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I am absolutely NOT interested in any kind of sexual activity. I'm thirty-one and have never even been kissed. It ain't happening.

However, I am curious about how sex is for other people. I take in a lot of pornography, as a sort of research. I've used my writing as a way to explore this quietly for myself. And I have rather explicit sexual fantasies. They aren't always connected to arousal for me, though they sometimes are.

I think it's connected more to my personal exploration of interpersonal power dynamics; some of my mental scenarios are rather BDSM-esque. But I'm not sure.

Just curious if others have experienced this, and if it's connected to actual physical response for you, or if it's strictly a mental exercise.

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I don't either, and I don't watch porn, and at least not of real people. I do read explicit gay fanfiction of boys butt fucking other boys, and I'm a girl. lol but it doesn't turn me on, and I certainly don't masterbait to it. Like sometimes I might imagine, or daydream of my OTP (One True Pair), but again it doesn't turn me on, and I don't masterbait to it. Like for me it's like extreme fangirling. Like when you get a new kitten,and can't get over how adorable it is. Idk so I get you could say that I do have fantasies, but they don't turn me on. They usually just turn into writing prompts ideas, to make my fanfiction that will probably never get actually written.lol

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I don't either, and I don't watch porn, and at least not of real people. I do read explicit gay fanfiction of boys butt fucking other boys, and I'm a girl. lol but it doesn't turn me on, and I certainly don't masterbait to it. Like sometimes I might imagine, or daydream of my OTP (One True Pair), but again it doesn't turn me on, and I don't masterbait to it. Like for me it's like extreme fangirling. Like when you get a new kitten,and can't get over how adorable it is. Idk so I get you could say that I do have fantasies, but they don't turn me on. They usually just turn into writing prompts ideas, to make my fanfiction that will probably never get actually written.lol

Same for me. It's mostly a mental exercise. I just want to understand something that I don't experience, I think, but I can only filter it through a lens that I understand.

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Sexual fantasies? No. Sex is highly unappealing/unattractive to me so I wouldn't want to spend time fantasizing about it in any way, shape, or form. Non-sexual fantasies? All the time. Helps me write, helps me sleep.

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Alamoraine

I don't have any sort of sex-related fantasies; I'm pretty much averse to the entire action. The closest I have are a pair of fetishes that actually have nothing to do with the act of sex itself. XD

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That's interesting, to me.

My fantasies are sex related, but they're not necessarily erotic. I don't even necessarily experience anything physically. I always thought it was an expression of curiosity for the way others lived, that I didn't understand/express equally. Perhaps what I'm experiencing is something different than asexuality. I do have a PD in the way, after all.

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alpacaterpillar

I don't have any sort of sex-related fantasies; I'm pretty much averse to the entire action. The closest I have are a pair of fetishes that actually have nothing to do with the act of sex itself. XD

Seconded, though I only have one fetish.

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I don't have any sort of sex-related fantasies; I'm pretty much averse to the entire action. The closest I have are a pair of fetishes that actually have nothing to do with the act of sex itself. XD

So, if it's not too personal, may I ask what these entail?

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Not at all; the only reason I would even think about detailing it (and this would be the first place where I've openly done so) is because I find that this place is full of mature people who would be less likely to point and judge. ;)

My twosome are stuffing (overfeeding) and soft-core vore (swallowing people whole). Out of sheer honesty, I can't really explain it; maybe I picked up a fixation somewhere or read The Wolf and the Seven Little Kids one time too many when I was young. My only clue is that I do recall thinking about it a lot when I was little, and it makes me wonder if other fetishes stem from something similar. Like I've heard of a less common one where people get turned on by balloons; maybe they always pined for them when they were on outings as kids, or maybe they just liked the feel of them when they had them. Who knows? But I do find fetishes and their origins fascinating, which can be frustrating at times because to many it's an understandably uncomfortable topic.

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Not at all; the only reason I would even think about detailing it (and this would be the first place where I've openly done so) is because I find that this place is full of mature people who would be less likely to point and judge. ;)

My twosome are stuffing (overfeeding) and soft-core vore (swallowing people whole). Out of sheer honesty, I can't really explain it; maybe I picked up a fixation somewhere or read The Wolf and the Seven Little Kids one time too many when I was young. My only clue is that I do recall thinking about it a lot when I was little, and it makes me wonder if other fetishes stem from something similar. Like I've heard of a less common one where people get turned on by balloons; maybe they always pined for them when they were on outings as kids, or maybe they just liked the feel of them when they had them. Who knows? But I do find fetishes and their origins fascinating, which can be frustrating at times because to many it's an understandably uncomfortable topic.

See, I do the same thing. I wonder about fetishes, even though I have them myself. Hell, I wonder about MY OWN fetishes. I can't explain them, I can only guess.

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Alamoraine

See, I do the same thing. I wonder about fetishes, even though I have them myself. Hell, I wonder about MY OWN fetishes. I can't explain them, I can only guess.

I know there's been research on the subject, but since I bet you anything there aren't many that will out and say theirs, it's probably inconclusive at best. I have the mindset that I probably won't understand it if it isn't mine, but that doesn't really matter to me. It's just one more thing that gives us variety as people, and it's not like having one means you're doing anything bad. My husband knows about mine, and since neither one involves a third party, he doesn't really mind.

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See, I do the same thing. I wonder about fetishes, even though I have them myself. Hell, I wonder about MY OWN fetishes. I can't explain them, I can only guess.

I know there's been research on the subject, but since I bet you anything there aren't many that will out and say theirs, it's probably inconclusive at best. I have the mindset that I probably won't understand it if it isn't mine, but that doesn't really matter to me. It's just one more thing that gives us variety as people, and it's not like having one means you're doing anything bad. My husband knows about mine, and since neither one involves a third party, he doesn't really mind.

I am single. I'lll likely never be married. I've never even KISSED another person. I'm a freak, officially.

Sometimes I wonder if mine would ever come to light. I doubt it. They are distinctly power/consent related, they'd never come to pass. This is ok by me. my goal was never to reproduce. Shit, my genes are a fucking mess. No Thanks.

I'm pretty drunk, apologies.

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Alamoraine

I am single. I'lll likely never be married. I've never even KISSED another person. I'm a freak, officially.

Sometimes I wonder if mine would ever come to light. I doubt it. They are distinctly power/consent related, they'd never come to pass. This is ok by me. my goal was never to reproduce. Shit, my genes are a fucking mess. No Thanks.

I'm pretty drunk, apologies.

I lucked out big time with that; over 15 years ago I literally swam up to my husband in a swimming pool and just started babbling to him about a penny I'd found at the pool's bottom. Who knew I'd keep in touch, end up marrying him a decade later, and find out that he actually cares less about sex than me? XD He even put up with my aversion to anything past a peck when it came to kissing (I have spit issues XP); I'm doing better with that now. As for freak, I say what I've always said: "What's so hot about normal?" ;)

Honestly, I've always believed that what one does in the bedroom is one's own business, and if one doesn't feel comfortable sharing, then they shouldn't be made to. People use them too much to pass judgement, likely having their own and are unwilling to come to terms with it. At least I can admit that it takes weird shit to make me feel something. :P

To be honest, I'm wanting less and less to reproduce too; I wanted to at first, but the way things are going in the world now, I'm kind of afraid to bring an innocent child into such a place. o.O That and I think sex is icky. =3

No worries; it's actually pretty neat to talk to someone so openly, since I really can't do it anywhere else. :blush:

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cantthinkofanythingclever

I'll go months at a time feeling no kind of arousal at all, but times will come when I do and I do fantasize and sometimes watch porn and get turned on. Only during the times that I can feel arousal, which happens less than the time periods I can't. My aversion is more to the act itself. It's kind of strange I guess.

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I have had and have sexual fantasies despite having no interest in sex but these days I tend to have more romantic fantasies.

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binary suns

I have sexual fantasies, although most of my time spent thinking about them has to do with the mundane aspects of character development. Usually also I imagine the other people who aren't me having sex, or I'm not the real me I'm in character. usually if I imagine myself being part of sex, it's usually tolerating some sexual character chasing after and having sex with me. I never imagine any real person.

I find it erotic and arousing. but well, if I try to imagine it as "real" I shiver and am repulsed... it's pretty clear to me this eroticism is fantasy only. I mean I've had sex, and there were times where like happens in certain fantasies, i tolerate the touch and just allow the physical stimulation to do it's job to my parts. but that's pretty much the "Dead fish" approach that sexuals loathe :lol: if I was in a certain mood I could help out with a straight face and act enthusiastic, but it was basically a chore. well I confess I was curious at first, but that curiosity got satisfied very quickly..

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I don't know if they're sexual fantasies so much as "heavy petting" fantasies. Kissing, groping, licking, caressing, skin-to-skin contact. But I would be very uncomfortable with anyone other than myself stimulating my genitals, so I don't like fantasizing about it. PIV sex sometimes, because I don't think I'd physically get anything out of that, but definitely not oral sex or fingering.

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oh yes, but it doesnt involve other people... just the object of my fetish, and its not sex, more like... groping and stuff. sometimes theres other people but nothing sexual ever happens then. and im only interested in the object not the people

i dunno where mine came from but i do have an idea... i suppose ill never know

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I have fantasies both sexual and otherwise. Most of mine, like yours feature some very heavy BDSM content. I also have quite a few kinks, both sexual and not, so those feature a lot too.

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I have sexual fantasies, although most of my time spent thinking about them has to do with the mundane aspects of character development. Usually also I imagine the other people who aren't me having sex, or I'm not the real me I'm in character. usually if I imagine myself being part of sex, it's usually tolerating some sexual character chasing after and having sex with me. I never imagine any real person.

I find it erotic and arousing. but well, if I try to imagine it as "real" I shiver and am repulsed... it's pretty clear to me this eroticism is fantasy only. I mean I've had sex, and there were times where like happens in certain fantasies, i tolerate the touch and just allow the physical stimulation to do it's job to my parts. but that's pretty much the "Dead fish" approach that sexuals loathe :lol: if I was in a certain mood I could help out with a straight face and act enthusiastic, but it was basically a chore. well I confess I was curious at first, but that curiosity got satisfied very quickly..

This is what I was trying to express, thank you. Like you, I never imagine myself in these scenarios. Only ever made up characters. It has turned into a plot building exercise, but before that, I think it was a kind of self-building exercise, perhaps because I realized that not feeling the real thing made me different.

The idea of actually having physical sexual contact with another person repulses me deeply. I can give another person a hug, but it's strictly social playacting, and I don't like doing it. Anything more intimate than that makes my skin crawl. I'm making a face typing this. :lol:

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Propper Techie

if it helps I wasnt kissed til aged 27 & a yr later did it and loathed them both! so much so I am now asexual & aromantic, I'm not even one for hugging unless I have to. ive often wondered where fetishes 'come' from is it a case of us walking round, see something and go 'hm thats an ideal fetish..' or is there more psych wise? - like for example being a goth, theatre tech & horse rider, then when I think on the rare occasions (normally round time of the month) it's normally BDSM-y but PERSON being hurt and/or Johnny Depp, its never me! oo now that would be a nice 30th pressie depp dressed in his Sweeney Todd gear going "I want you on this couch right now" :p Deamon youre not missing much, I'd planned on staying 'pure' my whole life due to how much it repulses me. but a guy I thought was nice, therefore take care of me, didn't he used me and I still feel 'unclean.'

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I sometimes do I guess, sexual and otherwise. Sometimes they're arousing.

Then again sometimes fast vehicles and violence arouses me too so I don't really put much thought into it.

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Propper Techie

mind Freddie sums it up quite nicely imo. "is this the real life, is this just fantasy? caught in a landslide no escape from reality" :p

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Well I don't, not really. At least not really sexual. More like of physical contact (hugs) and sleeping next to the person I'm having a fantasy about. Does this make sense ?

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I do, and they tend to be pretty kinky I guess. Like, spanking (not too much) is sexy for me.

But I'd never want that to happen in real life. Oh no, I'd have a heart attack and then run away.

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Haven't read anyone's replies so I hope I don't interrupt a convo or something, but:

Yeaaa boyeee! I'm also very interested in how sex is for others. I think sex is super interesting in theory, lol, and I'm happy other people have something they enjoy so much, plus I like thinking up sexual things to throw in stories to appeal to that huge crowd. It's not usually me in the sexual situations, but I do have kinks and sometimes sex fits the scenes in my imagination. I get a little excited, but it's no different from when I'm dreaming of all the sweets I could eat or watching an intense TV show. It's about the same feeling as trying something new, except it's weaker annnd I'm not sure I'll try sex anytime soon.

A quarter of the time I think "If I ever had sex, this is how I would do it... *cue steamy jazz song*", half the time I think "A cool sex scene would go like this!", and the other quarter of the time I think "Why the #$%@ would I ever have sex?" Regardless, thinking about it is very different from having it!

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Propper Techie

oh and I also love the floor show bit in The Rocky Horror Picture Show, so I'd prob include that what with having the lips tattooed on me as well as "life is an illusion" from the opening bit by narrator that goes "there are those that say that life is an illusion. ."

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Yes, but they're definitely fictional and I'm not usually a part of them. Even if it's "me" in there it's a version of me that is sexual. It's for interesting stories instead of arousal.

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While I have romantic fantasies, I don't usually have sexual fanatsies...

TMI

...except for the recurring fantasy of being gangbanged by a roving band of midgets

no, really

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