Why do most asexuals / or aromantics hate romantic movies/songs so much?

[Kayze]

Many peeps weighed in on this, but I'll add my voice too, even if only to add another tally to other's points.

Sexuality and romantic attraction aren't exclusive. There are asexuals who are aromantic, sexuals that are aromantic, etc but also many that ARE romantic. Someone could also be sexually attracted to the same sex but romantically attracted to the opposite sex. And these are just labels to help sorta communicate the complex composition of the chemicals within all our brains.

As for not praising or not being into romantic songs/stories, that doesn't even have to involve sexual nor romantic orientations. Many might just be tired of the same old thing, repackaged with slightly altered details. There's also a lack of LGBTQ representation in romantic songs/stories/movies, so many could also have the issue with not being able to relate at all. I know these things are true for me, but not always. A well done story with some originality can win me over.

[Warsaw]

I don't care one way or the other.  Keep in mind I'm a dude, and for the most part, romantic movies and songs are bloody boring towatch and listen to.  I prefer crazy prog rock with odd time signatures, crazy guitar licks, etc.  Most romantic songs don't provide that.  As for romantic movies, I like romantic subplots, but not an entire plot dedicated to romance.  Let's take one of my favorite series, Lord of the Rings.  There was romance yes, but it was interspersed between epic high fantasy.

[Rhyme]

I personally don't hate romantic movies/songs as a concept, but I dislike that life seems to revolve around romance. I'm often annoyed at how characters in movies/books are so fixated on having a romantic partner, even though the world is falling apart around them and they're all dying. I also don't connect as much to songs about love, but that won't stop me from listening to a good song just because it's about love. 

[Zebrafinch]

For me, with songs it's that about 90% of all songs are love songs - I like good love songs, but I think that if about half of all songs were love songs it would be better. 

Quite a few movies and some books - I just hate it when the only woman in it is just there for the hero to flirt/fall in love/have sex with, I.e. Bond girls. I'd rather there weren't any women characters and they just got on with the plot. Or even better, the female characters were the ones getting on with the plot.

And I do not understand what Jane Eyre saw in Mr Rochester.

 

Having said that, i love folk songs, Jane Austen and Twilight.

[Nahteb15]

This is an interesting thread... and guess it depends on what you define as a romantic film/song.... my musical taste leans towards alternative and rock music which isn't generally thought of as romantic it's probably more sexual. I do find some "traditional" romantic songs quite cringe inducing but I don't think I'd go so far as to saying I hate them. I'm more indifferent to them and therefore choose not to listen to them.

 

As for films I do enjoy a superhero or action film but can sit through romantic films (though I do often roll my eyes at them). I don't think I'll ever really get those sex scenes where two people lock eyes and lunge at each other helplessly  (or how clothes come off in a choreographed and effortless way) but I don't care enough about it to hate them.... just don't get me started on Titanic and those "but it's so sad" conversations... am I the only one who knew that wasn't going to end well by simply knowing that bit of history?

 

I agree that mainstream media propogates the myth that you are somehow incomplete without a plus one, sex and romance but I'm a realist enough to not let it bother me. So I don't hate these things I kind of don't really care about them...

 

If that makes me weird so be it... *shrugs shoulders*

[AussieIsAce]

i hate that romantic shit when im around other people i find it even more gross. 

 

if im alone i can get into some love songs and movies, because then it doesnt create this strange environment where sexual people start to say things like "awww how sweet" or "i wish I had a man to say those things to me" cause then im just sitting there and ill have to say "yeah me tooo sure" and lie to my mates. 

[JustanotherTobigirl]

I'm asexual and I love romantic songs and cartoon movies.I feel like most people just don't like things they can't relate too. 

[rhwrd]

I do like small and subtle romantic subplots in movies or tv-shows, as long as they don't overwhelm the general plot which should be without romance for me. What I can't stand is romantic comedy or drama, it's so obvious how the movie is going to be and I feel I need plots to think about (crime, politics, science), plots that challenge my brain and intelligence for the most time. Also most of those fluffy movies seem so unrealistic, I'd become depressive comparing them to how real life is, ugh. 

 

Romantic songs are annoying because there is such a flood of them, too many songs are about love, romance or break ups. Some of them are okay, it just really depends on the genre and band I guess. 

 

All in all romance is a nice thing and I love to ship characters, but plots revolving only about romantic relationships are so plain and just boring, there are more important issues in real life.

[athenahono]

Like most people have been saying, I think it's mostly personal taste and relatability, and just the fact that it's everywhere. I personally don't mind a bit of romance as long as it's realistic and unforced. Which is hard to find in mainstream media. Generally I find shows with decent romantic plots in the background of a good long plot in a show. I also have a hard time with het couples in shows because a lot of the time it feels forced and unrealistic, which is why I tend to ship gay couples, cause they are actually more realistic in personality, compatibility, interests, life situations etc. Don't have anything against het, it's just often to unrealistic for me, but I do have a few het ships. Like one of my favorite het couples of all time is Dr. Temperance Brennan and Agent Seely Booth from the crime show Bones. It's a good long slow burn that's well written and believable. But it's still hard for me to find other main couples that are good. Plus I'm also just addicted to plot and character development, so that also doesn't help. I also hate that most plots with romances in it, don't even need them. It would be just fine without them. I know many sexuals who would agree with me on that. 

 

As for songs, yeah I don't mind romantic songs or even sex songs (I'm pretty sex-positive) but sometimes they are just so cheesy and annoying and cringy. I have to really like the voice and the music often times. I also just don't listen to a lot of mainstream music because I'm sick of just poor writing and not very meaningful lyrics. I want music that talks about real things like mental health and surviving tough times. I want originality. I want stories told in songs. I also really like video game music written by Youtubers and small artists because they pour their heart and souls into it and they do a good job and they're being nerdy and creating amazing things with words and musical talent. 

 

I want music that I can listen to for hours and not get bored. I want music that I can relate to. Most romance and sex songs are unrealistic to me and completely unrealtable. Sometimes I'll find some good ones but generally i stick to small artists and Youtubers because they create better content than most mainstream ever will and they also don't make the same crap over and over again like mainstream tends too.