ihatethis Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 I am a male, I find women attractive (I think sexually) but I am not interested in having a relationship, it is something that I do not want. I am a virgin and I am ok staying one for the rest of my life. I have not masturbated in about seven years and I never will again. I do not view porn but I do look at images of attractive female celebrities online. I think I like their beauty rather than sexiness. I have read about asexuality and would like to know more about it, I think I am asexual but I am confused cause I do feel attraction. I wondering could this be an attraction to beauty rather than a sexual one? Please tell me want you think and feel free to ask any questions. Thank you Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Katerin Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 If you don't feel sexual desire toward them, and you are aesthetically attracted to them as you say (attracted to their beauty) but not sexually, then you may very well be asexual. Sexual attraction and aesthetic attraction are two different things even though they can coincide. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Katerin Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 You may also be "aromantic" if you are not romantically interested in women or don't want a romantic relationship. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ihatethis Posted July 21, 2016 Author Share Posted July 21, 2016 Thanks for your response, it so hard to understand because I definitely do feel attraction but I am starting to think it is not sexual and society makes out they are both the same thing (sexual and aesthetic). Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Katerin Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 Thanks for your response, it so hard to understand because I definitely do feel attraction but I am starting to think it is not sexual and society makes out they are both the same thing (sexual and aesthetic). You're very welcome, and I totally understand. Luckily, you're in the right place to ask (: I've learned quite a few things joining this site just recently, about my own sexuality and many others. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 Society doesn't make the two seem to be the same thing, it's just because you're not sexual that you misinterpret what's going on in a sexual person's head, so you're the one misinterpreting things. Also, different types of attraction aren't talked about or even really known of by most people, so that doesn't help. There are 6 types of attraction. They're all typically felt with romantic attraction (and why there can be confusion between attractions) but they aren't needed to make it valid. They can all be felt separately, without romantic attraction, and in different combinations. The desire to act in a certain way can also be separate from the attraction (e.g. sexual attraction with no sexual desire/desire to act on it, or romantic desire with no romantic attraction), but having either of those means the person is sexual/romantic/gray. · Sexual attraction - the impulse to have sex with a specific person; to do genital involving things to their body. Synonyms are sexually alluring, sexually appealing, sexually enticing, sexually tempting, etc. · Romantic attraction - an emotion; so it doesn't translate well into words, but it can be inadequately put as soft/warm/fuzzy feelings with some degree of fixation (at least in comparison to one's normality with others). Some people have a physical reaction to the feeling and others don’t (i.e. butterflies in their stomach, heart rate increase, blushing, etc. [though those are also symptoms of platonic nervousness]). Others may react mentally with a dreamy mindset, anxious euphoria, infatuation, romantic fantasies, etc. · Aesthetic attraction - the pull to look at someone because of their looks and/or mannerisms, which is different from recognizing good looks/what is aesthetically pleasing. · Emotional attraction - the fixation on someone because of their emotions (optimism, stoicness, etc.), and by extent personality. I would compare it to having a favorite character or admirance. · Sensual attraction - the impulse to have non-genital physical contact with someone specific. Platonically displaying this above the norm qualifies as a type of queerplatonic relationship (QPR). I would compare it to how many people have the urge to act toward their pet(s), though this term is typically applied to other humans. There are 3 forms of sensual attraction; platonic, romantic (which while similar; past making out obviously not being platonic, actually differ in the way it's done and the person's expression while doing so), and sexual (in the sense that it’s a kink done for sexual arousal, not because it includes sex/genital contact --which is under Gray-asexuality). · Platonic attraction - (aka a friend crush or squish; a play on the romantic word crush) the impulse to further know or befriend someone specific. The desired bond can vary from being friends, to close friends, to best friends. It may include nervousness or admirance, and once the desired bond is reached the squish goes away. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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