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Lynnn

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Okay so this is a bit embarrassing, but I need help figuring all this out.

I currently have a friend I'm pretty close with and she's told me a couple of things about her sexual interests and encounters that makes me really... curious? She is usually pretty vague and every time she brings something like that up, I find myself wondering what it's like. I don't think I'm interested in her sexually, but when I imagine these things, I can't help but to think about her. I'm not sure if I'm experiencing a strange sort of sexual attraction or just some sort of arousal. I can't tell if my feelings are for her or if I'm just interested in knowing what those things are like. I want to know more about her sexuality, but I'm not sure if I'm interested in her sexually.

Does anybody have any advice or experience with this or something similar?

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If the thought of her in these sexual situations is arousing to you, you could well be experiencing sexual attraction. But then again, it could also just be the fantasy of it, and when presented with an opportunity to act on it, you're not interested.

I'd talk to her a little more, as you may find that you are simply curious, and when you're given "more information", it doesn't hold the same appeal as it does currently in its mysterious state.

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If the thought of her in these sexual situations is arousing to you, you could well be experiencing sexual attraction. But then again, it could also just be the fantasy of it, and when presented with an opportunity to act on it, you're not interested.

I'd talk to her a little more, as you may find that you are simply curious, and when you're given "more information", it doesn't hold the same appeal as it does currently in its mysterious state.

I second this. Other asexuals on this site openly talk about how they are curious, but not attracted/desiring of sex.

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On the other hand, there is a slight possibility you are experiencing some type of sexual attraction. You know what, that's perfectly ok. If you feel the desire to experiment, and you determine you enjoy it, that doesn't make you a bad person. I'm just saying don't fight it because you may have to change your perceived label. (Although you only have only one post, and don't list any orientation.)

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I had a strong intellectual curiosity about sex in my teens, and I mistook that for normal interest in sex. It took me a long time to realise that I was missing the ability to be sexually attracted to anyone.

My advice - You need to figure out where that curiosity about sex is coming from - is it from an intellectual stand point or from some other stand point.

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binary suns

when I have odd experiences that I don't get, I try to take them as they are and then let them be without judging them any way yet and just waiting. if it's something that ends up not occurring again, then it's not really relevant, but if it does then with more experience I can form a better conclusion.

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If the thought of her in these sexual situations is arousing to you, you could well be experiencing sexual attraction. But then again, it could also just be the fantasy of it, and when presented with an opportunity to act on it, you're not interested.

I'd talk to her a little more, as you may find that you are simply curious, and when you're given "more information", it doesn't hold the same appeal as it does currently in its mysterious state.

Yeah, I think it's just a sort of fantasy because I don't see myself in any of these situations, I imagine her and her ex girlfriends, but not myself.

I had a strong intellectual curiosity about sex in my teens, and I mistook that for normal interest in sex. It took me a long time to realise that I was missing the ability to be sexually attracted to anyone.

My advice - You need to figure out where that curiosity about sex is coming from - is it from an intellectual stand point or from some other stand point.

I can relate to this, I feel like it's just an "intellectual" thing, my desire is to know rather than participate. Like dissolved said, I think that once I know and the "mystery" is gone, I won't care about it anymore.

Thank you all for your comments, talking about it really helped me organize my thoughts and figure it out. c:

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I am still curious about sex, and I've had sex. I hear about it all the time, it's only natural to be curious about something you keep hearing about. Doesn't necessarily mean anything. I'm curious about religions I hear about, doesn't mean I want to convert. I'm curious about some food people eat and talk about, doesn't mean I want to eat these foods. I'm curious about other places on the planet, doesn't mean I want to move. Etc. Curiosity is a natural thing.

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starry-night-sky

Don't worry, I'm very sex-curious, too. It doesn't affect your orientation. Lots of straight people are curious about having sex with someone of the same gender but they're still straight.

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I had a strong intellectual curiosity about sex in my teens, and I mistook that for normal interest in sex. It took me a long time to realise that I was missing the ability to be sexually attracted to anyone.

This, although I was/am in my late 20s when that happened, not my teens.

Don't worry, I'm very sex-curious, too. It doesn't affect your orientation. Lots of straight people are curious about having sex with someone of the same gender but they're still straight.

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