snow_pear Posted August 28, 2016 Share Posted August 28, 2016 Hi! I feel glad to have found this forum. I joined because I want to find understanding people to talk to. I will just quickly share my story. I never thought that I could possibly be asexual because I was always quite interested in the topic of sex. I find it amusing to read and learn about it. However, one thing thing that struck me as strange was that whenever I tried to read erotic fanfiction or erotica, I simply could not get turned on and I would become bored of it. Even if it featured my favorite characters and had an excellent author. Anyway, I ignored and still thought I couldn't be asexual if sex was such an amusing topic to me. As a few years went by, I realized that there was no one I was sexually attracted to. I have experienced romantic attraction but I think that the sexual attraction was rare. (My history on that is really confusing.)When I learned that it was possible for asexuals to have high sex drives, that was when I thought that it could apply to me. I also don't consider myself sex repulsed as I don't mind erotic imagery and fantasize about sex. However, the idea of having sex with anyone I know either disgusts me or doesn't interest me. I know that I don't sound like a typical asexual but I did learn about the asexuals with high sex drives. Now I'm really confused. However, I have no doubt that I am either heteroromantic or biromantic. That's basically it for now. If anyone could privately message me, then that would be great because I would like another perspective. I don't feel like there's anyone in my life whom I can talk about this with. Cheers Link to post Share on other sites
dissolved Posted August 28, 2016 Share Posted August 28, 2016 There's no such thing as a "typical" asexual, I'm afraid :D looking around these forums, you'll see a lot of diversity, but the one thing asexual folk have in common, it's that they're just not fussed about sex. They have no desire for it, and could quite happily go without it for the rest of their lives. Everything else is variable. There are plenty of asexual folk with high libidos, but they have no inclination to share it with anyone else. Spend some time reading the pinned topics in the asexuality forums and I'm sure you'll be fine :) Welcome to AVEN Link to post Share on other sites
Homer Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 I have been a member of AVEN for like 5 months now. It's amazing how much you can learn from fellow AVENites! I already figured out quite some new stuff about myself that I didn't even consider at all. Those "aaaahhh..." moments are precious. So make yourself comfortable, have some cake and start exploring :) Link to post Share on other sites
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