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How do you feel after masturbating?

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will123
13 hours ago, The Terrible Travis said:

that's probably because you weren't doing it to a bernie sanders speech like i was

Ewwwwww!

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will123
6 hours ago, yourcaptaiin said:

It was to this picture...

Image result for paul ryan muscles

LOL

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The Terrible Travis
6 hours ago, yourcaptaiin said:

It was to this picture...

Image result for paul ryan muscles

no wonder you felt underwhelmed afterwards then

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ChillaKilla

Kinda depends on why I bothered in the first place.

If I did it because of arousal, then relieved (or potentially like I need to do it 1-2 more times, then relieved)

If I did it because I needed to fall asleep (don't knock it, that stuff works!), then usually tired enough to nod off.

 

Regardless of reasons, I'm usually mentally (and potentially physically) worn out, but very relaxed. The oxytocin release makes me really clingy as well, so I tend to burrow under blankets with an armful of pillows for 10-15 minutes after.

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will123
1 minute ago, ChillaKilla said:

If I did it because of arousal, then relieved (or potentially like I need to do it 1-2 more times, then relieved)

Oh to be young again! Once usually is enough for me.

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ChillaKilla
16 minutes ago, will123 said:

Oh to be young again! Once usually is enough for me.

Also to be AFAB :P30-second cool down period FTW

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Nowhere Girl

Not all AFAB people have such a short cool down period. I learned I absolutely can't have more than one orgasm (which is weak anyway) in one session. First, I get unpleasantly hypersensitive afterwards, second, reaching just one usually takes much time for me anyway, and third, almost always my sex aversion expands to full sex repulsion after an orgasm.

From this point of view having a libido really sucks. The act itself is rather pleasant, but orgasm is so overrated and I always feel somewhat frustrated afterwards...

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Dantalion

I just feel like I've completed a chore. Nothing like relaxed or pleased, but not having to fulfill my needs again is good enough for me ^_^

 

Oh, and I almost always have an urge to listen to some music afterwards

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MadeIndescribable

"Kenjataimu - Japanese word meaning: Period of clear thoughts when a man is free from sexual desires after having an orgasm."

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argar

I learned a new word.

 

Thank you!

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Tos

just sort of "ok well that's over with" honestly. i don't orgasm so it's just something to appease my libido until i get bored with it. every now and then i'll feel a little grossed out, but usually i'm just indifferent.

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Shoggoth

About the same. Usually sleepy, these days kinda bored and 'why did I just spend one-two hours doing that?? What a giant waste of my day.'

I typically only do it in the morning when I wake up/right before bed, so like... nap-sturbating? It's more of a habit I'm stuck in than something I enjoy/do with purpose.

Also though, I've either never had an orgasm or it was nowhere near as awesome as everyone told me it would be. Cause I've asked a few friends what it's like/trying to find out if this is a thing my body has done, and the response is always "Oh, you'd know." And that is just so unhelpful. 

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argar

This!

 

Very similar to my habits and very similar to the same results.

 

Although I inadvertently did have an orgasm once, so I tell the difference.

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Ankh-Morpork

Kind of "meh, now I need to clean myself up." And somewhat empty.

 

If you could cut out the actual orgasm part masturbating would be much more fun.

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BritishGentleman

<3

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Robin Mok

I have this fetish that involves nobody in real life and it's not as accepted as BDSM.

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Pixley
On 11/3/2017 at 10:46 AM, Shoggoth said:

About the same. Usually sleepy, these days kinda bored and 'why did I just spend one-two hours doing that?? What a giant waste of my day.'

I typically only do it in the morning when I wake up/right before bed, so like... nap-sturbating? It's more of a habit I'm stuck in than something I enjoy/do with purpose.

Also though, I've either never had an orgasm or it was nowhere near as awesome as everyone told me it would be. Cause I've asked a few friends what it's like/trying to find out if this is a thing my body has done, and the response is always "Oh, you'd know." And that is just so unhelpful. 

"Nap-sturbating." Love that. Makes sense too since I'm the same way, and since doing it any other time feels so shady to me.

 

Although, doing it at these times can still be awkward since I've literally WOKEN UP doing this. But to be fair, I was actually doing it to my leg or my pillow because dream physics. 

 

I have since dubbed it "sleep-turbating". But honestly, I think I prefer "nap-sturbating". 🤣

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NoLongerHuman

Masturbation is really tiring. I like orgasms, but it takes me so long to get there. There is absolutely nothing to stimulate me, I feel nothing when I touch myself, and afterward, I feel disgusting. Sometimes when I'm bored it'll cross my mind, and I used to pressure myself into doing it (this was before I figured out what asexuality was, and it was definitely not healthy), but now I'll just think to myself, "I don't want to," and then everything is okay and I can roll over and continue reading my book.

 

The hype over masturbation is completely lost on me.

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borkfork

Sometimes blissed out. Sometimes relieved or calm. Only dirty in the I'm gonna need to wash my hands sense.

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Jupiter A3

The few times a week I can manage to muster a desire to do so it's usually too short and very unsatisfying. Usually preceded by large expectations; expectations that if I was a normal or functional person I would enjoy this. That if I tried or cared this time I would work normally 

My orgasms feel like almost nothing. I usually get a pleasure spike right before, and then when I ejaculate it's wiped away; replaced by a minimally pleasant feeling, but it's mostly underwhelming. A couple months ago I had an orgasm where I felt actually nothing

As a 25 year old, my libido has shrank and shrank, very noticeably after my last several failures in attempting a relationship, though it was always less than everyone else to begin with. I have never been in a relationship or had a sexual partner. Anyone I've had feelings for has had little or no long term attraction to me.

I used to have more feelings of arousal, but now they are few and far between. I used to regularly utilize porn, but I really have not had the desire this year. I used to fantasize, almost never of anything else than 'generic women x' or something with any real-world identity. I couldn't bring myself to do that, any thoughts generally towards intercourse are met with sickening self-disgust. I presently cannot fantasize at all.

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On 11/19/2017 at 4:19 PM, Jupiter A3 said:

The few times a week I can manage to muster a desire to do so it's usually too short and very unsatisfying. Usually preceded by large expectations; expectations that if I was a normal or functional person I would enjoy this. That if I tried or cared this time I would work normally 

My orgasms feel like almost nothing. I usually get a pleasure spike right before, and then when I ejaculate it's wiped away; replaced by a minimally pleasant feeling, but it's mostly underwhelming. A couple months ago I had an orgasm where I felt actually nothing

As a 25 year old, my libido has shrank and shrank, very noticeably after my last several failures in attempting a relationship, though it was always less than everyone else to begin with. I have never been in a relationship or had a sexual partner. Anyone I've had feelings for has had little or no long term attraction to me.

I used to have more feelings of arousal, but now they are few and far between. I used to regularly utilize porn, but I really have not had the desire this year. I used to fantasize, almost never of anything else than 'generic women x' or something with any real-world identity. I couldn't bring myself to do that, any thoughts generally towards intercourse are met with sickening self-disgust. I presently cannot fantasize at all.

 

From your story, I think you might had a bad experience in relationships. Sometimes people recommend to do some relaxation for maintaining sex health. For example, exercise and social with friends etc. It doesn't mean that you will have organsm again, but just don't let the bad experience drags you down. 

 

The world is not just sexual life

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The Noble War

Like Hell, if I finish at all. Afterwards I just lay there, half naked and hating myself.

 

I usually get disgusted part way through, or when the effort involved becomes too much (low libido). This is a little messed up, but it helps me finish if I hurt myself. 

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Pixley
On 6/27/2017 at 10:02 AM, Grant me grACE said:

I usually feel awesome after, but only do it about twice per month, and typically in the shower (no sweat/stickiness after, and yes, warm shower relaxation bonus). Sometimes I think on it a few days and go, "Nah, it can wait," and then it all builds up to "Okay, this needs to be addressed right now." The first orgasm takes the longest to reach, the second or third feels the best, and then my body feels satisfied for another 2-4 weeks. I don't mind the idea of masturbation or orgasms, but my libido shuts down at the thought of someone else touching me. If I think about that halfway through, it turns me off and I can't reach orgasm, and end up still needing one, and am angry on top of it. Just gotta get there quick, get it done, and continue on with my day.

I actually had to double check I didn't write this because this sounds EXACTLY like me. But yeah, I feel like this particular activity is more like routine maintenance than overwhelming desire (well, at least like 99% of the time, at least).

 

And sexual frustration for asexuals is definitely on this ironic, twilight zone-ish, kind of plane of frustrating. To be asexual, but to still like masturbating, although it's a stupid stereotype, sometimes I do find myself thinking: "Shit. What the fuck AM I supposed to think about?" 😫

 

Ugh. But I can be such a stubborn butt when that happens, that sometimes I've finished OUT OF SPITE. Probably not one of the healthiest things I've ever done. 🤣

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On 11/3/2017 at 1:46 PM, Shoggoth said:

About the same. Usually sleepy, these days kinda bored and 'why did I just spend one-two hours doing that?? What a giant waste of my day.'

I typically only do it in the morning when I wake up/right before bed, so like... nap-sturbating? It's more of a habit I'm stuck in than something I enjoy/do with purpose.

Also though, I've either never had an orgasm or it was nowhere near as awesome as everyone told me it would be. Cause I've asked a few friends what it's like/trying to find out if this is a thing my body has done, and the response is always "Oh, you'd know." And that is just so unhelpful. 

That's pretty much how I phrased it to an AVENite that was struggling to orgasm despite repeated attempts.

 

I never found it helpful in falling asleep if I did it before bed, but at times when I masturbate in the morning, I feel like rolling over and going back to sleep. I'm pretty much drained of any energy to get up.

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will123
On 11/3/2017 at 1:57 PM, argar said:

This!

 

Very similar to my habits and very similar to the same results.

 

Although I inadvertently did have an orgasm once, so I tell the difference.

I don't want to appear prying, you masturbate, but for the most part don't climax/have an orgasm? That sounds 'painful'.

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borkfork

Sounds pointless.

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prib23

10 cc s lighter. According to some factoid by the 1970s band 10 CC that's how much a man should contain in a skeet shoot.

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1 minute ago, prib23 said:

10 cc s lighter. According to some factoid by the 1970s band 10 CC that's how much a man should contain in a skeet shoot.

LOL! I never heard that expanation for the band's name.

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will123
On 11/19/2017 at 12:19 AM, Jupiter A3 said:

The few times a week I can manage to muster a desire to do so it's usually too short and very unsatisfying. Usually preceded by large expectations; expectations that if I was a normal or functional person I would enjoy this. That if I tried or cared this time I would work normally 

My orgasms feel like almost nothing. I usually get a pleasure spike right before, and then when I ejaculate it's wiped away; replaced by a minimally pleasant feeling, but it's mostly underwhelming. A couple months ago I had an orgasm where I felt actually nothing

As a 25 year old, my libido has shrank and shrank, very noticeably after my last several failures in attempting a relationship, though it was always less than everyone else to begin with. I have never been in a relationship or had a sexual partner. Anyone I've had feelings for has had little or no long term attraction to me.

I used to have more feelings of arousal, but now they are few and far between. I used to regularly utilize porn, but I really have not had the desire this year. I used to fantasize, almost never of anything else than 'generic women x' or something with any real-world identity. I couldn't bring myself to do that, any thoughts generally towards intercourse are met with sickening self-disgust. I presently cannot fantasize at all.

That's pretty disheartening.

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will123
4 hours ago, Pixley said:

I actually had to double check I didn't write this because this sounds EXACTLY like me. But yeah, I feel like this particular activity is more like routine maintenance than overwhelming desire (well, at least like 99% of the time, at least).

 

And sexual frustration for asexuals is definitely on this ironic, twilight zone-ish, kind of plane of frustrating. To be asexual, but to still like masturbating, although it's a stupid stereotype, sometimes I do find myself thinking: "Shit. What the fuck AM I supposed to think about?" 😫

 

Ugh. But I can be such a stubborn butt when that happens, that sometimes I've finished OUT OF SPITE. Probably not one of the healthiest things I've ever done. 🤣

I was puzzled by the whole I enjoy masturbation, but have no interest in sex conundrum. Chatting with an AVENite made me worry less about it since I enjoyed it, I don't dwell on it.

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Added the I (in the bold)

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