Specialkay Posted September 10, 2016 Share Posted September 10, 2016 So first of all this is my first post, hi! Anyway I'm dating a sexual, who I have had a talk with about my asexualness/asexual tendencies. Our main forms of affection include cuddling, however I find that when I'm with him and we are close to each other, I somehow end up with... moisture "down there". It is incredibly aggravating and embarrassing... anyone relate or have any suggestions? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WoodwindWhistler Posted September 10, 2016 Share Posted September 10, 2016 That's not libido, that's just getting aroused. It's perfectly natural, and from a philosophical perspective? Honestly, just learn to chill and accept it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
AW10 Posted September 10, 2016 Share Posted September 10, 2016 So first of all this is my first post, hi! Anyway I'm dating a sexual, who I have had a talk with about my asexualness/asexual tendencies. Our main forms of affection include cuddling, however I find that when I'm with him and we are close to each other, I somehow end up with... moisture "down there". It is incredibly aggravating and embarrassing... anyone relate or have any suggestions? Are you aware that moisture "down there" is yet another suggestion, but this suggestion was given to you by your body? If someone suggests you something, you would probably consider it and then accept or reject it. Why would it has to be any different for suggestion given by your body instead of someone else? Now, if your body suggests you to take food, it is probably not the good idea to reject that suggestion, but no one has died from not having sex, so you can freely reject moisture "down there" suggestion. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Specialkay Posted September 10, 2016 Author Share Posted September 10, 2016 So first of all this is my first post, hi! Anyway I'm dating a sexual, who I have had a talk with about my asexualness/asexual tendencies. Our main forms of affection include cuddling, however I find that when I'm with him and we are close to each other, I somehow end up with... moisture "down there". It is incredibly aggravating and embarrassing... anyone relate or have any suggestions? Are you aware that moisture "down there" is yet another suggestion, but this suggestion was given to you by your body? If someone suggests you something, you would probably consider it and then accept or reject it. Why would it has to be any different for suggestion given by your body instead of someone else? Now, if your body suggests you to take food, it is probably not the good idea to reject that suggestion, but no one has died from not having sex, so you can freely reject moisture "down there" suggestion. I do reject it it's just annoying and depending on what i'm wearing, I worry it would be noticeable Quote Link to post Share on other sites
AW10 Posted September 10, 2016 Share Posted September 10, 2016 Honestly it's just annoying and depending on what i'm wearing, I worry it would be noticeable Then only solution would be to find clothes that will avoid making it visible, or simply accepting it and if someone is asking tell that person that it has nothing to with your desire to have sex, but it is a just reaction of your body. More, there is a self-help book for women that I have read when I was on my quest to understand women's sexuality, it has thought me a lot about body functioning, although mostly female's body functioning, and it may teach you a lot too. Here is the link to the book: http://emilynagoski.com/come-as-you-are/ Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Specialkay Posted September 10, 2016 Author Share Posted September 10, 2016 Though I may not be able access the book, thanks for the link! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
rehearsed-madness Posted September 11, 2016 Share Posted September 11, 2016 As another user has already pointed out, libido and genital moisture, while not totally separated, also are not wholly related to each other. For example, many people with vaginas randomly "get wet" while washing the dishes or taking part in other non-sexual activities without any sort of fantasy going on. It's not very different from other autonomous bodily functions, tbh. It is uncomfortable to a certain degree, but there's not much to be done except get used to it. If possible, just wipe yourself and the fabric with toilet paper or wash yourself so you don't get that clingy feeling. As for fearing of it showing, regular moisture usually isn't abundant to leave marks on clothes other than undies. I've been through plenty of moments like these and never has it been visible to anyone else. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Busrider Posted September 11, 2016 Share Posted September 11, 2016 I can't suggest more than "wear whatever makes you feel secure." - I'm male and clueless. - I get errections from cuddling with a partner but that doesn't make sex great or desirable for me. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WoodwindWhistler Posted September 12, 2016 Share Posted September 12, 2016 Oh, and plenty of women use small, thin "light days" pads just because they naturally produce a good bit of discharge (especially after having children). If you don't want it on your underwear that's a very simple solution whenever you know you'll be cuddling. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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