I need EVERYONE'S vote, please! (poll)

[AVEN #1 fan]

This should be very interesting.

I do, however, miss a few options in spite of the range being quite wide and seemingly exhaustive. You don't allow 'unsure' in every category, even though you allow for it in most. That seems to me a rather serious oversight - especially questions like "are you sex repulsed", where one may easily not be able to gauge one's position for one reason or another. Likewise for any question about the weird complexity of the 'romantic'.

Additionally, there is a notion I don't fully understand. For the question "are you romantic" it is possible to answer "I am aro and yes". Doesn't the first part of the reply already make it clear [i am aromantic]? How can one then continue by affirming the question? Are there two meanings of 'romantic' at play here? If so, could you please explain briefly so I know how to respond properly?

If I had to guess, 'romantic' here is meant in the sense of 'romantically active' and thus need not be the same as ones placement on the romantic spectrum. But I also thought that dating was the measure of 'romatic activity', and you indeed have a seperate question for that. It also can't mean affinity to the notion of romance because that, too, is its seperate question. So I really am unsure. If someone could help me out of my confusion, I'd be grateful.

Well being aro doesn't unable you to date or play part in romantic activities, so you can be romantic and aro, even if it's controversial, aromanticism is the lack of romantic attraction (crushes).

[AVEN #1 fan]

I don't know how others feel, but I felt that 'platonic affection' is under-represented.Affection has the potential to be as least as strongly felt as romance or sex.And it doesn't necessarily require touch.The terms used in this questionnaire are (obviously):(a)sexual(a)romantic(a)libido(a)repulsed(a)touchsexdatingromance

Well I'm talking about sexual and romantic orientations, there's no such a thing as "platonic orientation".

there is a question "where are you on the romantic orientation" and later a question "are you romantic" I don't understand what the second question is asking...

You can still date and be romantic if you are an aro, aros just don't have crushes.

[Homer]

The "Do you like..." questions lack the "idgaf" option. I couldn't care less.

[Plectrophenax]

Well being aro doesn't unable you to date or play part in romantic activities, so you can be romantic and aro, even if it's controversial, aromanticism is the lack of romantic attraction (crushes).

Thanks for the explanation but I still don't understand. From what you say here, I gather that 'to be romantic' means 'to date' or 'to play part in romantic activities'. And I would agree that both of those things are possible to do while being aromantic. But it seemed to me that those bases are covered by other questions. Whether or not one dates is its own question, and whether or not one has an affinity for romance [which I take to be meant primarily conceptually but it can also include behaviour] is its own question as well. I'm still not entirely sure I understand what ground "are you romantic?" covers that isn't covered by the other two questions. I might just be overthinking and there's effectively just an overlap here.

Also, I don't think it's controversal. I just consider the statement "I am aromantic and, yes, I am romantic" to be confusing and unhelpful - yet it is a statement allowed for in this survey. Before I know what you intended that statement to mean, I feel unprepared to fully respond. Though I suppose the answer is indeed just that you mean to say "I am aromantic but, yes, I like/do/have an affinity for/have a tendency towards romantic things". Or, perhaps better, "I am a romantic soul, yet I don't or can't fall in love in any capacity".

[AVEN #1 fan]

Well being aro doesn't unable you to date or play part in romantic activities, so you can be romantic and aro, even if it's controversial, aromanticism is the lack of romantic attraction (crushes).

Thanks for the explanation but I still don't understand. From what you say here, I gather that 'to be romantic' means 'to date' or 'to play part in romantic activities'. And I would agree that both of those things are possible to do while being aromantic. But it seemed to me that those bases are covered by other questions. Whether or not one dates is its own question, and whether or not one has an affinity for romance [which I take to be meant primarily conceptually but it can also include behaviour] is its own question as well. I'm still not entirely sure I understand what ground "are you romantic?" covers that isn't covered by the other two questions. I might just be overthinking and there's effectively just an overlap here.

Also, I don't think it's controversal. I just consider the statement "I am aromantic and, yes, I am romantic" to be confusing and unhelpful - yet it is a statement allowed for in this survey. Before I know what you intended that statement to mean, I feel unprepared to fully respond. Though I suppose the answer is indeed just that you mean to say "I am aromantic but, yes, I like/do/have an affinity for/have a tendency towards romantic things". Or, perhaps better, "I am a romantic soul, yet I don't or can't fall in love in any capacity".

I think you understand now.

Tbh, labels are confusing.

[Skycaptain]

Touch averse aro-ace, don't date, sex repulsed, have a libido,

[Sage Raven Domino]

Oops, I thought the question 'Are you romantic?' was misprinted and AVEN #1 fan meant 'Are you romance-repulsed?' instead (by analogy with the previous question) and voted according to this (for 'aro and no').

Does 'romantic' mean 'romance-positive' in the context of that question?

[AVEN #1 fan]

Oops, I thought the question 'Are you romantic?' was misprinted and AVEN #1 fan meant 'Are you romance-repulsed?' instead (by analogy with the previous question) and voted according to this (for 'aro and no').

Does 'romantic' mean 'romance-positive' in the context of that question?

No, I just asked if you liked being romantic or dating. Either way, it's OK.

[Kat_M]

Oops. My last one should say "I'm NOT aro and unsure."

[Grumpy Alien]

Romantic ace. Sex indifferent. Not sure if I have a libido. If I do, it's at like 1% battery. I'm a virgin but I date.

[Guest]

Romantic non-sexual person with no desires for any sort of sexual activity (solo or partnered). Not a virgin. And I "date", sorta? I don't like "dating" but I do like romantic relationships, formed through friendships.

[Guest]

Awww, I'm one of five sexuals who answered this poll. That's more than I anticipated actually.

Pretty standard sexual. Not averse or repulsed to anything, not aromantic, and sex is fun with the right person.

[Pi(e)]

I feel like some of my answers contradicted each other, sorry. I wasn't trying to be contrary, I'm just slightly unsure and couldn't find an "it depends option" so sometimes I would answer two contradictory things at once. Because depending on the time, situation, or way of interpreting the question they can both be true. Also, I'm an over thinker.

[WhenSummersGone]

I have a high libido, sex repulsed until I feel sexual desire, I enjoy touch, haven't been sexually active in a long time, I want to date but don't have much luck and I like romance.

[henshin]

What does alterous mean?

Also i'm confused about the romance question, I'm romantic but I don't really like the cultural trappings of romance like valentines day and romance movies and stuff, my romantic orientation is about companionship and emotional intimacy. Which kind of thing are you trying to get at?

[AVEN #1 fan]

What does alterous mean?

Also i'm confused about the romance question, I'm romantic but I don't really like the cultural trappings of romance like valentines day and romance movies and stuff, my romantic orientation is about companionship and emotional intimacy. Which kind of thing are you trying to get at?

I just want to know if people still like practicing romance.

Alterous = someone who desires an emotional bond of any kind.

[anzu2snow]

It was a bit hard for me to answer some of these. I'm asexual. Unsure about romance. I like it when I'm already in a relationship and that takes time. So, I put romantic and unsure. I think I have a libido. I'm sex-positive when it's for other people. When it involves me, I'm a bit of a mixture. If the next one was basically about if I was into dating or something, then no not really. I'm not into mushy stuff either, or watching romance movies. For being touch averse, it depends. Most of the time, I like my personal bubble and kind of internally cringe when I'm hugged or brushed up against someone. If I get to know the person well, I might be ok with things like hugs. And, then I'll warm more up to that person over time. I like my 'bubble' even when I'm around family. I haven't had sex, but am slightly curious about it.

[Nidwin]

It was easy to answer for me aro ace with a libido and nope nope nope nope nope nope nope

[cavalier080854]

Once again, another poll with I couldn't complete because no options existed for me. Every question about romance (touch etc) there was no option for ace (aro, anti etc). All other questions had this option, so why remove them from romantic questions. Please be consistent.

[Cobie]

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[EastCoastGirl]

Just realized according to the current poll numbers I am extremely average. Nice to feel normal. :)

[Cobie]

Just realized according to the current poll numbers I am extremely average. Nice to feel normal. :)

Yes, same here - an unused to but nice feeling.

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