asexualpirate Posted February 10, 2016 Share Posted February 10, 2016 Hey guys!So just recently I've realized that I'm super uncomfortable (most of the time) with physical contact and eye contact. Some days are better or worse than others, of course. Also, the people that I generally get "crushes" (or platonic crushes) on are people who I'm more comfortable with hugging. I dunno, just an interesting thing I realized that I think has to do with my asexuality. Anyone else the same way? (Apologies if this is in the wrong spot, especially to the mod who has to move it) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
PastelPetrel Posted February 10, 2016 Share Posted February 10, 2016 I'm the same way. There are certain people who can touch me (most of the time. When I'm frustrated/upset/am in sensory overload it's like a hard "no" to anyone), but for the most part I'm really uncomfortable with people touching me, and eye contact in general is just really weird for me? I'd prefer to not have to make eye contact ever. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
i_am_me2 Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 cant stand being touched hugged etc unless i feel i can trust the person and it depends on my mood. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kuebiko Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 Definitely feel the same way here. I've been struggling with this for several years and I thought I was just me. I don't know when I started being like that but the aversion to eye contact might have started after I read the thing where if a person makes eye contact with you for more than 5s it probably means they want to kill you or have sex with you. As for the touch thing, I just hate being touched in general. Like Pastel, I sometime have a sensory overload when I'm anxious or tired and have no patience for being touchy-feely. Also it's annoying when people touch me without warning/asking. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Bad Name Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 I don't like to hug and I hate making eye contact so I always just look in a different direction when I'm talking to people... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hannah221B Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 I am also touch averse, however I wouldn't be too concerned about it. I've found that it is very easy to handle in relationships, friendships, etc. Almost everyone I know has been respectful and considerate. (Personally the longer I know someone the more open I am to physical contact) Hopefully this is/will be your experience also and people will respect that you don't want to be touched :) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Slimer509 Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 I will not let anyone touch my skin with their skin if I can avoid it. I hate that. As for eye contact, I'm perfectly fine with it, but I can see how it could be uncomfortable. I don't think the two are particularly related, though I could be wrong. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
seneca Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 i don't like to be touched either. Handshake are fine. I don't know why I don't like it. I've just gotten more sensitive over the years. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
One Winged Angel Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 I definately do not like touch especially from strangers. I mentioned once on the Asexual Men topic that two women at my workplace think it's a good idea to occasionally prod me in the side or attempt some odd tickling manouver when I'm facing away from them. It's deeply uncomfortable to the level where I actually jump/flinch, but they carry on doing it regardless. I can enjjoy hugging though oddly enough. In fact, at an Anime convention not too long ago two men took the "free hugs" rhetoric to heart and gave me a hug becuase they liked my T-Shirt. If they meant anything by this I am oblivious to it, blame the Aceness! I do not like handshakes though and it makes feel extremely awkward. I am never sure how hard to shake, and either feels like trying to break the person's arm or coming across altogether too limp! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lord Jade Cross Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 I get that same handshake awkwardness moment everytime I have to shake someones hand, even though a firm and strong grip is said to be a sign of confidence. I generally absolutely hate being touched. I would prefer a non physical contact form of greeting or interaction. Aside from the fact that you exchange alot more bacteria through handshakes. So if your germphobic, that particular piece of information can be very unsettling. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
cosmosredshift7 Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 I hate being touched when it's anything more friendly than a handshake, no matter who it is. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Member54880 Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 Many here can relate, including myself, though I can tolerate hugs from friends and family. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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