LearningAboutMe Posted September 25, 2016 Share Posted September 25, 2016 So story time: i gave someone whom I work with my number, and I pretty much only know his name. (I'm severely antisocial/innocent and gave him my number cuz that's what friends do, right?) he's a nice guy from the few short moments that i see him and i'm a cuddler so i hug him from time to time; and he texts me from time to time. whatever, i prefer to text. then tonight he texted me: 'night love'. oh no. are we courting now, or am i looking to far into it? and if we are, help me friend zone him please! (ps, no he isn't british) *groan* that terror of being an aro-ace with no emotions and zero people-skills! Link to post Share on other sites
Contrarian Expatriate Posted September 25, 2016 Share Posted September 25, 2016 So story time: i gave someone whom I work with my number, and I pretty much only know his name. (I'm severely antisocial/innocent and gave him my number cuz that's what friends do, right?) he's a nice guy from the few short moments that i see him and i'm a cuddler so i hug him from time to time; and he texts me from time to time. whatever, i prefer to text. then tonight he texted me: 'night love'. oh no. are we courting now, or am i looking to far into it? and if we are, help me friend zone him please! (ps, no he isn't british) *groan* that terror of being an aro-ace with no emotions and zero people-skills! Friend zoning someone can be cruel and hurtful so the best way to deal with that is to always be upfront and honest perhaps before you give out your phone number. You might ask him what he meant when he called you "love." That could serve as your segway into, "I have to be honest with you, I am asexual which means I........... Sorry if I gave you the impression of otherwise." At the point, it is out in the open and he can either accept it or move on to another person. Hope this helps.... Link to post Share on other sites
Luftschlosseule Posted September 25, 2016 Share Posted September 25, 2016 Wouldn't friend-zone imply that there is a date-zone next to it? just wondering. I also recommend you to be open. Tell him you wanna be friends, nothing more, nothing less. I hope he'll understand. Link to post Share on other sites
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