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Am I a gray ace or just hast found the right one?!


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I had been in two relationships whit two “attractive” women but only because they were the ones that had the initiative of star a friendship that really long time after they turned into romantic relationships, bout ended the same. I broking up whit them.

My first girlfriend doesn’t count much for me, I was 16 I was only a stupid child, but the second one was a bit more intense, she even convince me to had sex, I was 20 by that time, I really felt in love whit her but she only wanted to fuck every day every hour, eventually I broke up whit her for that reason.

Both relationships last around two and a half years and I only had sex whit one girl, yes I like it, by today my friend introduce me to several fine women almost every weekend and I cannot feel the “need” to meet those women, even though my libido say “fuck all those bitches”.

I’ve try twice with guys but is just not for my but. :mellow:

Forgive my grammar, tipping in english is quit hard :D

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Firstly, if you have it, I suggest you use autocorrect. I'm not a native speaker myself, and autocorrect has saved me many times :)

Now about the sexuality, I'm glad to see you're open to trying new things to figure it out.

Personally, I don't think it matters much what you label yourself as than what you should warn your potential partners against.

Um.. that might've been a little hard to understand. Let me reiterate.

At this point, you can't really label yourself as either Ace or 'just low libido'. So, try what I do; don't think too much about labels, just warn your potential partners that you don't want to have sex everyday. If she doesn't understand, just tell her that you're 'somewhat' Asexual, and that while you're fine with sex, you don't want it as much as some people seem to.

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Enjoyment and desire are two different things that are just typically paired, so to make sure you're separating the two when you say you've enjoyed sex i ask the following. Do you desire any type of sex for sexual or emotional pleasure (even if it's only after foreplay)?

Are you saying you're not sexually or romantically into men or just that you don't want anal sex? Because not all gay men are into anal; there are many types of sex. Also, you may be aromantic.

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So, you've only been in one sexual relationship with a woman and she wanted sex much more often than you. I assume every day every hour is an exaggeration, but how often did she ask for sex in reality? You said that you liked sex. Did you ever want to have sex, and if so do you have a sense of how often you would want to have sex? It's possible you are heterosexual or bisexual and there was just a big libido gap in your first relationship.

It also sounds like maybe you are attracted to some of the women your friends try to set you up with, but either you are a little shy or you just don't want to have casual sex.

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I ment to say “syntax” not grammar but…. Blah blah blah

I maybe be into man only in romantic way, I found them less stressful and “bitching”, they tend to think less and live more. On the intimacy are I can’t say I have hadn’t with another male, can of have it once but he insist a lot into anal, I prefer foreplay, for both type of partners and also I tend to give. I do enjoy sex (whit my last, and only sex partner just too had at least for times per day and at least four day a week, no exaggeration, I give her sex cuz she really enjoy it) I even think I had a high libido but casual sex just not sound right to me; I remember how I lost my virginity: she told me that she didn’t fell that’s I love her cuz I didn’t want to have sex before marriage…

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Not all gay/bi men are into anal. What do you mean by "I tend to give"? As in you're on top during sex?

You also don't answer; do you desire/yearn for/ long for sex when you're in a relationship? Even if you only want it after foreplay has been done.

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I was talking that I prefer masturbate my SO…

I kind do desire sex but at the same time I don’t, I have almost four years, now, without sex and I don’t miss it, what I miss is the “connection” whit someone else…. Feeling "loved"

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So you just want sex for an emotional connection? Desiring sex for sexual or emotional pleasure means someone is sexual. Even if they're indifferent of satisfying their sexual desires they still desire sex and thus are still sexual.

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