butterflydreams Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 or started laughing for no reason partway through. ...or crying Thanks to AVEN I don't think I'd cry about this anymore, as I know there are others like me...who would be amused by my experience if I told them about it :P Hehe, I guess I'll have to keep that in mind. Secret about me revealed: I always pictured myself crying during sex...and not because it was beautiful :( Link to post Share on other sites
Kanenas Posted July 4, 2016 Author Share Posted July 4, 2016 The thought of someone breaking out into tears because the sex is so beautiful is comical to me. I'm truly not someone who is easily excited and when in a joyous state, I certainly do not cry. Hysterical uterus bearers! Oh, wait... Link to post Share on other sites
butterflydreams Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 I always imagined it as something painful. Not necessarily physically, but emotionally. It always felt like something someone else was going to force me to do, even if I didn't want to. Link to post Share on other sites
PurpleAce Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 I guess it'd be boring AF. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 The thought of someone breaking out into tears because the sex is so beautiful is comical to me. I'm truly not someone who is easily excited and when in a joyous state, I certainly do not cry. Hysterical uterus bearers! Oh, wait... I've known a few people to cry during sex but it's usually just because their orgasm is so strong that they let go emotionally (unintentionally). Like when some people cry if they're *really* scared or *really* happy or *really* angry, it's a massive flood of chemicals, hormones, and emotions and they can't hold the tears back? ..Orgasm creates massive hormonal release etc so when it's strong enough it can just be very overwhelming. I know every time I get angry I cry, just because I can't handle the feelings and emotions etc. Same thing but in a positive way for "happy sex crying" I guess. (I've cried a lot during sex but never because I was happy or having fun, and it definitely didn't feel good :p) Link to post Share on other sites
Kanenas Posted July 4, 2016 Author Share Posted July 4, 2016 I thought so. I'd be worried she's crying because of my comical delivery of whatever sexual acts we agreed on. I make myself cry laughing all the time. Luckily, it's not while masturbating. Haha, fuck. Link to post Share on other sites
Philip027 Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 Hi OP :) for what it's worth, I'm thinking of one day having full sex with my asexual partner and I am definitely asexual. I do not *desire* it for itself. But I am a bit curious about what it would be like (I'm sure it would be very loving and cuddly and cute). Plus we might one day want a kid and if we do, we will want to actually make the kiddo ourselves ^^ We have done some sexual stuff together before. Manual, oral (mostly me receiving). It felt nice. I'd do that again occasionally. We get cuddly and sometimes it gets us aroused and when it does, we're comfortable enough with each other that we don't have to jump apart and go deal with it or cool off separately. So we can take care of it together. That way we can keep snuggling =3 I loooove the snuggles. And yes. I'm still asexual. I definitely don't desire the sexual stuff like I desire the cuddles. No cuddles would make me feel starved and unhappy. No sexual stuff would make me... probably not even notice there's no sexual stuff going on XD I'd be totally nonplussed. By the way, when I want to imagine how a sexual person feels about sex with their partner, I just have to picture how I feel about cuddles with my partner Hi, I'm the ace partner in question I'm mostly like how my partner describes herself here too, except that for me, I'd experienced nothing resembling a libido or undirected sex drive or whatever you want to call it prior to us getting together. In addition to this, I feel like had my partner not been this way (that is to say, if she had established herself as nonlibidoist like me prior to our meeting) I highly doubt that any sort of sexual "spark" or whatever would have taken place between us, because that is what a good chunk of my past relationship history (not that it's a very *broad* history or anything...) has indicated. We have joked about it being like she's technically sharing her libido with me -- as silly as it might sound on paper, it actually does make sense to me. Whatever sort of limited things I do feel in this regard are attached specifically to her and only her, and she has told me herself that her libido is not as intense and overpowering for her like it apparently was in the time before we met. Not labelling you personally, but just pointing out that terms like "grey asexual" and "demisexual" exist for a reason. Yeah, and I've been wondering for a while if I maybe fall under there. If people look at me and look at my current relationship and conclude that I am, I wouldn't fault them, because I'd certainly understand what would make them think that way (and they could even be right). There's a few aspects of myself and my past (some of which, while not exactly TMI, are also not really meant for public discussion, so I won't bring them all up here) that have kept me from more fully embracing such an identity in my head, but I do understand how there are ways I fit the mold and will not argue against it. Link to post Share on other sites
Snao Cone Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 I make myself cry laughing all the time. Luckily, it's not while masturbating. Haha, fuck. I literally LOLed :lol: Link to post Share on other sites
binary suns Posted July 7, 2016 Share Posted July 7, 2016 "I guess it'd be boring AF." "Seems like it would possibly be quite mundane and awkward." "I would be fairly comfortable trying out sex with another asexual person, because I know I wouldn't deeply offend them if I said "I'm bored, let's stop" or started laughing for no reason partway through." these are basically my thoughts to. like if I imagine two asexuals in a situation where they're in sexual contact with each other, it's along the line of one of them going "ugh I'm aroused! so annoying.." and the other going "want help with that" and then the first going *shrug* "why the heck not" obviously it would require at least sex indifference. or a lot of direct communication. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 7, 2016 Share Posted July 7, 2016 I guess it'd be boring AF. Eh... to be honest, even as a sex-repulsed ace, I'd take this kind of "boring AF" over the "stressful AF, possibly to the point of panicky, and needing to be kept under rigid control at all times" it would be in a mixed 'ship. Still, I don't really see the point why aces wouldn't just, you know, stay celibate with each other. It does seem the more natural state to be, by far. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 7, 2016 Share Posted July 7, 2016 I would be fairly comfortable trying out sex with another asexual person, because I know I wouldn't deeply offend them if I said "I'm bored, let's stop" or started laughing for no reason partway through. Because I know from experience that those things can deeply offend sexual people... ;) I dunno, I'm sexual and I've done those things many, many times! Link to post Share on other sites
Snao Cone Posted July 7, 2016 Share Posted July 7, 2016 I would be fairly comfortable trying out sex with another asexual person, because I know I wouldn't deeply offend them if I said "I'm bored, let's stop" or started laughing for no reason partway through. Because I know from experience that those things can deeply offend sexual people... ;) I dunno, I'm sexual and I've done those things many, many times! Some people's feelings are more easily hurt than others :P Link to post Share on other sites
Kanenas Posted July 7, 2016 Author Share Posted July 7, 2016 I feel that way, too. Why the hell not? Given you're indifferent and not repulsed. Sounds pretty badass, if asexual people find each other and would want to test the waters with things they might not feel comfortable with when done with others. I've been celibate for a good reason, but the mutual understanding between asexuals might be a factor in giving in to intellectual curiosity (if there is any) and I can understand anyone who made that experience.Jesus Christ, if an asexual girl asked to sit on my face, I wouldn't instinctively go "fuck no, better check yourself before ya wreck yourself!" so there might be some pontential there? Boom chicka wah wah. Link to post Share on other sites
Siimo van der fietspad Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 I haven't ruled out in my head never ever possibly trying sex with my ace partner just for research purposes, but I think this unlikely to happen and if it did we wouldn't get very far. I tried to have sex with a sexual and it did not go well as I was pretty repulsed by the whole thing. Nowadays I think we'd probably get bored if either of us could even become aroused enough in the first place, and we much prefer kissing and goofing around together. The strong bond I feel towards Caro is a blissful warmth and desire for closeness, not the urge to 'stick my chocolate finger in her jammie dodger'. That said, we are cool with some things that might be considered 'almost sexual' Link to post Share on other sites
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