i_am_me2 Posted February 10, 2016 Share Posted February 10, 2016 though i am understanding that asexualiy causes are not well known. so i am wondering if it was my negative childhood that was a determinant. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Member54880 Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 Many asexuals who've had abuse in their childhoods are also concerned about whether that abuse caused their asexuality, or was a contributing factor. Most say that it wasn't, but whether or not you think your experiences were a contributing factor, they don't invalidate your orientation. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
i_am_me2 Posted February 12, 2016 Author Share Posted February 12, 2016 thank you. yes i guess i need to accept me for me no matter what was past. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SpeedinThroughSpace Posted February 14, 2016 Share Posted February 14, 2016 I had/have loving parents, a wonderful sister, and grew up in a household where sex was considered no taboo, but a simple part of the world. My parents have gay friends and openly speak up for gay rights. I grew up being told that sex is normal, but I never felt pressured to have it, either. I have never been abuse sexually by anyone. And yet I ponder if I'm ace. Without any knowledge on psychology, I could imagine someone getting sex-replused due to an experience with abuse, but I don't think they'd completely stop being attracted to anyone. I think it's kind of like when some people say someone being homosexual is down to 'wrong' upbringing. It is not. In fact. there is interesting research on how sexual orientation and gender identity may be down to brain structure (transgendered people's brain having the general 'layout' of their identified gender) and other physical reasons. If you're curious: - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Causes_of_transsexualism - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Digit_ratio It was found out that many homosexual people have digit ratios that are different from their gender's 'normal' values. There were also studies about hormone responses and the like, all of which point at there being actual physical reasons for someone's gender identity and sexual orientations. So, I think it would make sense to think of people being born the way they are, and that would go for asexual people as much as for everyone else. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SpeedinThroughSpace Posted February 14, 2016 Share Posted February 14, 2016 I just meant to say there are many possible reasons, and that it doesn't have to be anything bad like abuse, that it (like many other things about a person), could really just be how they are born. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SpeedinThroughSpace Posted February 14, 2016 Share Posted February 14, 2016 I just meant to say there are many possible reasons, and that it doesn't have to be anything bad like abuse, that it (like many other things about a person), could really just be how they are born. No, you're good. I'm just leaving that reminder for the thread as a whole. It's a bit of a sensitive subject and there's a history of people making generalizations about asexuals this topic is brought up. Phew. Didn't want to tick anyone off during the first two hours or so I'm here. ^_^ Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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