newgirl Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 To aseuxal men looking for a girlfriend or wife not friendship How many of you guys like to chase women My experience for the last 11 years bring around asexual men, you guys do not make the first move or chase women romantically. I know there has to be a male version of me I WANT to hear from asexual men who love to chase asexual women. nonsexually flower,take a woman out.. .celebrate birthdays,holidays ,valentine day etc Link to post Share on other sites
ThaHoward Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 I like to chase women. If they step in my lawn they will ruin my plants. So I chase them out of the street with my broomstick shouting "shoo! Shoo!" But in all seriousness, if you mean by chasing like flirting etc yeah it can be fun. However I really have no innate desire to do it, and if someone flirt with me I just do it back for lolz. Link to post Share on other sites
timewarp Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 I'm not really a hunter. Gatherer more like. Link to post Share on other sites
lazypanda Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 Why would you want an asexual guy chasing you ? I'd prefer guys who give me space and have a life of their own !!! And i think what you are describing isn't really chasing , it's what any guy who is emotionally not stunted will do(i guess) !!! I think any guy who is not Sheldon Cooper will do all of the above !!! As for why don't make the first move, maybe they are just shy,or they aren't sure whether they want a relationship !!! And another question to asexual men.....WHERE are you guys hiding ??? Can you guys please come up with a secret way of identifying yourselves to us ?? It's so hard for us.....especially those of us who want absolutely nothing to do with sexual guys !!! Link to post Share on other sites
rtlloyd98 Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 Nobody has ever flirted with me so I've never really bothered flirting back. I'm not one for affectionate contact, i.e hugging, even with close family members. although if someone goes to hug me I will. I've never met anybody I want to spend my whole time with, so I haven't bothered chasing. Link to post Share on other sites
timewarp Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 And another question to asexual men.....WHERE are you guys hiding ??? Can you guys please come up with a secret way of identifying yourselves to us ?? It's so hard for us.....especially those of us who want absolutely nothing to do with sexual guys !!! I'm hiding in a secret location on the south coast of England. On Saturdays I tend to show up at ace-meets if there are any within train distance that day. :) Link to post Share on other sites
Cincinnatus Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 I definitely never chased women. All the relationships I had were initiated by the women! Didn't mean I wasn't interested though, so I'm sure there is some shy guy out there for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Urishir Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 Im expecting 1 morning to have a line of women at my door and pick 1 from them and live happily ever after. After 15 years of that ive started suspecting there might be some small problem with the idea, maybe i should put few signs up so theyd find their way here Link to post Share on other sites
SorryNotSorry Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 Never did, never will. Men pursuing women is so last century, especially with increasing numbers of men identifying as introverted or socially inept. Why can't women just get romantically involved with each other instead??? Link to post Share on other sites
gekkosan Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 Well, since it's IMPORTANT, let me chip in. I'm currently still kinda deciding whether or not I'm really serious about wanting a relationship. If I really really would be, I would probably have no problems making the first move, although I'm very asocial and also kind of shy. But I would definitely not serenade you and I couldn't care less about holidays, valentine's day, etc... You would get a nice flower, a piece of cake, and my undivided attention. Isn't that enough? Valentine's day is for suckers. I probably wouldn't be interested in you, if you would think otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
Zerο Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 Not so much. In pretty much all situations in life, I'll take the initiative when I need to but rarely when I don't have to. As far as asexual women goes, I haven't met any offline that I'm physically attracted to, but yeah online I'll send out the first message. The effort for that is so low though that I don't really consider it chasing. On that note, I'll generally only flirt back if I find the person attractive, otherwise I just default to a polite response. What you're describing doesn't really sound like chasing, but more like things a couple will do AFTER the chase has succeeded. Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted May 26, 2016 Author Share Posted May 26, 2016 Why would you want an asexual guy chasing you ? I'd prefer guys who give me space and have a life of their own !!! And i think what you are describing isn't really chasing , it's what any guy who is emotionally not stunted will do(i guess) !!! I think any guy who is not Sheldon Cooper will do all of the above !!! As for why don't make the first move, maybe they are just shy,or they aren't sure whether they want a relationship !!! And another question to asexual men.....WHERE are you guys hiding ??? Can you guys please come up with a secret way of identifying yourselves to us ?? It's so hard for us.....especially those of us who want absolutely nothing to do with sexual guys !!! A man who likes/loves to chase women DON'T hide from women Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted May 26, 2016 Author Share Posted May 26, 2016 Sorry men but I have to say this i guess nothing has change in the 11 year with asexual men. 1. I seriuos wish people on Aven and Facebook would put in their signatures and every post "i'm interested in nothing, friendship,dating or/and marriage. 2. I can not believe there is not a male asexual version of this .Yes,i'm introverted or shy but I am open to emotional healthy relationship with a person.I want to acknowledge birthday, Valentine day,Christmas,NYE, take this person out dinner,movies etc.I want to emotional bond. 3. Do asexual men want to become stuck or unstuck.. I hear " i do not want to be in a relationship" all the time. I also see people not even trying wih is sad to me. Link to post Share on other sites
rtlloyd98 Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 If there is a woman that I want to spend time with during Christmas and Birthdays etc, I think I would. But I've haven't met that woman yet. Link to post Share on other sites
rtlloyd98 Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 If there is a woman that I want to spend time with during Christmas and Birthdays etc, I think I would. But I've haven't met that woman yet. If there is a woman that I want to spend time with during Christmas and Birthdays etc, I think I would. But I've haven't met that woman yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Autumn Season Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 Well, since it's IMPORTANT, let me chip in. I'm currently still kinda deciding whether or not I'm really serious about wanting a relationship. If I really really would be, I would probably have no problems making the first move, although I'm very asocial and also kind of shy. But I would definitely not serenade you and I couldn't care less about holidays, valentine's day, etc... You would get a nice flower, a piece of cake, and my undivided attention. Isn't that enough? Valentine's day is for suckers. I probably wouldn't be interested in you, if you would think otherwise. I don't get it. You are saying that you'd gift flowers, cake and undivided attention to your partner on valentine's day. That counts as caring about Valentine's a lot. Do you think that other people do even more on that day? Link to post Share on other sites
Gotsu Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 I think you are assuming that 'chasing girls' is fun for men. Link to post Share on other sites
Lost247365 Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 Not only am I not like that, but those* are some of the social expectations I dislike most about being male bodied.*chasing romantic interests I hate, I like celebrating birthdays and things like that. Link to post Share on other sites
lazypanda Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 Lets have a poll " Do asexual men like to be lovey-dovey ? " !!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lord Jade Cross Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 Not only am I not like that, but those* are some of the social expectations I dislike most about being male bodied. Same. Not to sound sexist or anything OP but if you want an asexual guy, why dont you consider doing the chasing? Link to post Share on other sites
Busrider Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 This is a bit confusing to me. How many of you guys like to chase women My experience for the last 11 years bring around asexual men, you guys do not make the first move or chase women romantically. I know there has to be a male version of me I WANT to hear from asexual men who love to chase asexual women. nonsexually flower,take a woman out.. .celebrate birthdays,holidays ,valentine day etc Sorry, I don't know you well, but if you like to chase asexual men, why would I be supposed to chase you? I 'd have to hit the app stores hard to function with **days celebrations. - It hasn't been my strong side so far. - Any recommendations for something cross-platform awesome running on Mint win7 & an elderly Android? <- Please consider that weird nerdy question as a paranoid backup maniac's humble attempt to take your demands serious. Upon chasing women in general: I consider it a bit embarrassing. I'd assume most might believe I'd be sexually motivated and disappointed to find out I am not. I also don't know if I am seeking somebody far away blindfolded. - More bait might help with attracting me. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 I have been chased quite extensively by ace men on this site. And had to chase a few myself. They are the same as sexual guys really, some chase and some you have to chase. Link to post Share on other sites
Still Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 Upon chasing women in general: I consider it a bit embarrassing. I'd assume most might believe I'd be sexually motivated and disappointed to find out I am not. This is why I don't really do it either - I mean the stereotype is that guys are only after one thing. And exclusively "chasing asexual women" is pretty damn hard considering how few of them there are and how it's impossible to tell if someone's ace unless they flat out tell you. Link to post Share on other sites
gekkosan Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 Well, since it's IMPORTANT, let me chip in. I'm currently still kinda deciding whether or not I'm really serious about wanting a relationship. If I really really would be, I would probably have no problems making the first move, although I'm very asocial and also kind of shy. But I would definitely not serenade you and I couldn't care less about holidays, valentine's day, etc... You would get a nice flower, a piece of cake, and my undivided attention. Isn't that enough? Valentine's day is for suckers. I probably wouldn't be interested in you, if you would think otherwise. I don't get it. You are saying that you'd gift flowers, cake and undivided attention to your partner on valentine's day. That counts as caring about Valentine's a lot. Do you think that other people do even more on that day? No, I was just describing a potential first date, a one time occurrence. Valentine day is just an ordinary day for me. Some commercial bullshit that has nothing to do with real love or affection. I would be prepared to ask a woman out on a simple date to get to know each other better, but that's pretty much it. And if we hit it off, then who needs a valentine's day. Link to post Share on other sites
DragonflytotheMoon Posted May 27, 2016 Share Posted May 27, 2016 Never did, never will. Men pursuing women is so last century, especially with increasing numbers of men identifying as introverted or socially inept. Why can't women just get romantically involved with each other instead??? Believe me, we do :) I'm a pan demi (both romantic) grace. Who, so far, has only been able to attract bi (sexual). I want emphasis on friendship (with a strong intellectual connection). Some affection & romance (a certain amount of emotional connection). Little to no sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Philip027 Posted May 27, 2016 Share Posted May 27, 2016 I am not interested in chasing or being chased. Maybe I'm just not looking at it the right way, but "chasing" carries rather bad connotations to me, usually manifesting in some form of desperation. Link to post Share on other sites
DragonflytotheMoon Posted May 27, 2016 Share Posted May 27, 2016 I am not interested in chasing or being chased. Maybe I'm just not looking at it the right way, but "chasing" carries rather bad connotations to me, usually manifesting in some form of desperation. As for pursuing or being pursued. I don't like either. I don't see it as desperation. Sometimes it seems to be more of a game. Though, I suppose it depends on the participants. I realize that, in most interactions, someone has to make the first move. After that, I prefer mutual. Where both people put the time, effort & care into that. If it's too one sided, it's not a good friendship or relationship. Unless, they like it that way. Which, personally, I don't. Link to post Share on other sites
Biggles XD Posted May 27, 2016 Share Posted May 27, 2016 I used to however it never worked and only stressed me out. Now I just do my own thing and don't really care about finding someone anymore haha Link to post Share on other sites
Nidwin Posted May 27, 2016 Share Posted May 27, 2016 Not chasing, at least not the way I see my allo friends sometimes doing it. But if I've that 0.00001% chance, one day to run or discover under some kind of rock, an ace woman and the age gap isn't too big, she'll have my most sincere and dearest attention. I'm still sorting out all those pieces of the puzzle of my life and trying to get rid of that other guy, the one society, friends and relatives wanted me to be who has made a big mess for the real me. So till then it's ace women only with zero compromise about sex. We'll see if demi or gray-a could become a possibility later on once the mess cleaned up and the right pieces of the puzzle in more or less the right order and place. Aces of spades isn't a synonym for lonely and grumpy hermit in my book. Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted May 27, 2016 Author Share Posted May 27, 2016 I have been chased quite extensively by ace men on this site. And had to chase a few myself. They are the same as sexual guys really, some chase and some you have to chase. I'm not trying to be harsh but WHAT!!!!!!!!!!! An asexual man chase a woman. I just told the big lady to stop singing Link to post Share on other sites
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