Think Im asexual?

[Millz88]

So at the advice of a friend I decided to check this site out to get more information. I have been having a identity crisis of sorts about whether I'm asexual or not. I want to be with someone, just not in a sexual/intimate way just emotionally.I used to think in previous relationships that the reason I avoided sex was due to inexperience or body issues but since I have been going to the gym and feeling better about my body and gaining more confidence, I ruled it out.I still have crushes on people but it's different than what everyone else has described to me.I also started having sex with a couple different people to see if that was the case, people who i didn't know and even a person I did who was kind enough to help me figure out answers.Everytime I did, I didnt think about how I felt about it but how the other person felt, When they asked if I enjoyed it I lied to spare their feelings and felt detached from it all like I was missing something. I've been feeling really bad about myself lately like there's something everybody else has that I'm missing.If anybody could help me figure this out with some insight on this it would really mean alot to me.

[_Need_Advice765]

My first impression is that you can be asexual, that´s the most logic explanation I can think of, and probably asexual hetero-romantic if you catch emotional feelings for the opposite sex, but don´t want to have sex with them.

It is common to want a relationship, emotionally, even if you are asexual, one dosen´t contradict the other. Love (emotional feelings, crushes) and sex ( physical attraction) is two different things.

I can relate to the feeling of missing something everybody else has, but the truth is at least 1% of us is asexual. You aren´t missing something, it´s just a part of you in the same way some are hetero and other homosexual.

I understand why you experience it like an identity crisis, and it is a process to figure out your sexual orientation and accepting who you are, if you want to think of yourself as asexual or something else, there will always be struggling in the process and in order to accept you as you are. I´m struggling with the same.

But it´s important that the only one who can label you, are yourself, and if you decide you are asexual, then there are many options and people who feel the same as you out there. I want an emotionally relationship only, too.

[Anthracite_Impreza]

Reading your post I think you could well be ace as you don't seem to desire sex with anyone, which is the only rule (ignore the definition at the top of the page, it's misleading).

[indigorose]

I'm not sure if you are a male or female, but a lot of people need an emotional bond to want sex (especially females), so having casual sex may not have worked for you. I know I can't do casual sex. You could be asexual, but maybe keep an open mind.