Heidirs Posted July 23, 2016 Share Posted July 23, 2016 I've thrown around the idea of my husband and I going to sex therapy in hopes it could help us better compromise or encourage us to try other methods for love making. I was wondering if anyone else has tried sex therapy, if you found it helpful or not, and any advice going forward. For context, I'm the Ace, hubby is sexual. Link to post Share on other sites
indigorose Posted July 23, 2016 Share Posted July 23, 2016 I'm interested in this as well. I am gonna start working with my therapist on this (she is working in conjunction with a sex therapist who will guide her a bit). Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 24, 2016 Share Posted July 24, 2016 Moved topic from Asexual Relationships to TGA Jayce, Asexual Relationships moderator Link to post Share on other sites
scarletlatitude Posted July 24, 2016 Share Posted July 24, 2016 I've been to therapy, but not sex therapy. The best advice I can give is to find someone who you really both like to talk to. It's okay to go to a therapist, see that you don't jive with them, and then try someone else. It's important to find someone that you both feel comfortable around or else it'll just be increasingly awkward. Link to post Share on other sites
Heidirs Posted July 27, 2016 Author Share Posted July 27, 2016 I'm wondering if people haven't thought of trying sex therapy and aren't sure about the idea of it or feel apprehensive about it? Open to that discussion as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Evren Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 I have heard that some asexuals had bad run ins with sex thearapists, because they tried to get them to get over their sex "hangups" and have sex more often. I have no idea how frequent this is, and it probably depends on the thearapist, just somthing to watch out for. Link to post Share on other sites
Heidirs Posted July 31, 2016 Author Share Posted July 31, 2016 I have heard that some asexuals had bad run ins with sex thearapists, because they tried to get them to get over their sex "hangups" and have sex more often. I have no idea how frequent this is, and it probably depends on the thearapist, just somthing to watch out for. Yeah, I was thinking it would probably be good to check that chosen therapist at least knows of and believes in asexuality. Although you'd think with a good therapist it wouldn't matter. From what I've been reading it's not uncommon for sexual couples to attend sex therapy after having a non-sex life or cases where the female partner doesn't enjoy it. The answer in these situations isn't to simply have more sex, it's to identify relationship barriers and draw partners closer to each other. And I think that'd be advice all couples could use. Link to post Share on other sites
indigorose Posted July 31, 2016 Share Posted July 31, 2016 Yeah I have feeling it would also have to do with your mindset. Like for me I am quite curious in nature and like to look at all options, so I personally wouldn't mind trying sex therapy. I would just see it is another way to learn about myself, even if I don't actually make any progress as such. I still think I would learn more about me regardless. I mean I talk about sexual issues already with my therapist and it has helped me explore more about myself and see different ways of looking at things. Link to post Share on other sites
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