LadyMisty Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 So, I am a bit confused. I found this website a long time ago and thought, "Yeah, this really fits me, but it can't be right. I was married for 17 years. I had sex a lot to please my partner. I CAN'T be Asexual." Here I am, back again. lol I actually joined up this time too! I have NEVER really been interested in sex. Especially after I had sex. Ugh. And I have even had an orgasm on occasion and didn't like sex. I have spent every sexual encounter I have ever had wishing it would be over so I could do something that was fun or go to sleep. I was divorced in 2005 and although I was sad that my family was no longer going to be "together", I found myself so relieved that I didn't have to have sex anymore that I also felt giddy with happiness! I do think people are attractive. I just have no desire to have sex with them. Never have. So I am asexual, right? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mikeman7918 Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 Yeah, that sounds like asexuality to me. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 The only requirement for asexuality is not desiring sex with anyone. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LadyMisty Posted September 15, 2016 Author Share Posted September 15, 2016 Thanks. I thought so. Recently my sons are hinting that it's been over 10 years since the divorce. "Aren't you interested in dating again?" I just laugh. I haven't known what to say. I have never shared my true feelings with anyone before because I sorta thought something was wrong with me. Guess it's just the way I was made. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
JDinMSP Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 Deleting all of my content and leaving site. Sorry. :/ Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LadyMisty Posted September 15, 2016 Author Share Posted September 15, 2016 Thank you for the welcome! I am still wrapping my head around this and am not sure if I should "come out" to others. I was at work recently and someone asked me if I was dating anyone. My reply was, "No. I'm asexual." The people around us laughed, like I was joking, so I laughed along and the topic changed. I think that's the biggest reason I am back here on this site. My subconscious must have been thinking it for awhile now - I mean it was a completely spontaneous reply. But the laughter that followed caught me off guard too. It will be nice to have people to talk with that understand what I mean, as I plod my way through understanding this. ;) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
JDinMSP Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 Deleting all of my content and leaving site. Sorry. :/ Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 By saying "no I'm asexual" to "are you dating anyone" it sounds like you have the misconception that asexuality includes aromanticsm. As I said, asexuality strictly applies to sex. Most asexuals are romantic. Not getting crushes/desiring a relationship is called aromantic. Short hand for being both is aro ace. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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