Moonstruck Muse Posted August 19, 2016 Share Posted August 19, 2016 Hello. I'm new & wasn't sure where to post this, sorry if this isn't the optimal location. I'd say I'm normatively sexual towards masculine people, and demisexual towards feminine people. I'm definitely not sexual towards feminine people in the same way that I am towards masculine people. Here's my dilemma: I'm only romantically attracted to feminine people. So, out of curiosity: how would you describe my orientation most succintly? I usually just say I'm bi/pansexual but it's not really that accurate. It feels a bit disingenuous to say that I'm homosexual heteroromantic, because I can develop attraction towards feminine individuals... but I'm not exactly bi/pansexual heteroromantic either?? If anyone else has a sort of split opposite sexual-romantic orientation like this, I'd love for you to share. I've been kind of struggling recently to make sense of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted August 19, 2016 Share Posted August 19, 2016 By feminine and masculine are you just figuratively meaning male and female? It feels a bit disingenuous to say that I'm homosexual heteroromantic, because I can develop attraction towards feminine individuals... but I'm not exactly bi/pansexual heteroromantic either?? How are you not bi/pansexual heteroromantic? Link to post Share on other sites
Moonstruck Muse Posted August 19, 2016 Author Share Posted August 19, 2016 By feminine and masculine are you just figuratively meaning male and female? It feels a bit disingenuous to say that I'm homosexual heteroromantic, because I can develop attraction towards feminine individuals... but I'm not exactly bi/pansexual heteroromantic either?? How are you not bi/pansexual heteroromantic? Yes. Well, I'm not just meaning male and female but anyone leaning in that direction. That's why. I suppose that's a good question. You are still bisexual/pansexual if the attraction isn't equal; but it's not so much that the attraction isn't equal. If anything, when I am attracted to feminine people it is the strongest type of attraction. I'm literally an on/off switch when it comes to feminine people. When it comes to masculine people, I have a constant, medium level of attraction. I'm just wondering if there is a more precise way of phrasing that. I guess not. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted August 19, 2016 Share Posted August 19, 2016 So you're just being gender considerate or do you actually feel differently for masculinity and femininity? Either way, if you're demi with one then that'd be Gray-bisexual, but if you're romantically attracted to femininity then you could use femromantic, but that'd still be a type of biromantic. I think you need to skip the gender thing; it's making the terms too complicated. So just Heteroromantic Gray-bisexual should suffice. Link to post Share on other sites
Moonstruck Muse Posted August 19, 2016 Author Share Posted August 19, 2016 So you're just being gender considerate or do you actually feel differently for masculinity and femininity? Either way, if you're demi with one then that'd be Gray-bisexual, but if you're romantically attracted to femininity then you could use femromantic, but that'd still be a type of biromantic. I think you need to skip the gender thing; it's making the terms too complicated. So just Heteroromantic Gray-bisexual should suffice. Not sure I understand the first question. But thank you -- that makes sense. I was sort of wondering if being half-demisexual was a gray-sexual thing; I'll probably call myself gray-pansexual heteroromantic. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 19, 2016 Share Posted August 19, 2016 I have something SORT of the same, in that I can ONLY be emotionally attracted to people with penises (regardless of gender identiy) BUT I find women far more "attractive" than men. I can look at most women (total strangers on TV or whatever) naked and find something I *really* like about her body, but if a random man is naked on the TV I'm like "eeeeew!" (however if I develop emotional attraction to a guy he instantly becomes the sexiest thing in the world to me..aaah hormones :P)Also all that only applies to meat people, I feel differently for fictional characters.I just go with "grey romantic, grey A" (for meat people) as that seems like the easiest and most basic label to define "it's complicated" :3 Link to post Share on other sites
demisucre Posted August 22, 2016 Share Posted August 22, 2016 Hello. I'm new & wasn't sure where to post this, sorry if this isn't the optimal location. I'd say I'm normatively sexual towards masculine people, and demisexual towards feminine people. I'm definitely not sexual towards feminine people in the same way that I am towards masculine people. Here's my dilemma: I'm only romantically attracted to feminine people. So, out of curiosity: how would you describe my orientation most succintly? I usually just say I'm bi/pansexual but it's not really that accurate. It feels a bit disingenuous to say that I'm homosexual heteroromantic, because I can develop attraction towards feminine individuals... but I'm not exactly bi/pansexual heteroromantic either?? If anyone else has a sort of split opposite sexual-romantic orientation like this, I'd love for you to share. I've been kind of struggling recently to make sense of it. I would venture to say I have almost the exact same dilemma. I have sexual attraction towards men, but no desire to fuck them. It is extremely rare that I ever have romantic feelings towards men, making it very nearly impossible that I should want to be with/date one (there was only one case in my life). I am demisexual towards women, with very strong homoromantic feelings for a lot of them, minus even sexual attraction at times. I know for a fact that I would be able to have sex with a woman and enjoy it immensely if I felt a lot of love for this woman, and all physical attractions would follow that. I hope that's not too confusing. I have a hard time identifying. To people who ask, I just say I'm queer, but in my heart, I'm basically a Demisexual, homoromantic (femromantic?) individual. Lots of grey here. Link to post Share on other sites
interpol Posted August 27, 2016 Share Posted August 27, 2016 Hello. I'm new & wasn't sure where to post this, sorry if this isn't the optimal location. I'd say I'm normatively sexual towards masculine people, and demisexual towards feminine people. I'm definitely not sexual towards feminine people in the same way that I am towards masculine people. Here's my dilemma: I'm only romantically attracted to feminine people. So, out of curiosity: how would you describe my orientation most succintly? I usually just say I'm bi/pansexual but it's not really that accurate. It feels a bit disingenuous to say that I'm homosexual heteroromantic, because I can develop attraction towards feminine individuals... but I'm not exactly bi/pansexual heteroromantic either?? If anyone else has a sort of split opposite sexual-romantic orientation like this, I'd love for you to share. I've been kind of struggling recently to make sense of it. It can happen. Queer works if you don't feel okay using any of the other ones. Human being also works. Link to post Share on other sites
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