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Aces who masturbate; do you ever picture/imagine yourself?


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mrcrowley23

Usually I imagine my fantasies in first person, transforming into something, or in the body of a woman/changing into a woman.

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Ace-TheTimelordsCompanion

I don't imagine myself as like looking at myself, I rarely imagine anything else either. I just sort of try to focus on physical sensation, grit my teeth and get through it. I have to be pretty careful thought-wise, nearly everything is a total turn-off, but if I don't do it the feeling of need to builds up more and more. If I could have one wish it would probably be the loss of my libido. I am amazed when people have elaborate fantasies, watch porn etc. I can't fpr the life of me imagine why anyone would call it pleasuring oneself, it is the farthest thing from pleasure, I would rather clean public toilets. I asked the doctor, they didn;t listen to the fact a libido might be bad if you are a repulsed ace. Anyway I digress, my point is I don;t fantasize about anything much.

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Grumpy Alien

Well I don't masturbate (I have no need to) but I have tried and no, I was never involved. Just men. It'd be weird to think of myself, I think. (For me.)

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I used to not as much. Now I picture having sex a little more than watching two others. But I am not asexual, so take that for what thou wilt.

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I have to imagine myself as the opposite sex. I don't know if that counts as fantasy or reality.

Bit late to reply to this but https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blanchard%27s_transsexualism_typology#Autogynephilia

Scroll down to the "Autogynephilia and Autoandrophilia" bit. It's where you imagine yourself to be the opposite sex. I read up about it a while ago, but I remember seeing something along the lines that people who do this also have a connection to being asexual.

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scarletlatitude

I have to imagine myself as the opposite sex. I don't know if that counts as fantasy or reality.

Bit late to reply to this but https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blanchard%27s_transsexualism_typology#Autogynephilia

Scroll down to the "Autogynephilia and Autoandrophilia" bit. It's where you imagine yourself to be the opposite sex. I read up about it a while ago, but I remember seeing something along the lines that people who do this also have a connection to being asexual.

Interesting. Thanks for the link. :)

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dragon_cake

I feel okay with masturbation when I'm not involved (I never see myself in the sexual situation). For some reason I'm affected by others' sexual interaction with each other if it's fictional or not overly concerning (knowing that no one is forced or hurt badly or just the fact it might not be real). I often feel like a weird asexual for these kind of thoughts and feelings.

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I don't really imagine myself or any other person. Sometimes when I get really into my fantasies there can be someone else that I imagine there. But that person never has a face and by that I mean it's not someone I know, not a celebrity... Just no one. That's a rare case though.

When I do masturbate I always focus on the sensation itself and my own touch. That's pretty much all.

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I usually have a third person view of two people, either f/m or m/m, involved in some sort of BDSM. It doesn't often even involve sex, just the power plays get me going. I never imagine people I know irl or myself. In dreams I might be myself in first personn and horny but in those cases I'm a man. So yeah, those dreams have made me doubt all kinda things. The imaginary people do have faces but kinda dream like, just generic pretty people or then characters/actors from tv/movies. I actually quite often create erotic fanfiction stories in my head with characters from movies or tv-shows in which case I imagine the actors faces.

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Until recently I didn't have enough experience of a woman's body to be able to construct a worthwhile fantasy involving myself, so no- only on the very few occasions when I've imagined myself as the passive partner in a gay tryst.

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My interest in sex has always been purely voyeuristic. I get off on fan fiction and yaoi/yuri manga, or scenarios with my writing characters, but it never involves me at all.

I've actually tried it a few times, imagining myself in that position, but it actually has the opposite effect and just makes me nauseous. Not even remotely sexy.

I guess I'll just stick to being a perverted onlooker.

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Hi. New here... What a fascinating topic! I've been very confused lately, trying to figure out if I'm ace or autosexual so I've been thinking about this a lot.

I realized that when I'm alone, my fantasies are always 3rd person. When I'm fantasizing about a person (or people) it's an idealized version of myself (self-esteem issues?). But sometimes it's me just "watching" myself (not idealized) masturbate, but with this visualization I do. It's complicated...

When I'm having sex with a partner (not that I've actually done that in a while) if I'm having trouble enjoying myself, I try to fantasize by pretending my partner is someone else. That really doesn't work very well though.

And a side note, lately the fantasy that turns me on the most isn't even sexual, it's just me living the life I want to live, yet somehow that makes me want to masturbate.

Safe to assume I'm autosexual? lol

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Hi. New here... What a fascinating topic! I've been very confused lately, trying to figure out if I'm ace or autosexual so I've been thinking about this a lot.

I realized that when I'm alone, my fantasies are always 3rd person. When I'm fantasizing about a person (or people) it's an idealized version of myself (self-esteem issues?). But sometimes it's me just "watching" myself (not idealized) masturbate, but with this visualization I do. It's complicated...

When I'm having sex with a partner (not that I've actually done that in a while) if I'm having trouble enjoying myself, I try to fantasize by pretending my partner is someone else. That really doesn't work very well though.

And a side note, lately the fantasy that turns me on the most isn't even sexual, it's just me living the life I want to live, yet somehow that makes me want to masturbate.

Safe to assume I'm autosexual? lol

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kappapeachie

For me, it's always third person, never first. Heck I rarely masturbate ever. I never could get into it myself.

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I only masturbate when my hormones act up when I'm PMSing or something, usually, but when I do, I either just focus on me and may imagine someone doing something to me, but it's a faceless entity type of thing, or I imagine some of my OTPs going at it, or one of my own fictional creations. If I focus too much on me, however, I lose interest, so I tend to jump between different things, otherwise I get bored. And, honestly...I don't know if I've ever actually orgasmed or not, because everything I've heard about it hasn't really happened. I just bored if I do it too long, and the feeling fades away, without any big explosion you hear talked about.

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I don't think of anything, just let my mind go blank. Sometimes I listen to the radio.

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I see my fantazies more like a movie going on my head than first person (the best way to explain is third person). Though sometimes i try to imagine myself in the place of the character i created, it never goes for more than a few seconds without involuntarily being back to the original point of view.

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While it's happening I don't imagine anything I just try to block out everything around me and concentrate on the sensations or I get bored and stop. Just trying to picture myself doing anything with anyone makes me physically cringe and is a total turn off. Although if imagine other people doing things (particularly bondage related acts)in the third person it does a little bit for me but not much.

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No. I don't find men attractive, and definitely not myself. And I've rarely ever had any thoughts about sex while masturbating.

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Nope. It's never worked when I've tried to incorporate myself into those kinds of fantasies, and it took me forever to figure out why that is. My fantasies are from a first person perspective, just not as "actual me"....I use a male character I've created instead.

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I see it just as a release of energy, that is important for males to get rid off. It effects your health as a male, if you do not release it.

So no, i do not see masturbation as anything to do with sex, or people. People can masturbate without having any images of peoples in there brain, as asexuals show. Your body wants to get that release, and does through those means.

I never imagine any person, or seeing others. For me masturbation, is just a release, and i do not have to think about anything in terms of images, or fantasies, to release. Its just release of energy for me. Me, masturbating, has nothing to do with any other human, as i have no real images or faces or anything to do with others, in my memory.

Asexuals can masturbate about nothing, and probably mostly do, when they need to release.

Sexual peoples probably fantasise about real people they know, but never me, and i assume many asexuals here too.

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I'm always 1st personing as someone else (usually one of my characters, sometimes just a non-specified person). Thinking of myself in any way is a surefire way to annihilate any enjoyment.

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For the longest time, I only used to have 3rd-person fantasies. Not about any specific people involved, just the idea of certain sex acts or kinks happening between random bodies. I've tried to fantasize about specific people, and I can't get off that way. Even during the times I've had sex, I would imagine myself (and sometimes even my partner) as someone else. It would feel good, but I couldn't really imagine myself as someone having sex even while I was doing it. But more recently I've been having some 1st-person fantasies, and I don't really know what to think. I'm suddenly not sure if I'd want to do those things IRL or not.

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Janus the Fox

Mostly just me, just myself and I in my own enjoyment. Usually no thought, though I've thought about having no genitals, having both sets of genitals or the opposite.

Otherwise it's kink porn stuff with furry yiff M/M/F stuff, where there's no moral limit, between the long stretches of time I could go without libido.

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