things seperated.

[Crystalia]

I do have both my accounts on as tight a lockdown as FB allows, including not allowing myself to be searched for. She is one of my closest friends, and I trust her implicitly. It's FB I don't trust. Thank you for the advice! ^_^