Lian Posted September 9, 2016 Share Posted September 9, 2016 Recently, I've started to wonder if perhaps I'm asexual. I know that no one but me can tell me what my sexuality is, but I guess you can at least help me figure it out. So, I've always been pretty 'horny' and do masturbate a lot, and I've thought about sex because all my friends were talking about it, but I never really saw the appeal of it, I guess. Sure, I'm curious about it, but it also sorta terrifies me, y'know, the whole act of being so intimate with someone else. I find naked bodies absolutely revolting and they actually make me physically sick. I guess I've considered myself bisexual or pansexual until now because I've been in love with both guys and girls, but I realized I was never actually attracted to them physically.. I've watched porn out of curiosity, but only found it disgusting. Even when I masturbate, I can never get off by thinking about naked people or myself sexually involved with someone. I guess I thought I couldn't be asexual because of how 'horny' I am, but after realizing all that I wrote above, I started to wonder if maybe I am. Maybe I just have to have sex first - yeah, a virgin here - but I'm not really sure if I even want to try it. Idk, what do you think? Any advice on how I should approach this stuff and figure out if I really am asexual? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Luftschlosseule Posted September 9, 2016 Share Posted September 9, 2016 Hello and welcome! (: I figured it out with research, reading about asexuality, since I've never had sex myself. And I don't want to. It's more like "Well, maybe someday, to know how it is, but first I want try parachuting and surfing". I pondered about it, it was not that I read something and then everything made klick, because I thought I had to be heterosexual because I am not into women. But having a libido doesn't mean you can't be asexual. For me, you sound ace. Please don't hurry. I mean - there is no time limit to figure out your sexuality. You can take all the time you want. If you figure it out tomorrow it's fine, but if you need days, weeks, months or longer, that's fine, too. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Still Posted September 9, 2016 Share Posted September 9, 2016 Maybe I just have to have sex first - yeah, a virgin here - but I'm not really sure if I even want to try it. Not really, there are plenty of aces who are repulsed by sex and don't ever want to try it. Besides, I think the attitude "not sure if I want to try it" is pretty ace, since most people are actually looking forward to having sex. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lian Posted September 11, 2016 Author Share Posted September 11, 2016 Thank you both for your answers! I did some more research and I'm like 90% percent sure I'm ace. Guess I'll just wait and see, it's not like I don't have time to figure it out. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Broken wings Posted September 11, 2016 Share Posted September 11, 2016 I relate so much to this post, the more I am reading about it the more I am realising and accepting that I am asexual. BW Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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