CosineTheCat Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 Find out if you're an asexual 2016/03/26 • An asexual person is one who doesn’t get his sexual grounding started.• The ‘need for sex’ is just not there. • Dr Kothari further adds that asexuals have fully developed sex organs, yet they’re unable to respond to sexual advances. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 This article is horrendous I am speechless O_O ..did you read this before posting it Cosine?? Made us sound like we are all broken freaks who can't get horny (hence why we don't want sex, obviously) and can't form emotional attachments so are shit in relationships >.< "An asexual person is one who doesn't get his sexual grounding started. Sexual grounding is based on two factors -- desire and arousal; medically, both are missing in an asexual person. Dr Kothari further adds that asexuals have fully developed sex organs, yet they're unable to respond to sexual advances. Women do not experience lubrication and men fail to get erection. Some asexuals coincide with aromantics, while others yearn for companionship but seldom get it as they're unable to find people who are averse to sex. According to experts, hormone oxytocin is released during orgasm, which helps in creating an emotional bond between two people. Absence of physical intimacy makes it difficult for people to be emotionally attached to their partner. Dr Kamini Deshmukh, Consultant Psychologist, Fortis Hopistal, Vashi, Mumbai opines, "Physical intimacy forms an important part of a relationship and when this is missing; it becomes difficult to form an emotional bond. Hence, most asexual people are afraid of commitment and relationships." Terrible article. Link to post Share on other sites
Nea Rose Symphony Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 My body can get physically aroused and I almost never experience libido and never for sexual attraction and desire. Just my mind doesn't comprehend doing anything with that arousal This guy needs to do more research before publishing anything it sounds like Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 Yeah I personally get physically aroused and have a high libido, I just have no desire to have sex with anyone as a result of my arousal or my libido. There are lots of asexuals (men and women) like me! Also, obviously asexuals can form lasting intimate relationships where we bond emotionally haha.. not desiring sex doesn't make us incapable of emotional intimacy. Sure some asexuals don't want that (just as some sexual people don't!) but not wanting sex does not make us incapable of sustaining a romantic bond. Link to post Share on other sites
Philip027 Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 I think if anything, articles like these are great for highlighting the differences of perspective that the (generally sexual) population has regarding us, compared to our own. Like I often say (and think) around here, many so-called aces here would never be thought of as such by the sorts of people that put these sorts of articles out. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 I think if anything, articles like these are great for highlighting the differences of perspective that the (generally sexual) population has regarding us, compared to our own. Like I often say (and think) around here, many so-called aces here would never be thought of as such by the sorts of people that put these sorts of articles out. The reason the ''generally sexual'' population has a different ''perspective'' than a lot of people in the ace community, is because a lot of sexuals don't understand asexuality and assume it must be a medical condition (low/absent libido) .. ''I mean, if someone has the ability to get aroused, they must want sex, right? If they can't get aroused, that explains why they don't want sex.. But that's a medical condition, you can get help for that'' ..This misunderstanding happens because there is so little accurate asexuality visibility, so it's up to asexuals to educate the vast majority of the sexual population so they know that no, it's not a libido issue. What I'm saying is, it's not a ''difference in perspective'' (especially not in this article) it's a total misunderstanding of what asexuality is. And yes, there are a lot of ''so called asexuals'' here that the vast majority of the sexual population would not think of as asexual, because they are actually just experiencing normal aspects of sexuality (but are confused as to what constitutes ''normal sexual'' due to lack of education in the ace community as to what sexuality actually is) Link to post Share on other sites
Tripp Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 Man, I wish I couldn't get an erection, but sadly it is not so. Link to post Share on other sites
CosineTheCat Posted March 27, 2016 Author Share Posted March 27, 2016 I read it, believe me. Joys about WW is to take the good and the bad and you put them together. David Jay actually posted this on Facebook before I even got to it, he was more happy to see visibility come from India than the content of the article. Although, I have to agree the content itself is quite bad. Link to post Share on other sites
thylacine Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 I didn't think the article was that bad; maybe a little misinformed, but way better than a lot I read these days... Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 6, 2016 Share Posted April 6, 2016 I read it, believe me. Joys about WW is to take the good and the bad and you put them together. David Jay actually posted this on Facebook before I even got to it, he was more happy to see visibility come from India than the content of the article. Although, I have to agree the content itself is quite bad. It's sad when people like David Jay compromise education for visibility. It's like ''it doesn't matter if everyone thinks aces are fucked up and broken because, based on that article, they are, as long as people know that these fucked up broken people who call themselves asexuals exist, that's all that matters!'' ...Not that I expect much more from AVEN... Link to post Share on other sites
Autumn Season Posted April 6, 2016 Share Posted April 6, 2016 I am happy when somebody knows what "asexual" means or at least has heard of the word before. This way the conversation doesn't have to start at zero. Honestly now, I am surrounded by so much prejudice (and I don't think I'm the only one), no matter which social group it is about, that I don't expect anybody to be properly educated about anything, more or less. These videos might make you happier, Pan: Link to post Share on other sites
mocpartner Posted May 29, 2016 Share Posted May 29, 2016 This article is stupid. A 'prominent sexologist' perpetuating such crap by 'Simplifying the state of asexuality' can be misleading. I wish Dr. Kothari stops pathologizing asexuality, and understand that it is a spectrum and different people are at different places on that spectrum. Link to post Share on other sites
m4rble Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 I didn't think the article was that bad; maybe a little misinformed, but way better than a lot I read these days... I agree. I don't think it made asexuals seem sick or broken, it just didn't give a a good definition of asexuality. Link to post Share on other sites
warrigan Posted June 1, 2016 Share Posted June 1, 2016 i agree that the difference between libido and attraction could have been made more clear, but overall i didn't think it was a terrible article. and i think it's important to know what people are saying/reporting on, whether or not i personally agree with it. and my favorite line? "He even tried linking asexuality to birth charts by contacting astrologers and horoscope readers but no one was able to come up with a plausible connection." great stuff. :D Link to post Share on other sites
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