Aquaticlovex Posted September 18, 2016 Share Posted September 18, 2016 When I'm in a relationship with someone i love, any sexual and romantic feelings i feel for any other person disappears.anytime someone mentions sex it would make me think of my partner and i end up associating sex with her. is this something common? also, when i have sexual feelings for my partner when i have one (which is usually there since the beginning - i wouldn't be in a relationship before i am already deeply connected with them)... they are really intense. and all my sexual energy revolving around her. is this the case for other demisexual people? Link to post Share on other sites
dissolved Posted September 18, 2016 Share Posted September 18, 2016 Yup, sounds like me. Everything links back to my girlfriend, I find new associations every day, and just when I think there's a hint of something in another person that I find interesting, I realise it's actually because it reminds me of my girlfriend :P I've found that my feelings - especially those that are sexual based - get more intense as time goes on. Link to post Share on other sites
NerudaLovePoem Posted September 19, 2016 Share Posted September 19, 2016 Yeah, definitely. If someone mentions sex when I'm not in a relationship and I picture it I'm mildly grossed out. When I'm in a relationship I think of my partner and how much I like being that close to them. Link to post Share on other sites
Isak Posted September 19, 2016 Share Posted September 19, 2016 Yes, same here. Link to post Share on other sites
WhenSummersGone Posted September 22, 2016 Share Posted September 22, 2016 Same with me as well. All the attention is on my partner and I know I wouldn't cheat but I also feel I can't. Link to post Share on other sites
Slayerin96 Posted October 20, 2016 Share Posted October 20, 2016 I'm an aromantic demisexual, but the sexual energy thing is definitely the case with me. I only find sex great with the boy I desire, otherwise it varies from weirding me out to leaving me cold. I can't possibly imagine myself sharing my body with anyone other than him. Link to post Share on other sites
scarletlatitude Posted October 21, 2016 Share Posted October 21, 2016 This is partly why I might be demi. I thought that all sexuals thought this way. But if I did have a partner, I absolutely would only desire that person and no one else. Link to post Share on other sites
TheDemi_Urge Posted February 5, 2017 Share Posted February 5, 2017 On 9/18/2016 at 11:17 PM, Aquaticlovex said: When I'm in a relationship with someone i love, any sexual and romantic feelings i feel for any other person disappears.anytime someone mentions sex it would make me think of my partner and i end up associating sex with her. is this something common? also, when i have sexual feelings for my partner when i have one (which is usually there since the beginning - i wouldn't be in a relationship before i am already deeply connected with them)... they are really intense. and all my sexual energy revolving around her. is this the case for other demisexual people? It's the case for me too more or less...actually I can still have very very faint feelings of romantic attraction to others like "oh they might be nice to date too but eh they're not my partner" and it generally fades after a while; however my partner elicits very very strong feelings of love from me - I get all excited and happy whenever I see them or think of them like a little puppy and if a romantic/sexual situation happens in a film I imagine it with us two. Link to post Share on other sites
Ettina Posted February 11, 2017 Share Posted February 11, 2017 I think most people have that with romantic feelings, but not sexual feelings. Even in cases of 'romantic infidelity', where the person is cheating with someone they're romantically attracted to, usually before the cheating started they'd fallen out of love with their partner. The big exception to this are polyamorous people. Sexual attraction to people other than your partner are pretty common, though, even though most people don't act on them. So I'd say if you feel sexual attraction only for your partner, it's probably related to being demisexual. Link to post Share on other sites
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