matiin Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 Hi! i'm asexual,i dont feel sexual attraction to girls,boys etc But.. i can get in love in girls . What i can do :( Link to post Share on other sites
Awkward JoJoeh Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 The only thing you can do is come to terms with this. You've learned that you have no desire to sleep with the opposite sex; that you don't want to be intimate with them and yet, that you still develop romantic feelings for them. Accept that you are this way just as you've accepted that you are asexual. Accepting makes life much easier. After you've accepted this to be true, the next thing is to continue living life as you have been doing. Make no changes. When that time comes that you've created a special bond with a person of the opposite sex (e.g. girlfriend), be open and honest with them about who you are. Maybe even tell them that you're asexual and what it's like for you before you start dating only if you feel like the relationship/friendship is definitely headed that direction. I wasn't too sure how to answer this. Sadly, I'm not wise in the art of "sub-categories under asexuality". There are a variety of sexual/romantic orientations, each with their own meaning, that describe different types of asexuals. I'll provide some links below. And, just to save you some time, I did a quick search and you may be a Heteromantic Asexual: someone who experiences romantic attraction to the opposite gender. LGBTQ Education: https://lgbtq.unc.edu/asexuality-attraction-and-romantic-orientation Wiki article: yhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality Link to post Share on other sites
Archon Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 The only thing you can do is come to terms with this. You've learned that you have no desire to sleep with the opposite sex; that you don't want to be intimate with them and yet, that you still develop romantic feelings for them. Accept that you are this way just as you've accepted that you are asexual. Accepting makes life much easier. I agree with all of Awkward JoJoeh's post, if you identify as a man. (I can't tell if that is your gender identity.) In any case, it's ok to be romantically attracted to women even if you aren't sexually attracted to them. If you do want to date, you can date other aces and it is possible to make a relationship work with a sexual person through honest communication and possibly compromise. Link to post Share on other sites
Rising Sun Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 The majority of asexuals can still fall in love. It's romantic orientation, which is separate from sexual orientation. If you're a boy, you may be heteroromantic asexual, or if you're a girl, homoromantic asexual. Link to post Share on other sites
binary suns Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 I don't really "fall in love" but yet I still want a relationship with another girl someday. I don't want to have sex and I don't even like romance! and while I don't mind if she "fell in love" with me she'd have to be patient while I got used to that, and she'd have to know I'm not about to "fall in love" with her so basically, wish me luck :( Link to post Share on other sites
Ace_Kat Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 It sounds like you are romantically attracted to girls, so possibly heteromantic or homoromantic (depending on your gender)? Link to post Share on other sites
SkyWorld Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 Moved thread from Asexual Q&A to Romantic and Aromantic Orientations. SkyWorld Asexual Q&A Co-Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
matiin Posted December 3, 2015 Author Share Posted December 3, 2015 im male Link to post Share on other sites
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