JustJordan Posted January 31, 2016 Share Posted January 31, 2016 I recently entered a queerplatonic relationship with two very good friends of mine, while still maintaining the romantic relationship I have had for over a year with my partner. I find it very interesting to see how the dynamics match up, because I have two queerplatonic partners but one romantic partner, as I do not consider myself polyamorous. The two relationships can be very similar, due to the fact I treat a romantic one as a friendship, just with more touch-feely lovey-dovey goop. In both, I am attentive to the needs of my partner(s), give physical affection, and go places with my partners. However, I do not kiss my queerplatonic partners or hold their hands. Instead these are things I wish to only do with my romantic partner. Another interesting tidbit is how the sexualities and genders of us all line up. My romantic partner is aro-spec, pansexual,and agender, and I am both aro- and ace-spec and nonbinary. My queerplatonic partners are both pansexual and romantic, and one of them is a cis girl and the other is nonbinary. I just find it interesting how I managed to be romantic with a non-romantic person and platonic with two romantic people. If anyone is in a queerplatonic or romantic relationship and would like to share their experiences with the dynamics, please do! I love this kind of conversation. Also, does anyone know where the term for queerplatonic partners "zucchini" came from? Link to post Share on other sites
Pi(e) Posted January 31, 2016 Share Posted January 31, 2016 From what I heard, people were making fun of the general lack of terms for a queerplatonic partner, so they made up zucchini as kind of a joke and it stuck. This might not be right though... My queerplatonic partner and I hold hands and hug, but don't kiss. We have a ton of the same interests and like to talk about books, or school, or to cook or dance (or a lot of other things for that matter). We are both asexual. I am somewhere on the aro spectrum, but my qp is not, and has a girlfriend. I'm still trying to figure out what on earth romantic attraction actually is... Link to post Share on other sites
JustJordan Posted February 1, 2016 Author Share Posted February 1, 2016 From what I heard, people were making fun of the general lack of terms for a queerplatonic partner, so they made up zucchini as kind of a joke and it stuck. This might not be right though... My queerplatonic partner and I hold hands and hug, but don't kiss. We have a ton of the same interests and like to talk about books, or school, or to cook or dance (or a lot of other things for that matter). We are both asexual. I am somewhere on the aro spectrum, but my qp is not, and has a girlfriend. I'm still trying to figure out what on earth romantic attraction actually is... Bruh I'm still unsure what romantic attraction is I just use grayromantic because it's the closest to what I feel describes me. But that's and interesting origin to "zucchini". The only reason my qpp's and I use it is because we think it's funny. Full circle Link to post Share on other sites
Amedot Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 I am living with my QPP. We became friends at the beginning of high school and are extremely close. I've always daydreamed about our lives together. Now I'm finally living with her! We've had sex in the past, but not currently and there is absolutely no pressure or initiation on her part, which is really nice. We don't kiss on the mouth or anything, but we do hold hands and we do cuddle (but I cuddle with all my closest friends), sleep in the same bed, etc. I sometimes wonder if it's easier to describe her as my girlfriend to the public, since "friend" sounds silly as we share a bed (and then people think I'm a closeted lesbian), and most people don't understand QPP (and nobody will think zucchini is funny except my zucchini). So yeah, IDK, it's fun. I would definitely have another QPP/kinda do (like a triad of sorts with another friend, also from high school) and I've had sex with her before, too, in the past. Similarities? We're all female. My QPP doesn't really use labels but bisexual/pansexual is the best descriptor. My other friend (who I guess may be a QPP/triad of sorts) identified as bisexual for quite a while and is married to a demisexual man, but she now identifies as a lesbian. Man. Being straight must be so boring. Link to post Share on other sites
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