NerotheReaper Posted September 20, 2016 Share Posted September 20, 2016 So this is directed at romantics really, how long does it take you to fall in love or like someone? The reason I ask, is because for me it takes a long time. It is really hard for me to open my heart up, and allow someone in. It is going to take a real dedicated person to stick with me until I can fall in love with them. What about you guys, do you fall for someone easily or does it take a while? Link to post Share on other sites
NinetyFive Posted September 20, 2016 Share Posted September 20, 2016 If it's someone I have a few things in common with, I can fantasize a bit about romance fairly quickly. Though when it comes to properly falling in love (if there is such a thing, lol), it really depends on the person. For me at least I think it happens rarely but when it does, I feel 'in love' quickly when it's just the right kinda person. Does that make any sense...? Link to post Share on other sites
.lannah. Posted September 20, 2016 Share Posted September 20, 2016 I've been in situations where it has developed quite quickly and another time it took a while. I think it depends on where you are at that time of your life, your past experiences and the certain individual. Link to post Share on other sites
SithLord Posted September 20, 2016 Share Posted September 20, 2016 I can't really give a time frame because for me it was a gradual thing. It can't happen quickly for me, I know that, but I know others who have true "love at first sight" scenarios. Link to post Share on other sites
argar Posted September 20, 2016 Share Posted September 20, 2016 This kind of falls back to having an initial interest to begin with for me. I have had women who I did find interesting at the time, but I never really do anything about it. The interest usually goes away with time and distance. Or it just fades on it's own. I think if I spend too much time with someone I am interested in, it does blossom into something else. That still doesn't mean that I have the desire to actually do anything about it though. Thankfully I mostly avoid this feeling, for the most part being in love has never been a positive experience for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Evren Posted September 20, 2016 Share Posted September 20, 2016 The one time that I fell in love with someone it took months, and I at least have to make a conscious decision to completely trust them before I can fall in love. I don't know if it is this way with other people, but it is a really important step for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Homer Posted September 20, 2016 Share Posted September 20, 2016 It hasn't happened to me in ages (and I'm very grateful for that). At first, I'm generally atracted to a person for whatever reason, be it because of their apprearance, some skill that they have or some hobby that we share. Then, I'll take a step back to see what this person is all about, to figure out whether I like them after all. Once I figured out that yes, I do like them, there's a tiny time slot between when I know I like them enough and the time I like them too much. The latter will make me go for a friendship, killing every possibility of romantic feelings. How long does it take? It greatly depends on how often I get to be around that person, how long it takes to figure out what I think of them. I don't believe in "love at first sight" or anything like that. Link to post Share on other sites
God of the Forest Posted September 20, 2016 Share Posted September 20, 2016 So this is directed at romantics really, how long does it take you to fall in love or like someone? The reason I ask, is because for me it takes a long time. It is really hard for me to open my heart up, and allow someone in. It is going to take a real dedicated person to stick with me until I can fall in love with them. What about you guys, do you fall for someone easily or does it take a while? I kind of have this pattern, I like someone or they like me, I ask them out or they ask me (usually they ask me), we date for about a month or two, three tops, they start to annoy me and I dump them...its terrible I know..which is why I'm possibly frayromantic...or maybe just an asshole *shrug* Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 20, 2016 Share Posted September 20, 2016 Before SSRI effectively switched romance off for me, I could frequently develop crushes on people - overwhelmingly, but not exclusively, women/girls - within minutes. (I don't know if you differentiate between crushes and "being in love". I'm still confused about what exactly the latter phrase is supposed to mean. *shrug* ) Link to post Share on other sites
Amedot Posted September 20, 2016 Share Posted September 20, 2016 It takes me a very, very long time to fall in love. Years. Of course, I can find somebody aesthetically attractive, or feel a very strong desire to be someone's friend when I first meet them, but I have to have a very strong friendship with someone before romance even thinks about rearing it's pretty head. I guess that's like, what, demi-romantic? IDK. Before SSRI effectively switched romance off for me, I could frequently develop crushes on people - overwhelmingly, but not exclusively, women/girls - within minutes. (I don't know if you differentiate between crushes and "being in love". I'm still confused about what exactly the latter phrase is supposed to mean. *shrug* ) Ooo fascinating, we often hear about how SSRIs affect libido but romance as well? This is really interesting.... As far as I'm aware, my medications (SSRI, atypical antipsychotics, and anti convulsants) haven't affected my romantic orientation. Link to post Share on other sites
Philip027 Posted September 20, 2016 Share Posted September 20, 2016 It doesn't really take that long for me, but it's never something completely immediate. Pretty much as soon as I establish someone as a friend, is when it potentially can happen for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 20, 2016 Share Posted September 20, 2016 Ooo fascinating, we often hear about how SSRIs affect libido but romance as well? This is really interesting.... As far as I'm aware, my medications (SSRI, atypical antipsychotics, and anti convulsants) haven't affected my romantic orientation. *nods* Yep pretty much switched it off, and as I said, it was hair-triggerishly high before that. From what I've heard, though, it's hardly ever this dramatic of an effect as it was on me. BTW, as for libido... there was some dampening there for me, too, when I went on SSRI, but nowhere near as huge as with romance. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 20, 2016 Share Posted September 20, 2016 I don't fall in love. I choose to love someone. That all depends on shared interests and how much we do things together. Example. play games/watch movies. Talk about every day life. Being emotional support. Not because someone made effort to send some flowers or buy a gift... all that kind of stuff... I'm not prince charming. I'm me :) Link to post Share on other sites
Yinlotus93 Posted September 26, 2016 Share Posted September 26, 2016 It takes me however long it takes until I really get to know the person. Could be a month or two, could be a year or more, but it never just happens in a moment that suddenly I like a guy. My experiences in all cases of developing emotional attraction were unrequited feelings so far, but in a mutual relationship I'd probably be pretty stubborn and guarded, so it would probably be a lot longer than any of those before I ended up opening my heart to someone. (I always estimated a few years) So yeah I pretty much take my careful time with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 27, 2016 Share Posted September 27, 2016 It took me around four days to faII in Iove with my partner, though that is becoming deeper as time goes on. It happens extremeIy rareIy for me (when it comes to non-fic peopIe anyway) and the feeIings don't go away unIess the person Ieaves my Iife and stays away for a Iong time. I've never feIt romantic feeIngs quite as strongIy as I am now, and this was the fastest I've ever faIIen in Iove. Sometimes when you just cIick with someone on IiteraIIy every IeveI, it's Iike some outside force is directing things. That's what it feeIs Iike for me anyway. ^_^ Link to post Share on other sites
Starlit Sky Posted September 27, 2016 Share Posted September 27, 2016 It's entirely down to how much I trust a person . . . and, unfortunately, I'm not a very trusting person. My issues aren't to do with cheating (not that those worries are meaningless, by any means!) as much as they revolve "marrying my father." Hmm . . . I've actually only felt love (of the romantic kind) for someone once before, and that took about two months of him trying. It was basically went from Interest Level 1/10 to Interest Level 11/10 in a day, though, once he said what I needed to hear. Link to post Share on other sites
Rising Sun Posted September 27, 2016 Share Posted September 27, 2016 A year or two of closeness and affection. And it's the time I need to have the potential to feel the slightest bit of attraction to someone, because I can't feel attraction at all otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
sindi Posted September 27, 2016 Share Posted September 27, 2016 Nowadays I barely get crushes at all, but when I was younger it happened more often and it completely varied depending on the case! Sometimes I almost immediately developed a crush, sometimes only after years of friendship... Link to post Share on other sites
Kriegar Posted September 27, 2016 Share Posted September 27, 2016 It varies. "liking" or getting crushes usually doesn't take long. maybe a week or two. Although very rarely it was within a day. As for love, I dunno. Only been in love once, took at least a month maybe, it was gradual. Then again it was with someone I had a crush on for a year so that might of sped things along. So yeah I guess the short answer it pretty quick. Link to post Share on other sites
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