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Being Asexual, Questioning Romantic Attractions and Reciprocated Feelings


Nicky_Minaj

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So I have a crush on this guy and I found out that he likes me back but me overreacting as always, I ask him where he wants to go in the relationship and if he really likes me. He doesn't know where the relationship should go but I suggested being best friends and letting everything happen naturally (with cuddling involved) so he agreed.

I've fallen too hard for him already (its been like a month) but I have no idea where he stands (esp when we interact with each other). He tends to hang out with his friends a lot (I let him because I don't want to be that person) but never seems to set time away for me (only occasionally). I also told him I was asexual and inexperienced with relationships so he decided to back off a little bit because he's scared that he's pushing too much.

I've thought of being in a romantic relationship with him but I've just been really nervous around him and not very tactile since I'm unexperienced but I really, really care for him. I've thought of kissing him but I'm scared of how it would turn out.

What should I do because I'm scared of breaking down my walls and then being broken. Should I just let things happen naturally and continue to hang out with him and his friends or give him space to see if he misses me at all?

Just help meee...

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So you've never made out before? Then you may end up being sexual; most women and a minority of men need foreplay to trigger their desire for sex (every time). Also, if you're under 20 your sexual orientation could still be developing.

But if you turn out to still be asexual after the aforementioned then know that being asexual (whether you can sexually compromise or not; but obviously especially the latter) is a breaking point for many sexual people. Only a minority of sexuals are ok with a sexless relationship. Also, first boyfriends normally take up a special place in peoples hearts, so even after you break up; which is extremely likely, it will still linger. You'll most likely get over it but it still has a special part in your heart and probably always will. If you can't take that or take breaking up with people then dating may not be the thing for you. Breaking up is also often thought of worse than it actually ends up being in reality.

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