Lightbluepanda Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 Hi 😄 I'm Rae .....not sure what to put here. I never thought I'd actually join a forum. I've been knowingly asexual for about two years now. I can't describe the relief I felt when a friend I described my feelings to told me it sounded like I was asexual like their partner. I almost immediately looked it up and agreed it fit me perfectly though my asexuality is stronger(?) then their partners as I can't stand sex at all it feels completely wrong and I'm also aromantic preferring to be on my own with close friends and family. Up to then it had felt like there must be something wrong with me. Friends still don't quite get it though they do try and I haven't told my family as I don't feel confident enough to do so yet. Hoping to find friends here that can help me gain that confidence in myself as I still sometimes feel like I'm broken somehow after spending so long feeling that way it hard to break that way of thinking. Link to post Share on other sites
LuciferReads Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 Welcome! The same thing happened to me. My friend mentioned asexuality, and I went home and googled it straight away. I haven't told my parents, but luckily I have a diverse group of friends who are very understanding. If you want someone to talk to feel free to PM me, I'm also new here. :D Link to post Share on other sites
Imerza Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 Welcome to AVEN! You're not broken, and you'll find plenty of people that you can befriend here. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Twigwilter Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Hi Rae, You sound very much like me. I've been "knowingly asexual" for three years now but had known for a lot longer really- I just didn't have a word for it. I'm not fully out to family and friends- it's no secret but I certainly avoid discussing it with certain people. With most people I'm happy to tell them, if they ask. I'm also not one for forums but I'm glad I joined this one as I used to, like you, feel broken. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
deltaX Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Hello Rae, and welcome to AVEN!! :cake: I think a lot of people here (including myself) will be able to relate to those occasional feelings of brokenness, so you definitely aren't alone. The reality is though that there's absolutely nothing wrong with being asexual or aromantic, and you certainly aren't broken. I've known about asexuality for a little over two years now, and I've found that for me, greater confidence in my orientation did come with time. My biggest advice would be to give yourself time to process it, and try to not be to hard on yourself for what you do or don't feel. Anyway, thanks for taking the time to introduce yourself here, and I hope that being a member of this community is helpful for you! Best of luck! :) Link to post Share on other sites
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