ashes21 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 I'm just curious. I had a sexual relationship with a guy when I was 15. But only like a few times. But I'm now 21 and have rarely been interested in anyone. At the time I kind of felt like I didn't like women so I must be gay but that didn't really materialize. I generally find guys and girls attractive kind of equally but I don't really want to have sex with anyone. Does that mean I'm just a gay guy or actually asexual with a gay past or bisexual? Advice? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Welcome to AVEN! Ultimately, adopting any label is up to you and you alone. But here are a few thoughts: Sexuality is/can be fluid: just because you had sexual relations in the past does not mean you are still a sexual person. If you currently feel that you identify more as an asexual, then that's the label you use for now. Romantic orientation is/can be fluid. Also, analyse your idea of attraction. If both girls and boys seem attractive, then you are probably biromantic or panromantic; if you find both boys and girls equally attractive but are not attracted to them per say, then you might be more aromantic. Hope that helps a bit! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ashes21 Posted October 8, 2016 Author Share Posted October 8, 2016 Welcome to AVEN! Ultimately, adopting any label is up to you and you alone. But here are a few thoughts: Sexuality is/can be fluid: just because you had sexual relations in the past does not mean you are still a sexual person. If you currently feel that you identify more as an asexual, then that's the label you use for now. Romantic orientation is/can be fluid. Also, analyse your idea of attraction. If both girls and boys seem attractive, then you are probably biromantic or panromantic; if you find both boys and girls equally attractive but are not attracted to them per say, then you might be more aromantic. Hope that helps a bit! I haven't had sex since I was 15. So currently I live a sexless life and I don't really want to change that there's no one I'd want to have a sexual relationship with. I have never had lustful thoughts about women. In any sense of the word. That's why I thought I was gay. And afterwards I thought I was gay because I liked the sex with him. But I haven't wanted to be with another guy since basically. My lifestyle is asexual because I haven't had sex and honestly hardly think about it personally. And when I do I don't think about it in reference to myself like it's not exactly an enjoyable thought. I meant more like in a nonsexual way both women and men are attractive. But it's more like pleasing to my eyes both are. Not one over the other. I haven't ever formed a relationship with anyone in the romantic sense and never really wanted to. But I might be a tad autistic so maybe that's why not sure. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ashmedai Posted October 9, 2016 Share Posted October 9, 2016 It is possible to be homo, bi or whatever else romantic and be asexual. You can explore and use any of these labels if you think that they fit you. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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