Does your dating style change with people of different genders?

[MiniVegan]

I am female and identify as biromantic. When it comes to romantic relationships with men, I've noticed I like to keep the roles pretty traditional: I like if he will make the first move, pay for dinner, and whatnot.

However, with women, I've noticed I'm happy to make the first move, not concerned about her paying for me, and so on.

I'm wondering if other bi/pan/polyromantic aces notice a difference like this? Just curious.

Side note: when I typed "polyromantic", my iPad suggested "Polyjuice." Tee hee!

[cavalier080854]

As I am Aromantic Asexual, I have never really dated with a view to a relationship to anyone as such. Though I do subscribe to the tradition role as male and pay on the first meeting. Subsequent meetings are governed by the wants and desires of that person, keeping an eye on possibly entitled attitudes (Golddiggers). My time is just as valuable as theirs and I should not have to continually pay, not in todays world of equality of the sexes. On a 1 to 1 meeting with a man it is always a split bill or pay for yourself. With groups of men it is a totally different matter, paying only for myself. To many times you meet men who are prolific drinkers, so buying rounds can be very expensive. I have spent £120 ($160) in an evening and only drunk 3 drinks.

[Finn.]

Mmh. I never really dated. But here's my tiny piece of experience:

I went on two blind dates (different girls) and two follow-up dates with one of them. We payed our own drinks and food which seemed like the best choice. When we went to see a movie she payed for the tickets? I believe. It was a bit clumsy, I think I payed for our drinks in the movie theater then.

I had guys take an interest in me. They always insisted on paying for my drink or ice cream or whatever, even though I always tried to pay for it myself, as I didn't want to make this any more date-y.

In general, with men I want to actively fight gender roles, but that's also because I want to fight their idea that anything could come of this relationship =) And with women that's kind of unnecessary you know, it's equal form the getgo. I sort of feel more chivalrous with women in general, I like holding doors for everyone though.

I've never dated a nonbinary person. I think it depends on the individual. But it also does so with women I think, how dominant she is and stuff like that? So no matter if they are a woman or nonbinary, I think I would like someone that is more "active" than me, who takes the lead. But chances are, we are both just as awkward because that's my type apparently =)