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Hi there!

A few months ago I posted something regarding my insecurity about my sexuality. Well, at this point I'm pretty sure that I'm ace (or at least demi). However, in this time I've been reading a lot about people "identifying" as sex-repulsed, -neutral or -positive and I wondered if it is also possible to "change" that "orientation". (well, I know that this isn't some real orientation like asexuality itself, but I can't think of a better word for it lmao)
As for myself, I've noticed that I have phases where I'm just like "ugh gross" towards anything that has to do with sex. I stay far away from fanfiction and stuff and eventhough I still can get aroused, I hate that feeling and wouldn't ever bring myself to get aroused. On the other hand sometimes I'm more in the "mood" for sex related thingies (like, as I said, reading erotic fanfiction) and it just doesn't seem that gross to me to be aroused by something (although I don't masturbate). I still don't experience sexual attraction towards "real people" in that phases, so I doubt that it has something to do with my sexual orientation. It's just my feeling about "how gross sex is" that is changing.

Has anyone else made similar experiences?

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I've experienced a range of feelings towards sex - from repulsion, triggered, neutral/disinterested, or interested/aroused. I identify as a gray-ace, because a lot of the time I feel irked by sexual stuff, while other times I feel sexual desire if I'm in the right mood. I don't understand why hearing sexual people talk about anything pertaining to sexual attraction/sexual desire bothers me, because I do understand it, however I don't experience it as frequently and I am definitely not as open about my occasional sexual feelings; I also feel very shy about it. So hearing people be open about their interests either makes me feel neutral or triggered because they're talking about something I either don't feel, or want to hear; it's too extreme or personal imo. Then again, there are times I just don't care. . . It's an odd thing with me.

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Oh yeah, I get like that too. Though it's less "ugh gross" for me and more "ugh boring." I'm not very sex-repulsed. But, I definitely have "moods" during which sex related things (like erotic fanfiction or fanart) are more appealing to me and I'll actively seek them out. Other times I'd kill to find a fanfic that didn't have sex in it. I've always kind of chalked it up to changing hormone levels. That is the explanation that makes the most sense to me.

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