Can you help me try to figure out where I stand when it comes to having sex?

[Suede (8)]

I've been "confused" about my sexual orientation since adolescence... I'll try to explain myself here without making things too long and boring, hopefully you guys can give me your opinion and advice (:

a) I don't feel comfortable about having sex because of my genitalia, I can manage to have sex but afterwards I feel strange, I do not associate sex with love, not even when I used to have it in a committed relationship with a girl I loved.

b) I masturbate because orgasms feel good I guess...

c) I think I like both men and women but having sex with someone I like makes things weird for me, like I don't want a "normal relationship" where I'll feel like I have to have sex regularly...

d) I've been single for about 3 years now and sometimes I feel really lonely and longing for a relationship, but then I remember the "sex" part and I feel sad...

[Pearlygates]

Do you stand on your arms or legs? Or do you stand on the roof? Or do you stand on the stand?

[nanogretchen4]

If your main problem with sex is your own genitalia, but you have no problem with the genitalia of others, there might be some work arounds. You could give but not receive. Oral sex and handjobs are not gender specific if feeling misgendered during sex is an issue. If desired you may be able to have orgasms while clothed, for example by dry humping or using a vibrator. There are various toys and fetishes that might enhance things for yourself or your partner.

Or, if you just don't want to have sex at all you should look for an asexual partner. A dating site is probably the best bet.

[scarletlatitude]

It's perfectly okay to be unsure. I've flip flopped a million times on my sexual identities. Don't worry if you don't have a "label" right now. ;)

[interpol]

I've been "confused" about my sexual orientation since adolescence... I'll try to explain myself here without making things too long and boring, hopefully you guys can give me your opinion and advice (:

a) I don't feel comfortable about having sex because of my genitalia, I can manage to have sex but afterwards I feel strange, I do not associate sex with love, not even when I used to have it in a committed relationship with a girl I loved.

b) I masturbate because orgasms feel good I guess...

c) I think I like both men and women but having sex with someone I like makes things weird for me, like I don't want a "normal relationship" where I'll feel like I have to have sex regularly...

d) I've been single for about 3 years now and sometimes I feel really lonely and longing for a relationship, but then I remember the "sex" part and I feel sad...

a) Is it that you don't think it meets a certain standard? I'm not sure what you mean by "because of your genitalia."

b) Welcome to the club. It does feel better.

c) It sounds like you don't want to be pressured to have sex. Which is fair. Nobody should be. I don't know who has time to have sex regularly, frankly. We do too many things on a daily basis, and sex requires preparation for some people.

d) Do you believe you are sexually desirable? Do you lovingly accept your genitalia as part of your body, and your body as simply one part of you? That helps, before deciding whether or not you want to share your body with someone else.

[Suede (8)]

I've been "confused" about my sexual orientation since adolescence... I'll try to explain myself here without making things too long and boring, hopefully you guys can give me your opinion and advice (:

a) I don't feel comfortable about having sex because of my genitalia, I can manage to have sex but afterwards I feel strange, I do not associate sex with love, not even when I used to have it in a committed relationship with a girl I loved.

b) I masturbate because orgasms feel good I guess...

c) I think I like both men and women but having sex with someone I like makes things weird for me, like I don't want a "normal relationship" where I'll feel like I have to have sex regularly...

d) I've been single for about 3 years now and sometimes I feel really lonely and longing for a relationship, but then I remember the "sex" part and I feel sad...

a) Is it that you don't think it meets a certain standard? I'm not sure what you mean by "because of your genitalia."

b) Welcome to the club. It does feel better.

c) It sounds like you don't want to be pressured to have sex. Which is fair. Nobody should be. I don't know who has time to have sex regularly, frankly. We do too many things on a daily basis, and sex requires preparation for some people.

d) Do you believe you are sexually desirable? Do you lovingly accept your genitalia as part of your body, and your body as simply one part of you? That helps, before deciding whether or not you want to share your body with someone else.

I'm transgender :/ I forgot to mention that, sorry (I had it on my "gender" but I edited my profile a bit)