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Greetings!

I am a relatively new member and felt that it was high-time that I made an introduction.

For a long time I have lacked any sexual attraction, but only recently learned that there is an orientation that defines this. I am not indoctrinated into any asexual sub culture; I have mostly born it privately. Not secretly, mind you, just privately. So some terms might go over my head. It took me a while on the chats to gather that 'ace' referred to 'asexual'.

Here are a few things about me.

I grew up in British Columbia, a province in Canada. Due to this fact, most talks about US politics go over my head. Talking about Canadian politics go over my head for that matter as well.

I am a Latter Day Saint. For those unfamiliar with that term, the word 'Mormon' may be more meaningful to you. I'm inactive, but uphold the beliefs the best that I can. I worry that there may be a bit of a culture clash here due to my religious upbringing, which is why I set this card out on the table right away.

I have a bad habit of alienating people. Part of that reason is because, for a long time, I wasn't aware there were so many people that did not experience a lack of sexual attraction. Thus, I didn't even want the beginnings of romance to occur only to have it end with frustration because I'd be unwilling to participate in typical romantic behaviour. I also didn't want to have to explain away why I didn't have a partner, or listen to other people's exploits. Let's be fair; friends /do/ tend to talk about those sorts of things when the mood strikes. I have just been hyper aware that I would not 'fit' with most people... and so I tend to reject them before they can reject me. Or I reject them before they have an emotional investment, because chances are, if someone were to try and push a relationship into a sexual direction, I'd reject them then and there. Really, it's best if I just avoid people. I used to just avoid people of the opposite gender, but now with homosexuality becoming more visible and more tolerated, I began fearing awkwardness from everyone.

Anyhow, I'm here now, I'm hoping to find a place where I can throw sexual programming out the door and enjoy fully cerebral relationships with people.

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Welcome to AVEN! :cake: Thank you for sharing your story with us! I'm glad that you decided to post an intro. : ) You're not alone and will find a lot of people that can relate to you! Don't worry about a "culture clash." There are definitely other religious aces here. Check out the Intersecionality forum; I just found a thread for Mormon aces! Take your time exploring, and ask questions if you have any. I know it can take a while to get used to some terms, but you'll get the hang of them. : ) Best wishes, and I hope you enjoy being a member!

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Welcome to AVEN! I understand the desire to push people away because you think they will just reject you down the line anyways. Hopefully you can find other people here that will accept you for you. I believe you will be able to if you give it a shot because we are a very diverse bunch.

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welcome to AVEN!

you are at the right place to meet other aces and make new friends who feels just like you, so, have fun! :cake::cake:

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Springvale_David

welcome as well. you are aware of the way things turn out for your self. while yes to (own) the feelings and situation. This does not prelude: as with everyone in society in general not only with this community one does ('have to make an effort to integrate') if one wants to live in (any chosen community) include religious community. at least here there are (like minded as your self) even a well helpful suggestion from 'cakeloid' that should set you on to friendly welcoming members. keep looking and stay open and you shall be more happy in time to come. cheers.

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Hi and welcome! Thanks for your intro! This is a great place to make some new friends and feel supported too. I'm glad you joined and hope you love being part of this awesome community.!!! :)

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I thank you for all of your warm welcomes, and am even quite pleased that someone even found a thread relevant to my situation for me. I have always been terrible at searching through forums for some reason.

A good point is made; it is up to me to make the effort to integrate. I can't very well blame everyone else for my own lack of social prowess. But at least here I hope I can feel safe to discuss certain topics, or more importantly, not be called 'immature' or 'prudish' or 'stuck-up' if I /don't/ want to discuss certain topics.

I will probably mostly lurk for a little while before posting in to any other threads. I tend to take my time and wade into most communities. That and I vastly prefer a chat to a forum, which is fine because there is a chat here to. I've already made a few potential friends (I can't call them friends just yet - I have a lofty definition of a friend).

And goodness gracious, that is a lot of cake. Whilst cake itself is not my favorite dessert, I'm terribly weak to resist sweets in general. Shame shame!

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