do you like talking about your asexuality?

[Tholomyes]

Generally, I'm of the stance that I don't need to bring it up, and if someone asks me, I'll generally tell the truth (so long as they don't become too personal or insisting in their questions), and in cases where it's relevant to the topic being discussed, I'll read the room and I may or may not mention something.

For example, I was having a conversation with a few friends and the topic eventually drifted to a mutual acquaintance of a couple of people in the group and how one person in the group doubted their asexuality (as well as the asexuality of other people at the college we were attending; his argument was largely a misuse of statistics, since the college was very LGBTQIA+ friendly, and thus had a lot of people of all identities, including asexual people; he claimed that it would be unlikely that the incidence of asexuality would be that much higher than the oft-quoted 1% number, so clearly many of the people who claimed to be asexual weren't actually). I spoke up a little on the existence of potential underlying variables, the possibility of error in that original 1% number (other studies have shown potentially higher percentages) and his general misuse of statistics, but I did so in very much an academic "your methodology for making that assertion is flawed" manner, without bringing up my own asexuality. Fortunately I didn't have to press it, since another friend of ours basically took the initiative on my initial criticisms, and eventually the topic was dropped. But that's generally how I will approach asexuality as a topic of conversation, if it's not asked of me specifically: use the information that I've gained through asexuality resources to contribute to the conversation, without mentioning my own asexuality.

[Podsnap]

I've stopped trying to explain it to people in real life. No one understands. Even my best friend, who is a lesbian, suggested I get therapy.

[JaneFalschen]

I would really like to talk about it and be able to explain it, but the people that know I'm asexual are either not interested or are uncomfortable about it and treat it as a tabu.

I would really like to talk about it and be able to explain it, but the people that know I'm asexual are either not interested or are uncomfortable about it and treat it as a tabu.

I would really like to talk about it and be able to explain it, but the people that know I'm asexual are either not interested or are uncomfortable about it and treat it as a tabu.

[Randomchaos]

Yeah... Not really, I'm okay talking to 2 of my friends about it, because one identifies as pan-romantic and the other is bi-sexual hetero-romantic so.... It's not awkward talking to them because they aren't totally different from me. Though I've kind of stopped correcting my 2nd friend when she says stuff like. "You'll understand wanting someone eventually," or "wait till you find someone you'll be worse then me." The 1st one understands and after I told her we haven't really brought it up again. I remember when I first came out to her she said "oh yeah I know what that is! I identify as pan-romantic." I was really happy :)

I'm never coming out to my parents and am pretty good at deflecting questions so it doesn't matter.

[Sutaomiiru]

I am a person who likes being educated and educating others. Thus, when someone shows real curiosity in asexuality, I am more than happy to tell them about it. To see their understanding grow along with new curiosity is truly a sight that will make your day. And the best part about it being a dialogue instead of some kind of class is that they can teach you something to.

With that said, there are those who obviously do not believe in you. They are not fun talking to.

[Smbrate]

Not really. Especially if they're asking the question in a what's wrong with you tone... I don't explain myself to anyone. Now when a manager found out I was on a dating site I messaged her and did explain, I'm not a good person to set up dates for, etc. Let's make it clear, between us, ha

[Smbrate]

I see where your going with the educating. For me, though, I've been insulted enough time I feel like I'm apologizing for the freak I am. I'm not normal, I'm....

[JaySpurs]

Not particularly, mainly due to having a bad experience trying to explain it to someone who was interested in me at University. They didn't really take it the right way and due to their own self-esteem issues seemed to think it was due to something they had done wrong, rather than it being something that they couldn't change.

Since then I have only told two people; my brother who while confused at first was quite understanding, and a friend who asked me if I was asexual when we were talking about relationships. Aside from those two I don't really like bringing it up as it isn't anyone's business but my own.

[bolt3791]

I don't really mind talking about my sexuality. If the topic comes up I'll explain it and try to answer any questions that are asked; as a result, I am out as an ace person to pretty much everyone I know. Almost everyone has been respectful about it.

[mikeman7918]

I'm still new to all of this and I'm still autisticly obsessing over it. If I weren't using this forum and the internet as an outlet for my obsession then it would be hard for me to not talk about it almost all the time. At the moment i would love to talk to anyone about it for any reason, but that's likely to change at some point in the near future when i find something new to obsess over.

[skymessenger]

If the topic comes up, I'll explain my asexuality and answer any questions (provided there's no rudeness). At first it was hard with my mother but she grew to be very understanding and will ask questions or tell me about articles she read/characters on tv. My friends were cool with it.

[teerex]

I'm relieved to hear that most people here say they don't talk about it much, since I am not one to bring it up either. It's mostly because I know they wouldn't 'get it' and I'm not exactly the most articulate person. If someone said to me, "are you asexual?" I would be honest with them, but otherwise, I don't think I'd go out of my way to discuss it. I'd also probably be uncomfortable and lose respect for the other person if they were at all weird about it.

[Andiamo]

I actually like talking about it because it makes me happy to educate people, but I only really discuss it if the topic comes up on its own, unless I'm with really close friends.

[Artistofnoname]

To be honest no. In life I would rather focus on other things and normally I don't even say I'm asexual unless either asked or in reference to something where it applies. I also state it as a way of saying I'm not interested in a relationship so I'm not leading anyone on.

Otherwise its pretty obvious without my saying so. I'm not in a closet or anything I just don't parade it around and be all "in your face" about it.

[Aloki24601]

I haven't had a ton of time to discuss it since I've figured out what it is. I imagine as I become more comfortable with the concept myself(how I fit the spectrum, etc) I will enjoy talking about it with others. I really enjoy talking to people about things I've learned our things that have positively affected my life. So I talk about acupuncture, biking, politics, or whatever I'm learning about. I assume this will similar. I think it is so important for me to have different cultural experiences and to understand others. I feel like this is a way to expand knowledge. Some people may not show appreciation immediately, but they will likely ferment the conversation took place. If I talk to 100 people about it, and one person comes to understand themselves, their partner, or their friend/family member better, it's totally worth to me :) If people(who are not close friends/family) tell me I'm broken, or need to be fixed, etc. - they are the ones missing out, not me. People think I'm crazy for getting acupuncture, but I think they are crazy for not being willing to try it. I am so confident in how acu has positively affected me. I hope to be so positive in how the asexuality spectrum has really opened my eyes to myself and others, that iw can exude that same confidence in this conversation. When others refuse to be open, that says a lot about their character, and likely how I don't need to spend much time with them whether we discuss a/sexuality or not. But family/friends can be different and hard...