Need help understanding

[chessiejones]

I know no one can label me, but I'm just so confused. I'd like to think I'm a very sexual person, but for some reason I can't get horny when I'm with someone in person. I can get turned on watching porn and seeing steamy scenes of my fav actor on tv and I even have wet dreams multiple times a week. I masterbate pretty frequently, but only clitoral. When I'm with someone I don't get that hornet feeling that I do from watching or thinking about sex. It's like I have no desire to be sexual when I'm actually with someone.

[mikeman7918]

You should look into autochorissexualism. It's defined as "a subset of asexuality which is defined as: a disconnection between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacking any desire to be a participant in the sexual activities therein." It even has it's own pride flag:

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I'd post it as an image if I weren't using a mobile device.

[FerlynnGoldbeard]

It's a long word, but I consider myself Autochorissexual. From the website: We, "Identify as asexual and feel no sexual attraction to people, but enjoy masturbating, are aroused by sexually explicit content, and/or have sexual fantasies."

[One Winged Angel]

To be honest, it may just be a matter of nerves, like you have your guard up and can't relax with the person. Of course, you can also look into the area of being Autochorissexual if you feel this may help.

A question to ask yourself if this - do you WANT to be sexual with the other person, or is there literally no desire at all? If you really want to be sexual but find that nerves/something is stopping you, then it is less likely that you are Autochorissexual but rather it is a psychological thing and you can't relax. If you feel no desire and do NOT want to be engaged in real-life sexual encounters, then perhaps Autochorissexual may be worth looking into.

[Star Bit]

Autchrois is just called being a normal human being. Literally, it's normal; for sexuals and asexuals. It's already had a long standing word prior to that pointless long word; autoerotic. Most asexuals masturbate and most use erotica. Masturbatory habits don't reflect orientation. Wanting to fap and wanting to have sex are two different things. You're imagining other people having sex, not yourself, so of course you wouldn't actually desire sex in a relationship. It's the same thing as a straight person being a fan of a gay couple; doesn't make themselves gay. Masturbatory habits don't change your orientation. The only requirement for asexuality is not desiring sex with anyone.

[chessiejones]

To be honest, it may just be a matter of nerves, like you have your guard up and can't relax with the person. Of course, you can also look into the area of being Autochorissexual if you feel this may help.

A question to ask yourself if this - do you WANT to be sexual with the other person, or is there literally no desire at all? If you really want to be sexual but find that nerves/something is stopping you, then it is less likely that you are Autochorissexual but rather it is a psychological thing and you can't relax. If you feel no desire and do NOT want to be engaged in real-life sexual encounters, then perhaps Autochorissexual may be worth looking into.

Yeah I was thinking it might be nerves too but idk. Like when guys kiss me and stuff they get hard and turned on and want to have sex but when I kiss I don't feel anything sexual it's just kissing to me. I feel like if someone were to try and turn me on with foreplay I might get horny but idk if me wanting to have sex with someone is just cuz that's all I know of how to show my affection or if I actually want to do the act. When I'm in relationships I usually hate thinking about how they might want to have sex soon like I'd rather not do it cuz I don't really associate feelings with sex. I can think someone is hott and I might think I want to do stuff with them just to touch them but in relationships I don't think that way.

[Star Bit]

Well you certainly don't have responsive sexual desire. Sounds like a normal ace (short for asexual) to me.

Again, the only requirement for asexuality is not desiring sex with anyone. Unless you're saying you desire sex with fictional characters? (imagining fictional characters having sex isn't the same things as you yourself wanting sex with them)