Velma Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 I know someone who is only sexually attracted to someone if it's totally unreciprocated. If there's any chance at all he might have a shot at the girl, he loses all interest. He claims it's a coincidence. But it's every time! Single and ogling him? Not interested. But if she gets married and moves to China? Love of his life and dreams of her all the time. She gets divorced and moves down the street? No interest. I used to think that he was just sexually phobic but didn't want to admit it- so he only allowed himself "safe" people who he'd never ever get a chance with whatsoever. Then he could just pretend that he had sexual attraction or something. It sounds harsh, but it's frustrating to hear him pine away for some woman he hasn't seen or heard from in a decade. That's current "love" interest. She might as well not exist. In many ways, she doesn't. Who knows what she's like now 10 years later? But maybe he's just wired that way. Who knows? Anyone hear of this? Link to post Share on other sites
ItWasNiceKnowingYou Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 That sounds like lithromanticism/s*xual. The feelings go away once they're reciprocated Link to post Share on other sites
deltaX Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 It sounds like he could be lithromantic and/or lithsexual. I don't identify as lith myself, but from what I understand, it's having attraction without needing or wanting it to be reciprocated. I'd encourage you and your friend to look into it if you haven't already. Link to post Share on other sites
Velma Posted February 5, 2016 Author Share Posted February 5, 2016 Perfect. I knew there was some name for it! Thanks! I was just thinking that it had to be something. He's 100% unreciprocated and I've known the guy forever. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 Moved thread from Asexual Q&A to The Gray Area, Sex and Related Discussions. Nai Asexual Q&A Co-Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
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