Still unsure if asexual or not

[exotica79]

Hi everyone, I wanted to get some advice real quick. I have been going with this guy for a couple months now. At first we started out just hanging out watching anime and movies and there was some light cuddling as well. Then we went out for his birthday with a bunch of friends and at the end of the night when I was getting dropped off at my apartment he moved in and we made out a little. I had previously kissed a different a guy a little and so I knew that I wasn't a huge fan of kissing already. I guess with my current bf I am just unsure of what to do with the relationship now. I am still not a fan of kissing and so always dread a little bit the end of dates because he always goes for a kiss before I go inside the house. I have been very paranoid and standoffish to him because I am not sure how to tell him that I don't really like the kissing and that I don't think I will ever really want to go any further than we have so far. I guess I just want some advice from people disconnected from my friend group to help me out. I am so unsure if I'm asexual because I do enjoy reading very erotic fan fics and manga, but whenever I actually think about actually having sex or other people having sex just gives me the heebie jeebies. I don't know how to tell my friends or bf because I am just so unsure myself of what I feel. Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated thank you!

[Star Bit]

Not everyone's into making out, but your partner needs to know this if you want the relationship to last. Even if you don't it can break due to your unreciprocation; so whether you speak up about it it's gunna become a problem for one if not both of you and end up directly or indirectly killing the relationship. The only requirement for being asexual is not desiring sex with anyone; nothing more; not even masturbatory habits. And since you've made out you know that you don't have responsive sexual desire. Also, are you romantically attracted to him? For most people no sex alone is a breaking point, let alone not making out. So you may be better off dating asexuals. There are asexual dating sites, asexual meetups scheduled on and off of AVEN, and a minority of sexual people are ok with a sexless relationship. Really, you just have to say it; "I don't desire to make out with anyone (so he knows it's not just him) and i don't desire sex with anyone either; ever. Can we still date or is that a no go for you?"