What do people have against the word cisgender?

[Heart]

To me, identity is more of the former than the latter; a sense of connection with all the others who have that identity, even if I have never met them before. However, there are also identities that are more for practical reasons, for communication. For example, I have a UK passport and am technically a OK citizen, but I got it through one of my parents and I don't feel any of that connection with others who are UK citizens nor did I grow up there. But I am English in the sense that this is shorthand to say that I have a passport from there and am a citizen.

So I guess there are many different definitions of "identity". In some contexts, it means feeling a connection. In others, it is just belonging to a group. I am asexual because of the former, but English because of the latter. I suspect that most people's sexual and gender identities are the former, but I guess it's possible to be the latter (such as a least some cisgenderless folks).

I see.

So, the reason why I don't like the concept "everyone who is not transgender is cisgender" is because it makes people to take those cisgender identity by default. I don't mind the word "cisgender" and cisgender identity by itself in the meaning "people who are happy about their genders assigned by birth". But for people who confused or questioned about their gender identity "cisgender" sounds just wrong for me, even if those people feel more comfortable "not being trans".

I've heard "questioning" used as an identity before, and I guess that would be a good one to add to our vocabulary. I've seen it used mostly when it comes to sexualities, but also sometimes in the context of gender. I respect that label greatly; it takes all of us some time to figure things out, sometimes more so than others. I was confused for quite some time before "finding myself".