DamianThomas Posted September 25, 2016 Share Posted September 25, 2016 Hi all, For a very long time I suffered from a diagnosed social anxiety disorder. Combined with my natural introversion/loner tendencies, I didn't know if my reluctance to date or have sex was due to those factors or possibly asexuality. It was hard to tell, after all I had such little experience. In the part year or so I have come to realize I am likely asexual and aromantic. I do notice attractive people and might admire them from a distance, but do nothing with the fact. I have experienced bursts of attraction to some individuals, but if someone approaches me with interest in return, I quickly become uninterested and averse. Like the novelty wears off right away. Does anyone have a similar experience? Link to post Share on other sites
spacedino Posted September 25, 2016 Share Posted September 25, 2016 Hello! I can't really relate to your social anxiety as I'm fairly comfortable in most social situations (except any that involve talking about sex), but what you're describing that you're feeling towards other people regarding sexuality is pretty much my exact experience. I can think people are very attractive and feel as if I'm attracted to them but the thought of doing something about it is completely uninteresting and yes, if someone approaches me it usually makes me very uncomfortable. "the novelty wears off" is a good way to describe it cause that's how it feels. Like the second anything might actually HAPPEN, it's like "oh, actually never mind bye" Link to post Share on other sites
kelico Posted September 26, 2016 Share Posted September 26, 2016 Welcome to AVEN! Thank you for sharing your story with us! I'm glad that you decided to join. : ) You'll find a lot of people that can relate to you! I certainly can. I also have social anxiety and am an introvert, so I just figured that was that. Then when I discovered asexuality, I was like, "Wait! That's totally me!" Because even if I was a social and outgoing person, I still wouldn't desire sex and such. Also, what you describe about someone showing interest in return and you becoming averse or uninterested really sounds like lithromantic. I also identify as lithro. Take your time exploring and see what feels right. I hope you enjoy being a member! Link to post Share on other sites
JacTheSpaceAce Posted September 26, 2016 Share Posted September 26, 2016 Welcome to AVEN! And congrats on separating your anxiety from your asexuality; I understand how that can be difficult. I agree that what you describe sounds like lithromantic. Hope you enjoy AVEN, and have some cake! Link to post Share on other sites
Icelime Posted September 26, 2016 Share Posted September 26, 2016 Hey, Welcome to AVEN! :lol: Link to post Share on other sites
Starlit Sky Posted September 26, 2016 Share Posted September 26, 2016 What you describe either sounds like lithosexual or lithoromantic to me, and regardless of what your orientation(s) is (/are), everyone is welcome to AVEN! :) I hope that you enjoy your time here :) Link to post Share on other sites
DamianThomas Posted September 30, 2016 Author Share Posted September 30, 2016 Thanks so much everyone! I hadn't heard of the term "lithromantic" before but after looking it up I think that might definitely be me. You learn a new thing everyday... Link to post Share on other sites
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