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How do you feel after masturbating?

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levelskid

For me, I would at first feel relief that the libido is taken care of, as well as the pleasure of the orgasm (not so great really), and then I'm like, well, that was a waste. Body remind me why you need to do this. Body: "I'll show you in a couple days." So how do you feel afterwards: good, bad, disgusted, relieved, all of the above, etc...

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MissLissa

I've never had much of a libido so for me it's like twice a month if I'm really randy. It's enjoyable and afterward I feel relaxed and calm. Its never been like the highlight of my day or anything. To me it's more like peeing, I even have the same thoughts "how long is this going to take". If it happened more often then it did like peeing I would consider it a huge waste of time.

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Syphon

I feel exactly the same as before. There are no lingering feelings of calmness, pleasure, or whatever else.

I've had somebody else try to describe it to me that afterwards, they felt so amazing they wanted to start baking cakes. And I was just like: :huh:

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Sheka4

Ugh afterwards I always feel bored and dead inside

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Vixrotre

Well if it's the first orgasm I feel like I need more. If it's 3rd+ I feel relieved, satisfied, happier, more attractive... Sometimes weak in the legs and with a little blurry vision and thought process.

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Otakon

If the porn is bad i feel horrible afterwards. Otherwise my body feels like it has just gotten out of a roller-coaster ride.

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Sapphire Delvai

I feel wet and unclean and awkwardly uncomfortable.

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Beautiful Chaos

I masturbate generally at night (not ever night), and only during the day if I'm feeling randy or stressed and need to relieve some pressure. Sometimes it feels more like a chore rather than something I enjoy, but not all the time, and most of the time I do feel relieved.

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float on

oops, I did that thing where I "like" posts which I think are especially interesting and that I've read automatically, and not thought about the fact that it might be weird I'm "liking" the content xD

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Abracadabra!

spent

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Marcrunk

It honestly depends. Sometimes it feel pretty good and other times it's pretty disgusting. It just kind of shifts for me.

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Chardog

I used to feel good.. Now I feel upset because I really just wish I could have sex like a normal person (which has nothing to do with being ace and everything to do with being trans). I'm at a point where that's just one more part of me I have to abandon.

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butterflydreams

Interesting responses from people here. Thank you!

I used to feel godawful afterwards when I was younger. It was frowned upon by my parents, so I thought it was bad, but libido was like, "no, we have to do this." I worked so hard over the years trying to learn how to feel ok about it but I never really did. It made me so sad to hear all these people saying how great it was, and how it felt so good, and didn't hurt anyone. Working to understand asexuality, and more importantly gender have been the first things that have really helped me at all. Deep down, I think I knew there was a gender element all along, but I was just not ready to understand it.

I used to feel good.. Now I feel upset because I really just wish I could have sex like a normal person (which has nothing to do with being ace and everything to do with being trans). I'm at a point where that's just one more part of me I have to abandon.

I hear this loud and clear :( If it helps any, I just try to imagine that one day, it will work out, and it will be ok. I don't know how, but it will. That daydream sure beats the alternative. I've always had a very vivid imagination though. When I was a kid, I'd create such elaborate daydreams. I guess it was a form of escapism. But in this case, for now, it's not that bad. If I focus mostly on how good I feel in that daydream, and let myself smile, and feel right and normal for once, it's nice. And who knows, maybe those smiles help keep me going a little bit. Certainly not for everybody, but it might be worth a shot. *hugs*

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J'naii_Planet

I simply just don't feel like masturbating anymore. It doesn't feel good. There is no emotion no pleasurable sensations and the "orgasm" is just a few local contractions. The "sneeze in the loins" if that's the right phrase. I don't know. And then it's off to doing something else.

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Tickman

Thanks for this topic :)

I hate it... While I do, it feels weird and nearly not pleasurable at all. While the Moment there should be an orgasm it feels just horrible (no, not in an organic manner, my whole body feels weird and exhausted) and so much of that nasty glibbering liquid is squirting out of me...

After masturbating it feels so gross... I want to clean me (often I wash my Hands more than 5 Times with an huge amount of soap) an start to hope that the next time will be in a very distant future... But... I have to do it after between nearly a week and a month for the next time...

It wouldn't be so bad if I hadn't to touch me there and nothing would came out of me...

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Panth.

Usually along the lines of "Well thats done with now, time to get something to eat."

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smol grandpa

yeah i usually do it out of boredom, i'm not even going to lie. so it takes all of a few minutes and when it's done i'm like, "wellp, that was fine. i'm bored." and try to find something else to do. eat. sleep. smoke. watch a movie.

on a very, very rare occasion, i'll do it because i actually actively desire an orgasm, and in those cases it's yeah a sense of being "unwound." seriously it happens like twice a year or something.

i'm indifferent even to sex with myself for the most part. when i feel more repulsed, i just don't do it at all.

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Sapphire Rose

I get really really cold for some reason

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Mioav

Sleepy mostly, its a good way of getting to sleep on those days I just can't, my brain tends to stop working properly for a few hours-day after though.

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vronsky

Woody Allen described masturbation as "..sex with someone I love…". Trust Woody.

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FoxPotato

I end up dealing with it once a day because of my libido, but how I feel afterwards?

"Why meeeeeee...?"

Honestly, the whole experience for me is just... ugh, no.

But hey, can't control my body's needs, can I?

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Nai

The same as if I never masturbated at all. Then again, I never "finished the job," I just can't. Masturbating doesn't entertain me, it doesn't feel rewarding, it's just awkward and kind of uncomfortable. So I just stop out of boredom every time I try.

If there's a "right way" to masturbate, I sure as hell don't know it :lol:

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Blakrana

In as much as for myself, I tend to just 'deal with it' as necessary, though the immediate follow up is 'I need a shower cause I feel ick'.

It's just a mechanical chore that has to be done, sometimes.

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dunsmore64

Sweaty

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Mysticus Insanus

Physically relaxed (the tension goes away). Mentally somewhere between drained, annoyed, and disgusted - depending on how I feel that day, in general.

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scarletlatitude

It becomes annoying, like something I HAVE to take care of. And sometimes I get distracted and can't be patient enough with myself to finish it the whole way, which of course makes it more annoying... :\ Afterward I'm just glad that annoyance is gone. It doesn't feel bad or unpleasant, just annoying.

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emma-can

I usually feel mildly grossed out, like after you eat way too much food and are like "ugh, did I really need to do that?" Physically I tend to feel kind of more relaxed which is nice? But it's still an "eh" experience overall.

I think turning myself on by reading (what is essentially) porn is more fun than actually masturbating :/ but I still do it because I feel like I need to.

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