Low Sexual Attraction

[sab7503]

Hey

I noticed that on most of the descriptions for aseuxality out there, the definition is "no sexual attraction". However, every now and then you see somthing like "low sexual attraction". Hmm, I dont know, I have been attracted to people, but it's somthing like, around 5 people total. (I'm 21, female). I dont know about sex with them, dont know if I thought about that. (not really sure how two lesbians do sex anyway, it seems sort of wierd). Also, somtimes I'll experience a "flicker" of attraction (mostly at guys) but it's so weak as to be negliable. But anyway, I did have sexual attractions, and I have looked at and enjoyed porn. Has anyone else had similar experiences with "low sexual attraction"? (or, at times, "normal" attraction that is extremly rare?) I dont feel like I really fit any of the other sexual orientation catagories... asexuality seems to be the best fit. Thus, I am wondering how many others experience somthing similiar?

[The Evil Cashew]

well there is the the hyposexuality (i think have the right prefix there) when you have really really really really really low sex drive.

personally i havent; had any kind of sexual attraction to poeple (or if i did i didn't know it.. though it would probably hit me in the head and i wouldn't know it...) but anyways, the use of a label is a choice. and there are a WIDE spectrum of asexuals... its not a clean cut thing...

sorry its alli have to offer

~Cashew

[Amcan]

I garee with Cashew.

You 'll find you fit in quite well here.

Hyposexuals are those with low sex drive and we do have some who post here.

I know we're not much help, sorry.

[Lady Heartilly]

(not really sure how two lesbians do sex anyway, it seems sort of wierd)

You know, I was wondering the same thing, but I was afraid to ask . . .

[KidKash]

Thus, I am wondering how many others experience somthing similiar?

I used to have sexual attraction, but I don't anymore. It's not the same as yours though. Maybe we can call you a hyperasexual :D; you like, you like?

[Xenon]

well there is the the hyposexuality (i think have the right prefix there) when you have really really really really really low sex drive.

The question is, where is the dividing line between asexual and hyposexual? If asexuality is pure black, and a really strong sex drive is white, hyposexual would be a dark grey. But what would you call a really really dark grey? Say, 99% (where mid-grey is 50%).

Or to put it another way, is there any really meaningful difference between asexual and extremely hyposexual? I post that I have virtually no sex drive; what little I have, I can easily ignore most of the time. To me, that's close enough to "asexual" to call myself one.

[HelloToYou]

Hey

I noticed that on most of the descriptions for aseuxality out there, the definition is "no sexual attraction". However, every now and then you see somthing like "low sexual attraction". Hmm, I dont know, I have been attracted to people, but it's somthing like, around 5 people total. (I'm 21, female). I dont know about sex with them, dont know if I thought about that. (not really sure how two lesbians do sex anyway, it seems sort of wierd). Also, somtimes I'll experience a "flicker" of attraction (mostly at guys) but it's so weak as to be negliable. But anyway, I did have sexual attractions, and I have looked at and enjoyed porn. Has anyone else had similar experiences with "low sexual attraction"? (or, at times, "normal" attraction that is extremly rare?) I dont feel like I really fit any of the other sexual orientation catagories... asexuality seems to be the best fit. Thus, I am wondering how many others experience somthing similiar?

I can't relate to every detail of what you have said, but I do understand the "where to draw the line" issue. I myself have had the same issue. I think I come close to asexual, but I have no idea of whether or not I fit the "criteria." I obsessed over it for a while but then eventually let it go and it's still on my mind, but I ok not knowing for sure... Or at least I try to tell myself I'm ok not knowing for sure.... I really wish that it was just black and white and I fell on the asexual side of things, but unfortunatly, I still have an inkling of sexuality :?....

[sab7503]

Wow, I'm so glad I'm not alone with this. (btw, hyper means over....too sexual, for whoever posted that...I'm no where near hypersexual. Hypo is under.) I guess that yeah, I'm a "hyposexual" but, a very strong hyposexual. The closet catergory to what I feel is probably asexual. I can't really expect myself to be attracted to people...it's about 80% of the time like that. Somtimes it happens though, mostly just a flicker. Other times, it's more emotional (especially with gals). But I've only had one heart beating fast, want to hold her hand kind of crush. And kissing her was good too. But, its so rare. Usually I have to pscyhe myself up for it, and even then it's usually more emotional than anything else. I get the feeling it's way more natural for sexuals and for them it just happens. I guess that's one reason why I always wonder "could it be the antidepressants?" but when I hit puberty, wow was I into masterbation...like every day. It was like discovering candy or somthing.

[Hallucigenia]

I'm currently thinking of myself as a chemically-induced hyposexual (such definitions are, in my case, prone to being erased and replaced with some newer definition). It's not really something I need to be in support groups for, or anything, I mainly just like the people and discussion here. But really, when I did have consistent sexual attraction, it just made life harder.

Remember, orientation (like any other aspect of human personality) is not really made of boxes. It is a several-dimensional continuum. No place on the continuum is actually abnormal unless it's hurting somebody. (And even then sometimes... :? )

[Nazg]

HelloToYou, I have exactly the same problem! I don't think I'm 100% asexual. Hyposexuality seems to fit me right now. (It varies - sometimes I feel completely asexual, sometimes not.)

Though I would want to be a pure-bred asexual. :P

[emmarainbow]

Hey

I noticed that on most of the descriptions for aseuxality out there, the definition is "no sexual attraction". However, every now and then you see somthing like "low sexual attraction". Hmm, I dont know, I have been attracted to people, but it's somthing like, around 5 people total. (I'm 21, female). I dont know about sex with them, dont know if I thought about that. (not really sure how two lesbians do sex anyway, it seems sort of wierd). Also, somtimes I'll experience a "flicker" of attraction (mostly at guys) but it's so weak as to be negliable. But anyway, I did have sexual attractions, and I have looked at and enjoyed porn. Has anyone else had similar experiences with "low sexual attraction"? (or, at times, "normal" attraction that is extremly rare?) I dont feel like I really fit any of the other sexual orientation catagories... asexuality seems to be the best fit. Thus, I am wondering how many others experience somthing similiar?

Well, sorta. Tbh, I put it down to... well - it's not unusual for straight people to be teensily attracted to people of their own gender very occaisionally? (may be a bit wrong here, but I have heard so) So I put it down to that, just a natural if slightly random thing. I also think that when I thought I was weord and was trying to fancy people, it made assume I fancied people who were nice to me/nice looking - I think? Ah well. I'm not heterosexual, and I think I'm much closer to asexual than hyposexual.

[Squick]

I identify as asexual, but I guess I'm sort of messy about it. I fantasize sometimes about someone I'm with (not romantically, just out and about), like him kissing me or me touching him. But it's more like a sort of playful exploration and a controlled thing. I still don't want to actually have sex. My physical drive is just dandy, of course. I masturbate with the best of them.