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Recognizing the Black Ring


AceVenturaHaHa

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AceVenturaHaHa

Hello,

I have recently (a few months ago) realized that I am ace. I am still working out a few things but feel that wearing a black ring will kinda help me get more comfortable with the idea because it is a sign of pride. I just hold this concern that someone will ask me about it (which I can lie about why I'm wearing it) or someone will recognize it and "out" me. I'm a private person, so I feel like over all I would prefer to keep my sexuality to myself unless necessary. Do many people in the LGBTQIA world know what the black ring means? I know a few gay guys and wondered if they would know what it meant. Do many people of the general population know? Has your ring ever been recognized?

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rainbow_dragon

Hi AceVenturaHaHa ! :)

I'm in the same situation as you and got a black ring since about 3 weeks.

As long as I know, not many people do know the symbolism of the black ring. I have many friends of the LGBTQIAP+ community who don't know at all the meaning of the ring. But I am in France, maybe is it different in other countries..?

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I've been wearing a black ring off and on for a little over two years now, and so far only one person has recognized it. The person who recognized it was an ace stranger who I met at a campus barbecue, and was super nice about it- she even found a way to casually mention she was ace first, giving me the chance to either come out or not depending on how I felt.

In general, I try to only wear my ring in places or situations where I would be okay with talking about asexuality if I were asked, but 99% of the time perhaps that's just me being overly cautious. I can't guarantee that no one in your life will know the meaning of the ring if you do decide to wear it, but most people won't even notice the ring, let alone recognize it as an ace symbol.

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Stargazer365

I've been wearing a black ring every day for the last 10 months. Besides my mom asking early on, no one has asked what it is or has even been curious. I doubt anyone even notices. I've noticed that I don't look at people's hands to see if they are wearing rings so I doubt others would too.

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I've had my ace ring for about 3 weeks now and no one has noticed it so far. No one has even commented on it. (Which I'm totally fine with, I don't exactly want to explain why I'm wearing it) but even when the topic of asexuality came up in class conversation (and even though I had the ring in full view of the class) no one said anything about it. So I don't really feel like a lot of people know about it.

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Phantasmal Fingers

Only other aces seem to know about it. At least, if anyone else has noticed they've kept this to themselves.

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I've noticed a few random acquaintances, usually creatives, wearing them. Never say anything because it's none of my business. I also live in a large urban area and work in a creative field.

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ContentedCentipede

I saw a girl wearing a black ring (I think on the middle finger of her right hand) at a group function some time after I had discovered AVEN and made sense of my asexuality - and learned about the black rings. I wanted to casually ask her about it, but I missed my chance and never saw her again.

When I learned about the ace black ring and placement on the middle finger of the right hand, I immediately though of the pair of rings I wore all through high school. I had a silver celtic knot on my left middle finger and a black wooden ring on my right middle finger, just because that's where they were most comfortable. Now I look back with satisfaction that teenaged-me wore an ace symbol almost every day for a few years, and didn't even know about the symbol or asexuality!

In more current news, I've been thinking about getting a black ring for my right middle finger - on purpose and as an ace symbol this time!

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A lot of people wear all sorts of rings that vary in size, shape and colour just for decoration. While most people would see the black ring, my guess would be that it's just another ring, so I think that you should be pretty safe.

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