R2R2R Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 Hello. I haven't had to chance to scroll through and see if anyone else is in this same sticky situation, but I'm betting someone out there can relate and maybe provide insight into how to handle. As brief as I can... I'm 42 years old and always thought I might be a lesbian but tried to deny that by marrying a man at 28. That ended after 2 yrs and then I came out as a lesbian. I had three relationships with females and then, at 38, had a baby through artificial insemination with my partner. We ended up getting married a year a a half ago. The problem is--we haven't had sex in almost 3 yrs. and I don't want to. When I look back on all my relationships, this is the common denominator--me not wanting sex. No sexual attraction. And general disgust and disengaging when "forcing myself" to keep the peace. As I read more and more about asexuality, I realize, why didn't I know this sooner? I feel like I have a never ending cycle of hurting people I love. I'm married now and feel like it's fake. We are roommates and there is so much resentment. Has anyone had to end a relationship with a spouse? I don't even know where to begin. We have a child together too--so complicated. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Telecaster68 Posted September 9, 2016 Share Posted September 9, 2016 Have a read of some of the threads on the 'Allies' section - there's quite a few people in your situation, or very similar. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
R2R2R Posted September 9, 2016 Author Share Posted September 9, 2016 Thank you! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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