an gray-a asexual lady in a relationship with a sexual male?

[haleh123]

i just found out after i got into a relationship with a sexual male, that i was an asexual, i did not know there was a term for being asexual, but i have always enjoyed being myself in it

i just started a relationship and he wants sex later down the line, but i don't

i think i am gray-a because i enjoy sexual activities, just not sex, i have never had real sex, but i just don't have the desire to have, i feel i might enjoy it but would feel more comfortable not to do so

i hope this makes sense

i was also hoping to get some advice from anyone on what should i do in this situation

i person i am with is attracted to me on many levels and doesn't want to let me go

haleh, thanks for reading

[Snao Cone]

What kinds of sexual activities do you enjoy? If that's what you're comfortable with, and it helps meet at least some of his needs and desires for sexual intimacy, that's certainly a good starting point. Relationships are gradually built upon in one way or another, so you may feel more comfortable with having sex as a compromise further down the line.

Just ensure that what you do is your choice, and your reasons for making those choices aren't only "because he asked."

Welcome, and I hope you find AVEN helpful.

[haleh123]

i found your real kind and helpful

i do like to be aroused, but not to the point of intercourse, i think i just have low libido

[Star Bit]

Again, what do you mean by sexual activities? Making out? Oral sex, blow jobs? The latter are types of sex, but if you just enjoy them and don't desire them then that's still asexual and not Gray-A. Enjoyment and desire are two different things and aces just don't desire any type of sex. But if you just wanna make out that's also ace.