Prufrock, but like, worse Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 Oh, for chrissakes, you people!!! AFAIC people who want relationships should just put their cards on the table and start doing group interviews. So what if it sounds dehumanizing? It's more direct and honest than shot-in-the-dark chasing and flirting! I mean, it's like what George Carlin once said about refrigerators: know what you want when you open the refrigerator door. It may be in there, or it may not... but don't just stand there, unable to make up your mind. Seriously, people who have no idea what kind of person they want in a relationship make the situation that much more fruitless and frustrating for those of us who do. Go away and come back when you figured out what you want. Retreat from human contact and figure that out how, exactly? And if it sounds dehumanizing.... Maybe it indeed is dehumanizing. And that is not a good thing. I suddenly had the thought you may be being sarcastic due to that "dehumanizing" line. So if so, ignore what I just said. Link to post Share on other sites
chubby turtle Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 I love to chase girls, and I'm an asexual guy. Most of the time, I just do this all in good flirtatious fun, but sometimes I really mean it. I don't want to have sex with anyone, but I have no problem initiating a sexual relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Oh, for chrissakes, you people!!! AFAIC people who want relationships should just put their cards on the table and start doing group interviews. So what if it sounds dehumanizing? It's more direct and honest than shot-in-the-dark chasing and flirting! I mean, it's like what George Carlin once said about refrigerators: know what you want when you open the refrigerator door. It may be in there, or it may not... but don't just stand there, unable to make up your mind. Seriously, people who have no idea what kind of person they want in a relationship make the situation that much more fruitless and frustrating for those of us who do. Go away and come back when you figured out what you want. I think the Sheldon Cooper method of dating - clipboard, checklist, and questionnaire - is a good one. The comical thing is that he spectacularly overdoes it, but the core concept shows a smart pragmatism that I honestly find immensely helpful advice to follow. :) Link to post Share on other sites
Kimmie. Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 I have practically no self-esteem and am quite shy. And i know that is mostly because i was somewhat bullied because of my speech disorder ( stuttering, and rampent speech i think its could in English) when i grow up. And that i don't see me as someone that deserves to have a partner dosent help either. Plus the fact that i don't really drink either so i don't really go out to clubs and bars and places like that. And my ADHD makes it hard to Me to be in places like that anyway, because of sounds that comes from everywhere that i cant pinpoint and it just becomes a blur and makes me really stressed and the headache comes like a letter in the mail. And a asexual guy- sexual girl relationship would probely not work in the longrun. But then again if i have survied this long alone ( i am 27) then i can probely keep going. And do get that i sound kind of pathetic in this. And i am probely a lost cause. And when it comes to chasing women it is seen as kind of sexist and degrading to women here(If i have understand the debate correctly) Sorry for the long post i just had to get it out of my system. Link to post Share on other sites
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