Irelandaz Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 I'm new, so I will introduce myself. I'm 18 years old and live in the USA. I am an aromantic asexual and I am agender. I use they/them pronouns. I've never understood relationships of the romantic kind. When all my friends started dating I just figured oh I'll do that when I'm older. I always had an image in my head of being married in the future and having kids but I never thought of the parts of my life before that happens, mostly I just hoped someone would pop up and then kids would just poof out of no where. I knew that is not how it works but I decided in the future that I will like someone because "everyone" does and that's "what you do." Yeah that never happened. I dated a guy in 8th grade for a few months. It was awkward. My friend kept giving me tips and encouraged me to hold his hand. I hated it. He wanted to kiss me and I said I didn't want to. We broke up because we went to different schools. Then in 9th grade a guy asked me out. We went on one date and that was it. I think I've always known I don't like/want sex but just ignored it/was confused. I don't mind talking about it (like making jokes or things of that nature), but when I picture myself in that situation I feel repulsed. So I just don't think about it. The aromantic thing took me longer to figure out, probably by the end of 10th grade I started to use the label (same with being agender). I do sometimes like the idea of romantic stuff for fictional characters in books or anime. I don't mind friends/strangers being romantic around me. Being in a romantic relationship just makes me feel awkward but not repulsed. I guess I wouldn't mind being in a QPR. For instance I could imagine sharing a living space with someone and co-parenting with them. Just no sexual or romantic things, we would just be very, very close friends. I don't really know what I want. Can anyone relate? Link to post Share on other sites
volvoxcolony Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Hi, Welcome to AVEN. Link to post Share on other sites
Starry Sky Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Welcome to AVEN!! I can relate a lot of things you mentioned! Like assuming I'll eventually like someone because everyone does and knowing that I don't like or want sex but just ignored that. I actually do mind when people are romantic around me because it makes me feel so... weird. What you said about a QPR is something I might be open to, though! Anyways I hope you enjoy being a member here!! Link to post Share on other sites
bonny Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Hi, I like your rainbow rose icon. :) I always had an image in my head of being married in the future and having kids...I decided in the future that I will like someone because "everyone" does and that's "what you do." Yeah that never happened. This is just what I always thought (except I didn't know about asexuality and aromanticism until a few years ago). I'm 42 now so it has definitely got too late for it to happen to me! Welcome to AVEN, it's a friendly place and hopefully you'll find it helpful. :) Link to post Share on other sites
kelico Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Welcome to AVEN! Thank you for sharing your story with us! It's great that you joined this awesome community. : ) I think you'll find a lot of people that can relate to you here. We're really supportive and friendly, so don't hesitate to join in the conversations! I also think your ideal situation sounds nice...co-parenting with someone you love, but not someone you love in the romantic/sexual sense. That would be great. : ) Take your time exploring, and I hope you enjoy being a member! Link to post Share on other sites
DragonflytotheMoon Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 Hello & welcome, AM. For children, I always recommend fostering & adopting. My husband & I have done the former briefly. I don't know how agencies view two good friends as prospective parents, but, to me, what matters, is that they're able to provide a loving, nurturing & stable home. I'm sure that's several years down the road for you (if it does happen), but, I wanted to throw that out there. Hope that you enjoy your time here & make many new friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Grozc Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 Welcome I am also 18. I would love to get to know you. Link to post Share on other sites
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