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What exactly is Gray Asexuality and how do you know for sure if you are Gray-Ace?


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Is it somewhere between sexual and asexual? Are there definite ways you can determine you are this form of sexuality?

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Yeah grey-asexual or grey-sexual means between sexual and asexual.

It is a general word so not every grey-asexual is attracted to people the same way. For example, two people may say they are grey-asexual but they may actually mean it in a different way.

Some grey-sexuals/grey-asexuals may only experience sexual feelings sometimes, but not as often as sexual people. Other grey-asexuals may only experience sexual feelings if they are in a close relationship with someone (that would be considered demi-sexual. Demi-sexual is one way of being grey-sexual)

There is not really a certain way to tell if someone is grey-asexual or grey-sexual because it is just a word. Basically its up to each to people to determine if they can relate to sexual people or asexual people. If asexual describes them or if sexual describes them. If they feel somewhere between sexual and asexual, they may decide to that grey-asexual describes them and then they can just explain their attraction to people more in detail if they want.

Good topic :)

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Thanks! I feel I definitely am gray-ace but I had a hard time determining since I was neither asexual but I don't experience the same capacity of sexual desire/attraction as those I am around.

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Is it somewhere between sexual and asexual? Are there definite ways you can determine you are this form of sexuality?

yup. although everyone is different - so the reason for why one grey-ace knows they are grey, might not be the same as another's reason.

Thanks! I feel I definitely am gray-ace but I had a hard time determining since I was neither asexual but I don't experience the same capacity of sexual desire/attraction as those I am around.

the way you describe your feelings here, to me it sounds like you are grey.

for me, it took me over a year of flip-flopping between saying I was grey and say I was ace before I finally felt comfortable saying that I was definitely grey. for me, I often feel as if I'm not quite asexual, but never really feel comfortable saying I am fully sexual. there's something missing when I do feel attracted to a person - I never have interest in sex itself - but there's enough going on when I am attracted to a person, that I know I can't quite be asexual.

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It all sounds gray to me.

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Second what everyone else has said. It's just something you know deep in your pit that you don't quite fit asexual or sexual. I mean, I felt awesome once finding the term asexual but I didn't readily adopt it for myself because I knew it wasn't quite right but it was closer than being sexual. Over time, paying attention to my thoughts, my desires, my own bodily reactions did I come to understand that I fall in the gray label. Mentally I find sex stimulating and physically as well when I'm on my own but emotionally it's not there and when I'm with another person, I might as well be doing dishes because the feelings are similar.

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Gray-sexual/Gray-asexual is an unusual sexual person (in terms of when they desire sex not what type of sex act they prefer). Some examples are desiring sex after a bond that takes an unusual amount of time to form, desiring it rarely, very randomly, etc.

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The only question that can be answered here solidly is that it is somewhere between asexual and sexual. Which brings me to the point that it's not exactly easy to give a straight forward definition, since it's rather open to a lot of people's experiences and variations. Some people may be more open to the idea of having sex while others may not be so much.

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