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musical_ace

Hi everyone, I'm new to the site. I'm Wine, I'm in my mid 20s and female Virgo with a scorpio moon and rising capricorn and I think I'm asexual. But for a while I didn't identify as asexual because I think about sex pretty often and have a libido, but at the same time I don't direct that libido to people. I like imagining people having sex with each other but actually having sex is kind of revolting... every time i've tried having sex with my ex's i felt a strong urge to throw up, like that feeling you get when you kill a spider? Maybe I am sex repulsed who knows but I don't know if it makes sense for a sex repulsed person to think about sex as often as i do. I have no problem watching sex scenes in movies or porn and reading fan-fiction (cringe hahaha). I am fine with the idea of sex just as long as i am not involved with it in any way. Does this fall under asexuality?

Also I have no idea if I am aromantic or not because I don't know what is defined as romantic. Like going on dates is romantic right? But I don't enjoy going on dates. I am a college student I have no money. But i would love to have a boy or girlfriend, you know? I also don't enjoy kissing on the mouth. I don't know your oral hygiene, do you even floss? i can tolerate people kissing me on the cheek or on my hand but thats it. Touching is cool but i enjoy more subtle touches like when you leg is touching someone else's leg when you sit next to them, or when they lean their head on your shoulder. Also, giving flowers is romantic right? But why would you give someone dead flowers i never understood the point of that. Also isn't romance subjective, one person might consider something romantic that another person doesn't, like holding hands. To be honest 90% of the time I don't like to be touched by people i don't know well, like one time a tutor at school rubbed my arm because i took 4 slices of pizza and i almost karate chopped her neck.

is that aromantic? or am i just pro-personal bubble? romance-repulsed isn't a thing, right?

But most importantly, i am literally obsessed with this picture i spent all day staring at it.

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Anyways it was nice chatting with you. I always knew purple was my favorite color for some reason...

Love kisses hugs forever,

Wine

"Sometimes, I think I lost something really important to me, and it turns out, I already ate it."

oh i responded to myself im such a noob. how do you do those end signature things LOL

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Being romance-repulsed is, in fact, a thing. It's rather like being sex-repulsed but with romance? So things sex-repulsed people might feel when faced with sexual things (aka throwing up, idk but it varies from person to person) is roughly the same things romance-repulsed people might feel when faced with romance.

And you can edit you signature when you edit your profile. You have to click "edit my profile" on your profile page and there's this tab on the left hand side that says "signature".

What you've described, I think, does fall under asexuality, but I should honestly let the people who are better at explaining this tell you.

Anyhow, welcome to AVEN! Hope you find your answers here.

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binary suns

You can modify your signature by doing:

1) click on your avatar, this will bring you to your profile

2) click the purple "edit my profile" button at the right towards the top, to load the edit profile page

3) click the grey bar node on the left named "signature"

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regarding feeling sexual attraction or desire not directed towards people - this is a controversial area. It is commonly considered that someone who does desire sexual contact in any way is sexual, even if no one in particular sticks out. Another case might be that someone can imagine and get aroused over imagining two people having sex as long as they themselves were not included in the fantasy - this case I consider a form of greysexuality, I do not know for sure what the common stance is regarding that.

But do note that it is common for people to feel subtler forms of attraction, which when getting to know someone slowly intensifies, or perhaps to intensify during arousal or inebriation. these are normal experiences of sexuality. and depending on the gender the feelings are directed towards would determine if you're hetero or homosexual.

about romance - I don't really understand it either. I assume I am aromantic but so far I can't be sure where I am regarding that. There are two things about romance I can say, though. First, the activities you mentioned, aren't intrinsically romantic, and not all romantic people feel they are all romantic. usually they do find some of them, but there are some people who do feel romantic attraction and have no interest in any typical activity culturally deemed romantic. Second, some people do form platonic relationships that from a distance people would assume is romantic - but that the participants just feel platonically towards each other. so a desire for partnership is not intrinsically romantic either.

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oh i responded to myself im such a noob. how do you do those end signature things LOL

That was so adorable!! ^_^ :lol:

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musical_ace

Midnight Rune - romance repulsed is a thing then, interesting.

Teagan - gray sexuality, now i'm just confused haha. I wouldn't say the thought of two people having sex arouses me, its more like indifference. Also I'm not sure if the reason why I think about sex at all has to do with the society we live in, it seems like things like media and people's conversation keep putting it into my head and its not something that comes up naturally in my thoughts. Also maybe i'm misusing the word libido? I mean I some random instances i will feel aroused but its like a bodily thing that i need to just get rid of when I can. But it doesnt happen often.

HappyBunny - still learning >.<

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Hello & welcome, MA. For many of us, this is an evolving journey. For most of my life, I considered myself, bi (romantic). More recently I've come to understand that pan demi (both romantic) & grace (sexual) fits me better. Things from my past really make sense now. Knowing this about myself. Hope that you enjoy your time here, learn more about yourself & make many new friends.

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musical_ace

Hello & welcome, MA. For many of us, this is an evolving journey. For most of my life, I considered myself, bi (romantic). More recently I've come to understand that pan demi (both romantic) & grace (sexual) fits me better. Things from my past really make sense now. Knowing this about myself. Hope that you enjoy your time here, learn more about yourself & make many new friends.

Hello & welcome, MA. For many of us, this is an evolving journey. For most of my life, I considered myself, bi (romantic). More recently I've come to understand that pan demi (both romantic) & grace (sexual) fits me better. Things from my past really make sense now. Knowing this about myself. Hope that you enjoy your time here, learn more about yourself & make many new friends.

thanks, im looking forward to talking with everyone :)

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Welcome to AVEN! :cake: I'm glad that you joined! Thank you for sharing your introduction with us. : ) There's a ton to learn and explore, but there's no time limit, so just take all the time you need! Sadly, we can't say where your identity falls (cause only you know yourself best), but I think you'll find an identity that resonates with you here. There's a lot of friendly and supportive people that can relate! Best wishes, and I hope you enjoy being a member!

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